How to ask Aqua guy for more...

I have been in a FWB situation for several months with a aqua guy. we have a grea chemistry together. He is a aqua sun, venus capricorn if that makes a difference. He is showing signs of caring and wanting to see me more. What is is the best way to say I want to date you?? I know you have to be nonemotional and not clingy in any way. Should I just be direct? I just don't want him to run. I also plan to cut communication if he says he doesnt want more to protect myself.
Thanks for the advice!

Bullgal
Taurus Sun, Venus in Gemini

lol - you do not have to be non-emotional around an Aquarius. C'mon, we're not cyborgs. Just balance that shit out.

If you're friends w/benefits and you get showing signs of caring/wanting to see you more (that's kinda like emotion eh?), your Aqua dude probably already considers you both to be "dating," in the sense of the word. Nevertheless, probably best you go ahead and bring it up in conversation (if you feel a need to place a label on it), preferably tinged with a little humor and/or clever sarcasm.

Taurus and Aqua are known to operate on very different frequencies, so be willing to put in effort and not give up easily, would be my advice.

I'm now going to go kick a small puppy. Good luck!

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As a tau myself whose first love was an aqua, the key to nabbing these freaks is consistency and aloofness. It will take a while for him to accept and recognize his feelings for you but ultimately, be his friend, his best friend and one day, when you least expect it, he will give you the security you desire.

Don't rush it bully. Use your legendary patience and let the man come to you. You started out desiring to be nothing (fwb), give him time to view you as what you truly are...he's fixed too.

Aquas don't mind commitment. Understand that. BUT, what they do hate is being pushed in a corner or being put on the spot.

I agree with what someone said above, he probably already does figure that you 2 are dating, so he might be a little annoyed if he has to verbally say, "Yes honey, we're dating."

Unless this guy has given you reason to believe that he's not the relationship type or isn't looking for a relationship, I think he's expecting for you to trust him that if you both continue to get to know eachother AND actually like what you're seeing/getting to know, that things will go further.

I normally advise people to be as direct as possible, BUT when it comes to Aquas, some situations have to be treated with more sensitivity & caution. I think it's all about delivery; it's all about how you bring something up. If you come out swinging & appear to be someone who wants to know right now & at this second, it might scare him away. BUT not b/c he's knocking you for wanting to know. No, it'd be moreso that Aquas like for enough time to go by before they can even make a decision for themselves whether or not the other person is relationship material. Yes, I know I know, an Aqua's "pace" at figuring that out might be a tad bit slower than other signs, BUT hey, it is what it is.

If I were you, I'd be slick & ease your way into the conversation. Ask him what he's looking for. Ask him what he wants from you & what he expects from you. If he's seeing you in terms of possibly being the type to take home to mama, his answers to those questions will give his intentions away. If after you ask him what he's looking for & he says, "Oh just friends," that's an indication that he's not that into you. Most men are ALWAYs open to commitment; they're just not always open to commitment with just anyone. And there's a different. However, if you ask him what he expects/wants from you & if he says, "I want to continue to get to know you & see where this goes," that's a good sign. It means that although he may not have made the decision YET to wife you up, he's def. considering it!

I agree that if this guy straight up tells you that a relationship is something he's NOT looking for any time soon, that you should pack up & leave. You know what you want & should only chase after the men who are on the same page as you and/or the men who want the same things as you. Finding someone who wants what you want is a heck of a lot better than arguing with or trying to convince someone to be something to/for you that they're not yet ready to do/be.

However, if he tells you that he's ready for or wants a relationship, but yet hasn't wifed you up yet, I think it'd be unfair to bail out on him. Everybody goes at different paces. Some people are actually concerned with thoroughly getting to know the other person before they commit to them. This is a GOOD thing. Someone who actually puts lots of thought into being with someone is usually more likely to stay with that person for a longer time vs. someone who pre-maturely decides to enter into a commitment before really know all they need to know about the other person.

Aquas take love/commitment very seriously. They're "long term" people. They don't admire short-term relationships that are based on lust or that are based on premature attraction. They may not ask you to their partner immediately, even if they really like you, BUT them not asking you yet doesn't mean that they aren't considering it.

Aquas take great pride in knowing that they picked the right person to enter into a commitment with. Remember, there are literally billions of other fish out there that they could be investing their time/energy into. So Aquas like to make sure that they can thoroughly get to know you 1st before they can make you any promises. All they can do is hope the other person will be patient & understanding & bare with them as they try to sort out/measure whether or not a person is considered "worth it" to them.

If an Aqua can sense that someone wants to be with them soooo bad too early, it'll scare them away. They're suspicious of the people who seem to only want a relationship title just for the sake of wanting to be in a relationship. They actually want the other person to spend just as much time testing & getting to thoroughly know them too. Aquas want you to be able to say too that you truly got to know them well enough to make such a big decision.