Just am kinda seeing' an Aquarius ..

I have read alot about Aquarians doing the disappearing act and that they will sometime act the opposite of what they Blah blah blah ..I am a Scorpio female dating or kind of seeing a Aquarius man.
I met this man 6 weeks ago he came on very strong at first we dated 2 times times in the first week chatting and texting then he became very illusive literally no texts and do response to mine ...whatever ... i just stopped texting and life goes on then out of the blue makes contact again on the telephone texting wanting to hook up ..i think but never really saying so ..so confusing and dam frustrating on this goes till now he starts texting again and i just say look here is what i am doing here is were i will be if i see ya i see ya ...and walla to my surprise he shows up and now back again to NOTHING. Its absolutely insane. I am very attracted to this guy and honestly each time i see him i like him more ...when he stops texting i delete his number and really just get on with life thinking he is not going to text again and he is just one big pain in the butt anyway ...but then boom he starts popping up again
it surprised me that he would just stop communication because we will be right in the middle of fairly consistent interactions ...the bang? Oh he is also 14 years my junior i am late 30's he is early 20's just to mix it up a bit ...I AM CRAZY this i know.
.i wanted to add that We never did hook up when he was "eluding" to it and he did again just stop texting and i did also stop texting but only after i told him exactly what i thought with a few choice words...and he seems completely not phased by this ..never brought it up and another time as well ...i also in much politer fashion told him to stick it but that was after he came up with this crazy plan ..and i agreed then at the very last minute he "changed his mind" i had to make adjustments in my schedule , he did apologize and i had to make it clear that i do not just sit around waiting for him to call me all day i am very busy if he makes a date i have to make room for him ...so infuriating..however the crazy part is ..that when i am with him ...i am so stupid and giddy and totally smitten ( which i hate)and so is he (which i like) ..what a mess. anyway any insights would be greatly appreciated.
thank you in advance.
Sweet Scorpio

he is 24.

What is "tree trunked"?
I am 38 and do not want to settle down i am just getting unsettled and i like it that way like my space. he knows this he also knows that i have no hidden agenda to peg him down. I just am confused about all the back and forth. To clarify the whole things a little more and with a little reluctance on my part ...We do not really "date" we have sex we just hook up and have sex we have a plan that we will do something beside have sex but we never do truthfully when we see each other there really is no other option but to get somewhere and FAST so we can do it! so it starts in the car ...u get the picture. The first night i met him i was not even attracted to him , but he just kept talking in my ear all night and convinced me to go with him and really here we are or here I am.

sweet scorpio

...cos everybody knows..(shes a femme fatal!)

I was not lying I never said it was just about sex i said that's what we do. I do like him
or else i wouldn't be fucking him like i do. what i guess i wanna know is (here is more proof i like him) as stupid as this sounds (cant believe i am typing it) sound "do you think he like me ?"

So now the teasing starts well one thing about this forum is its active which is why posted here hoping for a little insight outside of the obvious factors like age.
I was prepared for this reaction seems like the norm for the situation especially with men.

i am not looking for a commitment from him. a wee bit of consistency maybe . I like him you would like him too if you were me ...and thank you for being honest and maybe your right about him being stoked about me being a cougar as you say . Maybe flattering in itself to some but i am not easily flattered . I know what he is getting out of this fully in that respect and he should be stoked as am I . But your position is its all about the score nothing more. well i suppose i will have to see as smitten as i am with him i am not in any position to be terribly hurt , disappointed probably.

Hey, Sweetscorpio.

I'm an Aqua with an inconsistent Scorpio man!

In my opinion, this is not a sign thing. This is one more case of a woman settling for something less than what she wants. You don't ask for more, you don't expect more, you don't get more. Its really that simple.

While you keep saying all of the right things to him, you're not standing by your own words...so why should he take what you say seriously?

Stop having sex with him, then you'll find out if he really likes you.

Posted by ScorpioDreamer
Mine started out much the same....meeting up for sex. Absolutely no dates. That's just the thing though, you want consistency with these men? Good luck! Two fucking years and I still don't have consistency. They do what they want to do on their own time PERIOD!

Wow,I thought Scorpio women were about all or nothing,at least from the descriptions where you hear about all the trials they put their partner before they deem them worthy to give their body to.

What if he is seeing other girls hence the inconsistancy and then when he's bored or not getting anything new he comes around knowing that youre up for it anyway?Im just wondering if youre cool with that?

Sorry that was directed towards you.That reminds me of a Scorp girl I met before..and whoa what a headwrecker she really is.I think..what she wanted or wants is an arrangment where her 'feelings' are respected as if in a relationship but without any commitment of course..and I think deep down she is a shallow entity who only cares about herself and disguises that by somehow playing the victim or being unsure..

but Im not sayin you are like that..its just the two years thing thats all

I better stop hijacking this thread and get some sleep..there's people here in urgent need of advice on 'how to play and not be played'jk ha ha ha g'nite

I dont think i am his spare he is an odd looking fellow very tall awkward and my first impression was no impression at all i did not give him a second glance or thought. When i eventually left with him my girlfriend was like "are you kidding me?" but who knows he is one strange dude i could be playing spare to any number of things period . bottom line i think is that really i am not good at casual sexual encounters not with him not anyone it is all or nothing with me . that the end of it . Will i tell him so ..No i'll just ignore him and never answer another text again and when i see him out I will ignore him . Dust in the wind .
Sweet Scorpio

I by the way have no regrets we learn from everything i was not played i wanted the same thing it was alot of fun , and now its over.

Posted by candyapples88
Stop having sex with him, then you'll find out if he really likes you.

Yep!!

Not even at 30 do some mature. My friend will be 50 and has yet to have a marriage or relationship that last longer than 3-4 years. of course its everyone else's fault. LOL

Um stop having sex with him? LMAO. I really was just curious where his head was at i would have no interest in him at if it were not for the sex. I am sticking to plan of moving on. Even under the best of circumstances he is way too flighty and all over the map for me it. I am goal orientated and like to live with order and routine it keeps me sane. Besides the sex the whole thing is not producing any positive results.
sweet scorpio

oh and by the way thanks for all the insights it really did help me sort it all out in my head .
Sweet Scorpio

Just an observation, Katie, but this is the second time I've seen you kind of butt heads with someone. Both times it seemed to me that you first made remarks than could easily be construed as rude, but when some responds to you in the same way you don't seem to understand why. Like it came out of the blue or something.

Just something I've noticed as an outsider. You can tell me to mind my own business. I just thought you might not be aware of it. I know i dont always realize what I put out there and I appreciate it when someone points it out.

Hehe, well they say knowing is half the battle, right? 🙂

Oh! Am I a third decan?!? Who knew?! I see you're right though! I'm going to have to google that.

Hey...nothing greater than being a loyal friend, but the thing is everyone in that thread was trying genuinely to help ScorpioDreamer. I don't recall what Aquanot posted, but everything I've ever read from her is kind, caring and gentle. I don't think a fly would need to be defended from Aquanot! 😉

And like TOC said...she was just giving her opinion on the matter. Examples and such.

LOL on Kyrsenes long posts! I love her viewpoint, but damn it...I'm always forced to scan her posts due to my very short attention span.

No joke...I did not see anyone ask me why I broke up with my Libra. I would never shy away from answering anything. I'll happily answer the question if you can remind me which thread its in.

I'll have to think about the why actually. It was a great relationship...I still hold him very dear in my heart. I'll always love him and hes recently told me the same thing. Why? Hm. Thats a tough one. I'll have to really think about that. (Or ask him if he can pinpoint it.)

In fact, we recently began spending time together and got quite close to getting back together. The reason we didn't I think is because I'm DEEPLY IN LOVE with a Scorpio who I've been seeing on and off. And the Libra began seeing someone else. It didn't affect our friendship at all. Still very strong.

By the way, our relationship was 17 years ago so thats why I'm having a tough time remembering not the 'why'...but the real cause.

Ok, see, you've already got me alllll wrong. There is nothing free about me! Sure, i can see how it looks that way from the few sentences i wrote about it, but if you knew the details...i am about as far from free as a person can get. Unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean by free.

I would be 100000 percent deeply committed, loyal and devoted to Scorpio if he ever mans up! He knows this. But he had disappeared for a bit and I got tired of waiting (i had been doing nothing but waiting for two and a half years at that point) and i was going through a hard time and my Libra was there for me. Although we had a great time together, my heart belongs to the Scorpio. I just wish it didn't.

I contacted my Libra...he's going to try to call me later so i can get his take on the breakup!

Lol!!! Oh yeah! I forgot about the 'successful' relationship rule! Hehe, that was too funny.

Um..well I'm pretty happy alone, but I have never felt about anyone the way I feel about the scorp. He's loving one minute and gone the next. Were still in trying to make it happen, I think. I haven't lost hope yet. But you're right. I can't be with anyone unless until I let go of the scorp.

My moon and Venus are in Aries.

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Posted by Shadows
Lol!!! Oh yeah! I forgot about the 'successful' relationship rule! Hehe, that was too funny.

I didn't know the aqua board was such an elite club!
Hahaha

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Hehe, honestly...that was just so far out I couldn't even find the words to express how I felt! Hehe, good stuff.

Hehe, hell to the no I'm not being clingy! Far from. In fact twice i said i must be a pain in his ass and aggressively told me that was far from true.

His moon is in Capricorn and his Venus is in scorpio.

If you only knew how sweet I've been! This Monday i sent him a personal evite for a movie night this Saturday! I said it was a byoehash. Event!

Bring your own...

Eyes so I can look into them
Hands so I can hold them
Arms so they can hold me
Shoulders so...well just cause they're so damn sexy
Heart so I can feel it.

As always...feet are optional.

He loved it!

Lol....oh, ScorpioDreamer! You're always looking at the brigh side of things! 😉

Sorry, girl. That was directed at your first post. 🙂

where do you got to find all this info about all the other planets man alive ? my moon sign is Sagittarius that all i know.

Thanks.

I hope cafeastrology pays dxp for all the advertising we do!

Abso-effin-lutely!!! 😄

Update ...I did cut him off in every way hadn't heard from him since January and now after all this time he texts me one day saying he was going thru his contacts and happened to come across me. We chat back and forth a bit over a few days catch up on what's new . Then i get a text "i miss you" so i was like that's very interesting really considering i don't hear from you for months and u just happened upon my number will you were sifting thru your contacts! anyway so i just ask him point blank what is your interest in me? be a big boy to match your big dick and just shoot from the hips! now here we are again to nothing he's gone and hid in his little shell cause he is afraid of everything and anything that evokes any feeling in him and he is expecting me to chase him? not likely Jesus Christ why is so difficult for him?

new update he is actually communicating now but honestly its not up to snuff he is its too much work. He is too young for me i admit it.

someone said "be honest" ?....thats all its been months since all that transpired and its done. I had sex with because i wanted to and have no regrets over that at all it was great fun. I haven't had sex with him since and i have told him no in my last post i stated he has come back again but he is not communicating his thoughts or feeling in a straight forward manner fine he doesn't have too. You address an issue he runs and hides then come back like nothing ever transpired thats what he does why he does it ? don't know don't care. I am done with it. end of story. he can text and call and say whatever he wants now i am not interested anymore. I admit i was very taken by him he is funny and unique and very interesting we had a good connection I was never asking for commitment. I was expecting my time to be respected when you make a date stick to it arrive in a timely fashion and i was wanting to be honest and straight forward with each other ...dropping on and off the face of the earth randomly pisses me off. I spent a fair bit of time trying to figure it out he intrigued me and the connection we had was intense so I hung on a little bit because i felt it was worth exploring and I did as much as it was possible with me.
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