just friends?

Is it possible that an aqua man would deny his feelings just because he's scared of getting into a relationship and losing you as a friend? I made the move on him and he said he didn't want to lose me and that he didn't feel that way. We spend a great deal of time together and I thought I was interpreting his signals correctly but he completely threw me for a loop. I'm a cancer by the way. Thanks for your help 🙂

He's not denying his feelings...you misinterpreted his feelings,I believe he told you his truth, he clearly stated he didn't feel that way and I believe he meant it. Does it mean he hasn't thought about it? I'm sure he has but I'm also sure he would have much rathered he be the one to initiate any physical contact beyond friendship.

they like to be the one who initiates the relationship. it means they are in control of the situation and they like to set the pace for that, even if it takes 10 years to finally say they love you.
its their way or the highway

to tiki: Thanks for your thoughts. Part of me thinks your completely right, but then my other half knows that it can't just be that. I think it's that other half thinking that won't let me get over this. I don't think I'm ready to get over it. Especially since I see him all the time and he is one of my very good friends, which makes it incredibly hard. Our friendship has oddly become even stronger since this happened, and we do have a short sexual past that occurred before we really got to know each other, but it ended as we were to be apart for a few months.

and because of this, to the second comment: if this is the case, how long should I keep waiting? I think I'm going nuts.

"and because of this, to the second comment: if this is the case, how long should I keep waiting? I think I'm going nuts."

You never WAIT, never ever, you live your life, create such a great life that you just don't have time for men that ONLY want to be friends...as soon as a man says I want to be friends, I just want to be friends, you don't say another word, YOU GET OUT OF THERE, you don't talk to him, you don't email him, you don't text him....you get on with your life, men play this friendship BS to manage you down to get his relationship on his terms...get your energy out of his life...

Go have fun, date other men (no sex) listen men don't want a woman focusing 200% on him that's too much pressure on him and it's unattractive, it makes you feel cheap as if you have no life, as if your low budget, no man wants a cheap woman and I don't mean cheap and easy as in sexual, I mean cheap and easy as in too available, too accomodating, too nice, too friendly, too have it your way it's burger king, too EVERYTHING UGH! He's a man and he wants to yearn and chase for you, he doesn't feel attracted to women that only have him as her only option, he wants to feel like he has a woman EVERY man wants.

Go have some fun, let go of the fairy airy fairy tales that if a man isn't instantly attracting you that he's not desirable, BS, go create connections, stop falling in love with emotionally unavailable men and if you just have to be in love with a man that isn't ready for your love, then be in love but yet get on with your lives....stop torturing yourselves, this man said to you he isn't feeling it, GET YOUR ENERGY out of their, find another guy to hang with, he can't want you if your always in his face, make him miss you, make him miss your friendship, let him look for you, yearn for you, make him make an effort, PULL YOUR GOODS OFF THE SHELF and become an in demand kind of woman, he's not feeling romantic because you are his friend, stop being his friend....hard yes but your never going to get what you want if your sitting around playing the good always there got your back friend, that's not inspiring him to want YOU, your only inspiring him to want your friendship.

Go have fun, date other men (no sex)
damn tiki, I thought you said 'sex compulsory'!!!



We spend a great deal of time together and I thought I was interpreting his signals correctly but he completely threw me for a loop. I'm a cancer by the way.

what sort of signals? he's being honest with you I think...the problem with trying to interpet signals is that it means completely different things to different people...if you want to know, instead of interpreting, might be better to just ask what things mean, no?