Inhumane, unhumanitarian Aquarian behavior

I am shocked but wanted share something that has come to my knowledge over the months.

An Aquarius male acquaintance who really likes this woman has actually let his ego become so huge and his fear become so big, that he has let her become HOMELESS. She apparently is living covertly in a basement storage room of some building where he put her boxes (how gracious of him...NOT) and left her to live. He tells me that he is afraid that if he lets her into his apartment they will become a couple and his freedom to go do some things will be gone. He told me he actually told her where she can get a free shower during the day and no one would notice. He said he feels bad for her but he thinks she will eventually get a new job and get on her feet financially and be okay, then they can be friendly again. I asked him if he is at least talking to her, has he seen her lately and he said he "can't bear to take her phone calls or text messages anymore" and told her he would change his number if she contacted him again. Then he said he later felt bad about that but "at least she stopped calling his number begging for him to take her in" and "driving him crazy". He also says he is sure when she gets back on her feet (miraculously?!) she will be in touch with him. He has confidence they will always be friends.

As I told my boyfriend, I seriously want to put my foot up his grrrrrr! I am also thinking I want to ask my boyfriend if we can take in this woman and let her sleep on the couch.

This is Aquarius male coldness and aloofness like I have never seen before. I told him he is building some seriously bad karma for himself. He shrugged his shoulders.

meh

- where did she live before she met him?

- wat do you think the humanitarian attached to Aquarius characteristics mean?

Hmmm, I have a cell phone and use a prepaid thing I add twenty bucks to maybe once every 5 or 6 weeks. I do not use it much. I hate cell phones! LOL. But that is not the issue. If she had money I am sure she would be somewhere, even a fleabag motel. The horrible thing is that this man is so obsessed with himself and cold in his heart that he let someone he wants to remain friends with become homeless. My gawd, if I only had a floor for someone and throw rug, if I knew someone was becoming homeless I would not move them and their boxes into a basement to secretly live, and advise them where to sneak a free shower. I think something is seriously wrong with this man's soul.

well you can pray I guess...other than that, see him in hell I guess.

It is not a sign thing I don't think.

Let this be a lesson to all of you...DO NOT DATE AN AQUARIUS; ONLY DATE PISCES =) hehehe

zenal, I do not have all the details I think as I have only started to really ask since I realized the extent of the situation. Apparently they have known each other about 2 years, and she became seriously ill, recovered, but lost her income and savings to her medical treatment, and now lost a place to live. He says she is "smart" and will get another job and get on her feet in several months.

Well humanitarian to me means having an interest in and helping humanity and its progress but clearly he cannot handle one individual human being needing his help, phew!!

I guess I am sad also, besides being shocked.

Yes you are right of course. I am going to try to get the address of that building where he dumped her and her boxes and see if we can take her in for a while. I have some friends in social service who can perhaps find some way to help. Now my Aquarius had better have the right answer when I say I am thinking of taking her in, LOL. I cannot hanle two cold mean Aquarius males. Nah, I am rather sure he will agree; he did not say anything but shook his head several times when I told him the story.

I guess this is a lesson to anyone who intends to move in with someone without collateral

Well humanitarian to me means having an interest in and helping humanity and its progress but clearly he cannot handle one individual human being needing his help, phew!!
Humanity, not one person 🙂
Anyway, I think it mainly means they think big terms and ways to make the world more civilised - it doesn't really mean they give their pennies away anymore than any other sign...

Yeah zenal....

some day when he is down someone will kick him too...yet if he told her no once and she kept begging and asking him then really he had the right to cut her off, she should have took the no as a no and ceased contact with him, I wonder if he was intimate with her and then back pedaled once he realize he was feeling obligated to offer his bed and home more than he really wanted to

Moon in cap does suck.

Does this person have actual family?

I have helped people before and It never turned out well, I dunno why she would be constantly asking him to help unless he gave the impression that he would and therefore she bugged him so much about it that he decided to cut ties, hopefully it will motivate her to get her act together and ditch his friendship

well she's being Virgo and critical just like Evan there's criticizing my moon

oh and evan that was my sun talking.
moon would have definitely wanted to say the socially acceptable crap.

oh well, could be worse - could be moon in cancer - exhibit a: angryscorpdude

see this is what I am thinking
where's family ? no family ?
where are friends ? ok, does she even know the woman well ? will you take a person you don't know well into your home ? with your man ? drama central ...

erm, so much more could be done than being on dxp... start a collection for her, go to churches around, shelters, her cv/resume distribution...

she's not giving the details as she says he's an acquaintance.

I put in a call to my Aquarius acquaintance but have not heard back from him yet.

But to clarify the details so they do not get lost in the postings

1. The woman is supposedly his friend (who he actually has romantic interest in). They have known each other 2 years he says. He has not said anything derogatory about her personality, not siad she is mentally ill, etc

2. She became seriously ill and spent all her savings on her medical treatment and lost her job due to the illness. My impression is it was cancer/that she is surviving cancer, but has no income or insurance now.

3. Not everyone has family (parents, siblings, children). LOL, and many who have family may as well not have any as not all families help each other

3. Instead of taking her into his place, because then in his eyes they would be a romanitc couple, he felt it was right or safe or something to put her boxes of her belongings in a basement for storage and told her he thinks she can sleep there among the boxes and no one will know, and that she can shower somewhere nearby for free.

4. She called him/texted him several times begging for him to take her in since she has been living in the basement storage.

5. He feels she will get better soon, get on her feet and will not need his help.

My impression is that this Aquarius feels guilty but he mentally talks himself out of helping her. WHen he was telling me about it, it was as though he was trying to so while/by talking to me. He focused on not being ready for a romantic relationship with her, as he was talking to me. I cold not figure what a relationship had to do with a sick friend becoming homeless and living in a basement, LOL. His not taking her in seems to have to do with his thinking that once she gets on her feet...he could actually approach her for a relationship. He thinks she will be interested.

I do not think they will make a good couple. I mean what would she tell the children one day..."Well there was hte time when I fell ill with XXX, lost all my savings, insurance and job and became homeless. You father put me and my boxes of stuff in a basement and guided me to a free place to shower. When I got better, got a new job and was able to get a place to live again, your father came and confessed how much he loved me..."

I will post any more details I get and I am going to see how I might help. A friend has a garage apartment she no longer uses and I may give her a few months rent to get the woman through the winter. I need more details...

So I take it her job didn't offer disability benefits? What kind of job did she have that she didn't have disability benefits? Short term and Long term is usually offerred to employees and there is a thing called a couch but in all honesty if he feels he shouldn't then there really isn't much anyone can say or do about it

Many people live paycheck to paycheck in life and do not have all the benefits and support they should. I know many who have no benefits at all...quite common. Not all of us are fortunate.

I still cannot find justification for putting a person and her belongings in a basement storage and telling her where to get a free shower. It IS monstrous.

Well he could have moved her in used her up and threw her out, there are worse things that he could have done, him not wanting to be directly involved is better than him misleading her

You mean him losing self control and raping her or something?

No I meant he could have slept with her, spent time with her, let her use his home as long as she gave him what he wanted and that to me is even worse, being used by a man for a place to live, he lacks empathy and doesn't want to help her which is his right but to expect to be friends afterwards is beyond my comprehension

Were I'm from people do this all the time, men take in helpless women and it never turns out good, the woman ends up moving from man to man, home to home thinking thats better than being in a shelter...

Well have been put in touch with the woman. She is simply down on her luck. We are paying for 4 months rent on that garage apartment (through April), and have helped her move in.