Just want to say...

...that aqua men are like children. Pouty children.

Boundaries. A mind-screw was attempted on me yesterday, and I flipped it on him. They reeeeeeeeeeeeeaaally don't like it when you don't react/get mad/act indifferent and instead are mature, confident, and normal.


I mean really. Mind-screw me? Laughable. It was a decent attempt though. Sucks for him that I know it when I see it.

I don't understand the point of being a permissive parent with them...then they just walk all over you, don't they? I mean I am an Aqua, and I LIKE IT when people have boundaries. It makes me respect them.

I was paranoid. Read more into it then there was. *embarrassed*

A LOT of our problems, and there really aren't many, boil down to miscommunication. I will admit that I am VERY paranoid about being used (and yes, Leokitten, I have no fear to say what I want to say, and have, it's fine, it's really about me being mis-trustful) and I have a BIG

Whoops accidentally hit Enter...anyway, I have a TERRIBLE time trusting ANYBODY, which is due to other past circumstances. I will always hit the auto "they are trying to mind-screw me" button before I even think about the situation.

And no, it's not making excuses. We have both talked about it, he is very open, and while he may be impulsive, he's pretty mature about talking about stuff. The problem is that we kind of "glide" with our communication, then something will happen, and we're both like "hey! how did that happen? i didn't mean it that way, here is what happened, i felt this, x, y, z, yada yada yada"...and it all gets talked out. All in all, it's just getting to know each other, feel each other out, etc.

He is a bit possessive, but not overly really. Probably, if I had to name a complaint right now, it would be that he has a bit of a double standard when it comes to certain things. He'll get irritated by something, then realize he has no right to be irritated, then apologize.

I am the queen of distance, UC. I think it trips him out. The thing is, we work well together because his need to be "out there" doing his job, his life, etc. works WONDERFULLY with my own same need.

I don't know if the women are different, but I HAVE TO HAVE "me" time...a lot of it. Just the way I am, always have been, always will be. But our needs mesh well, so it's a good thing. He's very much an aqua and so am I...

"Yes, of course, but there will come a time when you have to face the fact that you both need intimacy as well and I realize how difficult that can be for you aquas. They want it, desperately, in some ways, but also find it desperately hard to understand how to create it, experience it, and enjoy it...so I think sometimes they just give up, raise their hands, and say, "Oh, well, I'm just an aqua who needs a lot of ME time." Meanwhile, they try to keep every moment of their time filled with some activity or another so the loneliness inside won't be flashing at them like a big neon sign."

Yea. So far, it's worked out ok. We need intimacy, we just don't need a ton of it.