Ignoring the silence of an Aqua man

Most of my friends are aquarius, my ex is an aquarius as well. I see there is a huge difference between my aqua female beahviour vs the male one. Now, my aqua man has pulled away in one of his commitment phobic stunts a month ago, right after Xmas, and I believe it was all related to a family member's comment on how I am like part of the family now and how they appreciate me. (go figure)
He has some things here at my place and despite the fact he mentioned two weeks ago he would oick them up and I agreed, he has now disappeared in silent mode and I have not heard from him since. I have decided not to call him anymore, unless he does. It is not just pride, but I think he would call once he is out of his current mood.
My question is> have you experienced the aquarian silent treatment? And what is best for me to do, to get him to come back and talk to me?
My aqua friends, and this was kind of funny, all said he is probably thinking a lot and me being silent is a good strategy...
do you agree?
Please share with me some of your experiences.

Definitely thinking.
Give him time.

Real love is unconditional. As an Aquarius yourself, you should be able to detach. Detach yourself and busy yourself with your life. He's busying himself with his.

But I hear you on the male/female difference. I think it's the emotions/hormones. I find it very, very hard to verbalize my emotions, or to recognize them, or even feel them. Hell, most of the time all I feel is panic because that's where emotions send me.

But if I were you I would just detach and relax. I think he is thinking as well.

Even if he is thinking....does it make it okay to ignore this tpye of behavior? I am dating an aqua...well, at least I think that's what we're doing...but of course he probably won't verbalize that one for a long while! WE have been dating for about 4 months..we've had some space apart, for a couple of weeks without seeing eachother or me not hearing from him...but so far, he hasn't pulled a true disappearing act on me...last week, we made some groundbreaking progress...he opened up to me one night, and didn't come out and say he liked me, but for him, expressed a lot of feelings...he left the next day and will be vacationing for the next week...my fear is that because he finally opened up a little, is he going to get himself completely freaked out and just disappear? From what I've read, it's totally possible..and so if they do this, and you give them space, how do you address it when they come back around? It's not right to not address it...I think it would be normal to at least say, hey, where have you been for the last few weeks? Or explain that it didn't make you feel comfortable that they just took off...it's seems like it should be very unacceptable to do this...or do aquas come back around and explain what they have been doing or thinking for weeks?

ALWAYS meet silence with silence..he started it.

sakesumo -

"Even if he is thinking....does it make it okay to ignore this type of behavior?" ----> no, in my personal opinion, no! People can "think" (this seems to be an occuring thing of Aquas lately....he has disconnected himself - it is okay, he is "thinking" - i think this is nothing but an excuse actually) all they want however, if they (the man who has "suddenly" disappeared) KNOWS he needs time for reflection or to "think" then if he truly cares about the relationship and the person to whom he is involved with he would let her know of his intentions. By doing so he is thinking of her and sharing his world with her = good communication.

Also, I feel that it is important for you to feel comfortable enough in ANY relationship to speak your truth, your feelings. right now, his actions do not feel good to you and you are now questioning yourself - why? I will share with you why.....Mr. Aqua has all of a sudden disappeared - usually when someone does this sort of action/behaviour they are attempting to gain control over you and the situation. So far, by what you have written in your post it is working....you are loosing yourself to this man - you are allowing him to continue with his behaviour. How are you doing this? because, when he leaves for however long with no contact - you allow him back in as if nothing has bothered you - also by being "available" to him on his return. I say, the next time he does his little "circus" act...let him go because truly you have no control over what he does, but you do have control with what YOU do. Don't be sooooo quick to take him back, move on with your life, be busy - why would you or anyone want to entertain someone in their world who plays these vanishing games without consideration for the other person? *this is not HEALTHY behaviour ladies!

"my fear is that because he finally opened up a little, is he going to get himself completely freaked out and just disappear?" -----> notice how you have used the word, FEAR in your sentence? in a healthy relationship you will not be feeling this feeling of FEAR - what you will feel is a sense of SAFETY and TRUST.

"I think it would be normal to at least say, hey, where have you been for the last few weeks? Or explain that it didn't make you feel comfortable that they just took off...it's seems like it should be very unacceptable to do this...or do aquas come back around and explain what they have been doing or thinking for weeks?"-------> I agree 100%

with what you have said. Let me ask you, why are you questioning your beliefs? YOU know who you are, what you want and now for some reason...(i think you know that answer) you are doubting yourself, your values and your power as a woman.

For heaven sakes...girls - find your POWER and DO NOT settle for less than what you deserve - know how you want to be treated and expect that, if a man/woman cannot step up to the plate then move on cuz if you don't, you will be nothing but miserable for dishonoring yourself.

*people will treat us the way we ALLOW them to. Be responsible for yourself and your actions.

Well said!