Long distance relationship w/ aqua male

A year of no physical contact with words of love in the picture spells commitment phobic man, sorry sweety but he's not going to match up to the ideal of his online persona and I'm not knocking it though, most of us have fell for an online persona, Mr.Perfect Unavailable Man, the very fact that you tried to end the friendship is your inner voice letting you know something inregards to this guy isn't right, yet he yo yo'd back in because he can't commit to leaving and he can't commit to letting go, classic sign for emotionally unavailable, the momement you want the REAL DEAL he's pulling away by saying we may never meet...my advice is to let go because he's not real but again I know how these things go, do the best you can because your going to need all the inner strength you can to let go of this one

Just an FYI to all the ladies talking to these slick online personas...he's this way for a reason, he has practiced and practiced and he he's selling dreams, it's up to you to buy his dream persona, it's euphoric and intoxicating, enjoy it but don't buy it, look at as a nice product something you wanna try out but don't necessarily wanna buy and take it home...the moment you buy is the moment you will have buyers remorse, it feels safe and it feels good but its NOT real and it never will be, even if you meet him a couple times, he will eventually withdraw because it takes hard work to live up to a fake persona and most just either disappear or try to manage down your expectations by throwing obstacles in the way to either frustrate you to leave or to water down your expectations, so distance is PERFECT for Mr.Emotionally Unavailable, its one obstacle for a woman and there are many more, next its the ex factor, its the I'm confused factor, its the I can't leave or let go factor...many more obstacles but thats just a few

Being in love comes with time and it means being around a person in real life...

lemme hip some of you to something, these men, men like your Aqua are magical with contradictions, they throw around the word love, friends yet in the same breath he implies it will never ever be which keeps you focused on him to try and gain that elusive relationship, its a full play with words, they use words to throw you off, for instance he used drama against you by making you feel LESS so you wouldn't push the issue of abandoning the relationship, and realistically he's DRAMA because if he really cared for you he would EMPATHIZE yet he devalued you which means he's TOXIC, he transfers his feelings onto you and its so subtle the woman says maybe I am being sensitive and dramatic, they use your shortcomings to DISTRACT you about the issue of HIM giving more of himself, thus you stop thinking about why he doesn't want more of a commtiment and your completely focused on what he said, completely focused on being a drama queen, he has this way of making you doubt yourself, you will begin to watch what you say and I hear women say I feel like I'm walking on egg shells when I communicate with him which means the guy is selfish and only wants what he wants, thus the women begin to feel insecure and in some cases insignificant as if her needs, wants doesn't count

Mr. Unavailable is available AS LONG AS your not treading upon anything that doesn't feel right for him, so yes you can call him anytime and text and have what seems to be full exclusivity but IT'S an illusion because the minute you say I want more he's GONE or he's devaluing your needs so he can manage you back to were he can have it his way with you, if you really look at it logically, its always on his terms thus at any time if he chose he could cut all communication and you would be the one that suffers for it

This is why some men love love love the internet, its an illusion world full of delusions and what if's, the men know all your business, he know your fears and insecurities and instead of nurturing you to help you heal, he actually uses your loneliness and needs, your need for a relationship against you, he uses it to keep you being his egotistical supply, he uses you to keep his illusion of himself going, he doesn't leave because he needs you more than you think but its not a need of love, its a need of holding up HIS IDEA'S OF HIMSELF, its a need of getting his ego fed...he lets you believe that its love all the while it's just a need of pure selfishness on his part

No disrespect USC, I hear what your saying but in my eyes those are excuses, men that are serious MEET the woman before saying I love you, there are some cerebral men that feel safe with ONLY friendship, anything other than that scares the living hell out of him, he can always say why are you behaving like this or that, we are only friends, frienship becomes the relationship OBSTACLE just as the distance becomes the relationshp OBSTACLE, this is a sure sign of commitment phobia

hell he don't know the girl from a can of paint, there are many red flags in her post, women MISS and MISTAKE these red flags because women aren't sure of what these signals mean, he is UNAVAILABLE, I bet my life that if she pushed him to meet up, he would disappear or water down ie attempt to manager her need to meet, by discouraging and criticizing in some cases assisinating her character, stop being needy, stop being clingy, stop pushing and rushing stop acting dramatic, we will eventually meet, I need time, I need this or that...it would be excuse after excuse...he's emotionally and physically unavailable and he has no need to SWITCH to being available by meeting if HIS needs and wants are being met

typo...meant to say manage

You have no CHOICE but to accept it, he's not giving you more because he's getting his relationship which is friensdship, the moment you want more he's devaluing ie putting down ie managing your wants which means he controls the direction of the relationship plus DREAM is the key word, he loves the DREAM, he doesn't wanna lose the DREAM which means he probably is pretty delusion in real life, he may be charming, fun etc but realistically he does'nt have much to offer beyond that thus the reluctance to meet, I'm not trying to knock him down, he could be a great guy, most dream men are great guys, they are just emotionally disconnected, emotionally incapable of giving more of themselves on a give and take basis when it comes to other peoples needs, if you feel you can deal with him how he is then thats the best attitude to have because your not going to get more than what your getting right now and if you can live with that then its all good

Thanks Kiki, you seem very wise and you are right.... I still wouldn't mind meeting an aquarius who lives near me though...

your welcome but I'm really not trying to be right and I don't expect everyone to fully grasp what some these men are all about, I sincerely want women to protect themselves in a way that they feel empowered because sometimes the signs are so subtle it can confuse any woman, some cases with these men are mild and some are extreme, if you feel its something you can deal with and handle then thats all that matters

lol this is really funny...I'll tell you why...

- you meet a character online

- Communicating for a year

- wow-ing you and makes you think very very interesting

- character says in love with you

- now you're in love with the character

based on this you are in love with a character not a person...

Hence I am in love with all the characters in dxp that have interesting things to write and compliment my postings and let me PM them whenever !

Omg I may be in love with tiki, unusualcancer, CappyWench --- WOW !

See why I think it's funny? 🙂

Listen even if he's a friend, he would want to see you somehow. You're investing time and effort into this, building feelings around something that isn't - goes against the basic nature of your taurus...

He's either lonely or already in a relationship but feeling the strain concur with CW or even MARRIED !

leokitten he's not holding me back from anything in life, i'm just talking to him while im single and he encourages me abt my goals... and he's not married! He's an aquarian and I dont think they marry easily...

even when he says he loves you... take a second and think, what does he love about me ?

the way I type or string sentences together ?

the way I sound on the phone ?

the way I look on a still photo ?

the way he's able to control me ?

- you say his character is interesting and he's an aquarius so you say you wouldn't mind dating an aquarius near you... so you think aquarius guys you meet are all gonna be like him ?

Who said Aquas don't marry easily? 🙂

lol i thought i was optimistic not delusional!.. I just recently took up an interest in astrology, all I know is that i am a sun in Taurus, moon in Virgo..

I feel pretty silly for falling for this long-distance guy.. All he does is talk talk and nothing else. :-/