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What Does Astrology Say About Long Term Relationships
Astrology suggests that compatibility and communication are key to long-term relationships. Signs like Taurus and Cancer are often viewed as stable partners, while Gemini and Aquarius value mental connection. Understanding your partner's zodiac traits can help strengthen your bond and navigate challenges more effectively.
Your right, you are 19. This is not forever and doesn't have to be. You've got a lot of life to live and so does she.
If you aren't feeling the same any longer, let her go. Don't cheat on her (especially not with her best friend). Maybe you two can reconnect later on in life, when your both more mature and know what you want for the long term. At this age we always feel like forever is the here and now....then we wake up 20 years later and laugh and wonder what were we thinking. In some aspects its great to seize the moment and in others its okay to just live and take your time.
She'll be pissed either way...cheating on her or thinking of other girls and staying or just leaving. BUT I think leaving, although it still hurts, is always a nicer option than cheating.
If you aren't feeling the same any longer, let her go. Don't cheat on her (especially not with her best friend). Maybe you two can reconnect later on in life, when your both more mature and know what you want for the long term. At this age we always feel like forever is the here and now....then we wake up 20 years later and laugh and wonder what were we thinking. In some aspects its great to seize the moment and in others its okay to just live and take your time.
She'll be pissed either way...cheating on her or thinking of other girls and staying or just leaving. BUT I think leaving, although it still hurts, is always a nicer option than cheating.
I'm not sure if I want to let her go yet. I would want to still be friends but she's told me if we did break up the only way shed get over me is to never talk to me again. I feel us growing apart. When were together its amazing but when were not I miss her but I don't feel the same
Well one, don't think that you're doing her a favor by staying with her, especially since you're staying around (AND thinking about straying) for selfish reasons. Sure, we all love to have a companion that is around & attached to us physically, BUT it's even MORE important that we have a relationship with someone that respects us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. I'm pretty sure that if she could choose, she'd rather be with someone who emotionally respects her the same, even when she's not around physically. It doesn't take much work to ask someone to be in a relationship & hang with them everyday. THe WORK comes in when 2 people actually have to respect & care for eachother BEHIND closed doors. That's when it counts. If you truly care about this girl, then think long-term instead of trying to find quick fixes or keep the peace short-term. She'd be MORE devestated if she found out you were feeling this way about her best friend & other women wayyyy MORE than she'd be upset with you breaking up with her & deciding to be just her friend.
You cannot have it both ways. Being in a relationship that's actually going to last requires you to have to WANT that person. Seems like you want the intimacy that a relationship brings, but yet don't want/aren't necessarily ready for the commitment/emotionally faithful part that actually makes the relationship worth anything. DOn't just stick around all b/c you're afraid of her cutting you off if you break up with her. Technically, you'd lose her TWICE as fast if she found out you were emotionally attached to the single mentality, moreso than her & what it means to commit. So if this is really about you trying not to hurt her feelings, then you'd do the LEAST harmful thing & break up with her, vs. making her pay for/punish her for 1. The things she didn't do or deserve..After all, you knew you were only 19 with the urge to experiment long before you met her, so don't make her pay for your selfish ways. I know that you like/love her BUT if that's the case then like/love her ENOUGH to leave her alone until you are the man that she deserves, both in front of & behind her back.
You cannot have it both ways. Being in a relationship that's actually going to last requires you to have to WANT that person. Seems like you want the intimacy that a relationship brings, but yet don't want/aren't necessarily ready for the commitment/emotionally faithful part that actually makes the relationship worth anything. DOn't just stick around all b/c you're afraid of her cutting you off if you break up with her. Technically, you'd lose her TWICE as fast if she found out you were emotionally attached to the single mentality, moreso than her & what it means to commit. So if this is really about you trying not to hurt her feelings, then you'd do the LEAST harmful thing & break up with her, vs. making her pay for/punish her for 1. The things she didn't do or deserve..After all, you knew you were only 19 with the urge to experiment long before you met her, so don't make her pay for your selfish ways. I know that you like/love her BUT if that's the case then like/love her ENOUGH to leave her alone until you are the man that she deserves, both in front of & behind her back.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to live the single life style . After all, you're right..you are only 19. You're still young & you've got alot of life to live. Although being young doesn't necessarily justify playing with people's emotions & screwing everybody in eyesight, BUT you being young & not understanding or being mentally willing to be faithful is the reason why so many of our elders highly recommend that we keep AWAY from serious relationships. They say that for a reason. It's not b/c our elders don't want us to have fun or experience love/good times. No, it's moreso b/c they understand that love & relationships are real & they require true devotion & commitment. And young people, while they may want that, that doesn't necessarily mean they are ready for it and/or have what it takes to follow through. If you want to go screw every girl you see, that's fine. BUT do so & think so AFTER you break up with this girl.
If you're so concerned with her feelings, then the LEAST you can do is leave her alone. You breaking up with her in this situation is alot less painful & disrespectful vs. all of the other things going on, whether these things exist inside your head/thoughts or not. It's not fair to her that she's going to fall in love with the person you're PRETENDING to be. If this is about her feelings, then leave her alone. She's probably the type of person who won't agree with being friends after a breakup b/c these are the exact types of situations she probably fears & have faced many times before. And clearly, that will/can sometimes turn a person cold & unforgiving. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot; you probably wouldn't want to be friends with you after a breakup either, & I say that, especially considering break ups often don't end peacefully. No, they usually happen b/c of some form/kind of disrespect/betrayal, waste of time on 1 or both people's parts. Unfortunately, you're in a situation where you're damned if you do & D'd if you don't, BUT it's important to know that either way, you're taking a HUGE risk of losing her. Would you rather lose her now & yet she respect you later b/c atleast you were honest OR lose her & never gain her respect back after her realizing you've wasted her time?
If you're so concerned with her feelings, then the LEAST you can do is leave her alone. You breaking up with her in this situation is alot less painful & disrespectful vs. all of the other things going on, whether these things exist inside your head/thoughts or not. It's not fair to her that she's going to fall in love with the person you're PRETENDING to be. If this is about her feelings, then leave her alone. She's probably the type of person who won't agree with being friends after a breakup b/c these are the exact types of situations she probably fears & have faced many times before. And clearly, that will/can sometimes turn a person cold & unforgiving. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot; you probably wouldn't want to be friends with you after a breakup either, & I say that, especially considering break ups often don't end peacefully. No, they usually happen b/c of some form/kind of disrespect/betrayal, waste of time on 1 or both people's parts. Unfortunately, you're in a situation where you're damned if you do & D'd if you don't, BUT it's important to know that either way, you're taking a HUGE risk of losing her. Would you rather lose her now & yet she respect you later b/c atleast you were honest OR lose her & never gain her respect back after her realizing you've wasted her time?
I agree with Scar...Of course it's natural to give credit where credit is due in the beauty department. It's perfectly normal to be committed but yet still consider others attractive. That's life. Your sense of knowing beauty when you see it doesn't go away just b/c you enter into a relationship. It's moreso about WHAT you do with your attraction to others (whether it be physical/emotional) that counts/matters. It's one thing to be committed but yet admit that you're seeing attractive women all the time, BUT it's another thing to actually be willing to step outside of your relationship after all you've built with someone, JUST BECAUSE someone else is attractive, & perhaps more attractive then your actual girlfriend. That's another story in itself.
Why do you feel the need to react on your initial attractions to others? After all, you might see a beautiful blonde walking down the street tomorrow, BUT why would that translate into "I want to ruin my relationship & possibly my reputation & life just to sleep with her?" Another woman might be hot BUT you don't know those other women. Those other women might not be HALF the woman you have at home. Those other women might be complete airheads with nothing to offer you BESIDES just a beautiful face. And I say that with the assumption that you wouldn't have jumped into a relationship with your current girlfriend if ALL she had to offer you was physical looks/attraction. She must have SOMETHING beyond looks that made you want to lock her in. What is so unfulfilling about your relationship OR YOU that makes you want to put all you've both worked for on the line & in jeapardy?
Why do you feel the need to react on your initial attractions to others? After all, you might see a beautiful blonde walking down the street tomorrow, BUT why would that translate into "I want to ruin my relationship & possibly my reputation & life just to sleep with her?" Another woman might be hot BUT you don't know those other women. Those other women might not be HALF the woman you have at home. Those other women might be complete airheads with nothing to offer you BESIDES just a beautiful face. And I say that with the assumption that you wouldn't have jumped into a relationship with your current girlfriend if ALL she had to offer you was physical looks/attraction. She must have SOMETHING beyond looks that made you want to lock her in. What is so unfulfilling about your relationship OR YOU that makes you want to put all you've both worked for on the line & in jeapardy?
When my Aqua boyfriend and I first got together. He was at 19 too and he told me that he was sexually attracted to alot of women, including my friends. He asked me if I could wait for him to go out and "try" these women then come back to me because he knows" I'm the best for him. He was so scared that at 19 he found someone he wants to spend the rest of lis life with.Also, it's the culture he grows up with where men must have sex with many women before settling down (later confession!). I looked at him and said "it's ok for you to go out with these women but I'm not sure that I'll still be here for you as a lover. I can be your good friend forever though". The thing was mentioned for the first 8 months of our relationship.Finally, I told him that I'm ready to leave him because I guess I'm not good enough for him. He was crying his eyes out and held me tight. After our aniversary of one year, he told me that I'm the only woman for him and other women can only mean friends but nothing else. He was sure and still is.
Sorry for telling my personal story here but I hope that helps you something. Just like others said , tell your girlfriend the truth. Two heads are better than one.You might be suprised at the "truth".
Sorry for telling my personal story here but I hope that helps you something. Just like others said , tell your girlfriend the truth. Two heads are better than one.You might be suprised at the "truth".
Welp, as the saying goes, "WOMEN LIVE TO LOVE..MEN LOVE TO LIVE." Women nowadays are hard-wired to chase careers & do all the dirty/hard work that men have BEEN doing, BUT alot of us still place alot or atleast the MOST importance on settling down, having a family & all that good stuff. And when a woman finally finds someone she genuienly feels is good enough to settle down with, it's almost like her entire world can become engulfed with that person, as if nothing else matters. BUT, men on the hand are different. Men can love many different things, with the same intensity but just on different levels, all at the same time.
A woman can find a man & b/c he's the man of her dreams, sure she'll notice other attractive men, BUT she's convince herself on the spot that those other men probably don't have SOMETHING that her man has. But men on the other hand can look at an attractive woman & for some reason, they can develop tunnell vision even if the other woman is not even HALF of the woman they already have at home. Another thing, women can have many different hobbies & dreams, BUT to her, her relationship/marriage/family is the MOST important, thus everything other than that is less important (even though still AS important). BUT for some men (not all), they can love their woman AND ESPN just the same. And to some women, they don't understand the concept of how it's possible for a man to love/crave anything other than them! Sometimes I think women are jealous that men can love many different things at the same time, whereas women can do, BUT just don't love anything else other than her man/relationship with even half the same intensity.
A woman can date for 5 years, but YET the moment she meets "the one" she'll no longer even have the DESIRE to even look at/chase after another man. BUT, on the flip side a man can have the woman of his dreams, but yet always keep his options open and/or atleast convince himself that there is always something better out there. I.E.."The grass is greener on the other side."
A woman can find a man & b/c he's the man of her dreams, sure she'll notice other attractive men, BUT she's convince herself on the spot that those other men probably don't have SOMETHING that her man has. But men on the other hand can look at an attractive woman & for some reason, they can develop tunnell vision even if the other woman is not even HALF of the woman they already have at home. Another thing, women can have many different hobbies & dreams, BUT to her, her relationship/marriage/family is the MOST important, thus everything other than that is less important (even though still AS important). BUT for some men (not all), they can love their woman AND ESPN just the same. And to some women, they don't understand the concept of how it's possible for a man to love/crave anything other than them! Sometimes I think women are jealous that men can love many different things at the same time, whereas women can do, BUT just don't love anything else other than her man/relationship with even half the same intensity.
A woman can date for 5 years, but YET the moment she meets "the one" she'll no longer even have the DESIRE to even look at/chase after another man. BUT, on the flip side a man can have the woman of his dreams, but yet always keep his options open and/or atleast convince himself that there is always something better out there. I.E.."The grass is greener on the other side."
My advice would be to play to field a little more..or else she will do it FIRST..believe me..I KNOW!!!
"Women nowadays are hard-wired to chase careers & do all the dirty/hard work that men have BEEN doing, BUT alot of us still place alot or atleast the MOST importance on settling down, having a family & all that good stuff."
Funny thing I just noticed is that when I decided my career and my goal is every thing to me, my boyfriend has become completely devoted. He's even moving with me soon for my job and my second degree. That's what I love about Aqua. You defy tradition 😄
Funny thing I just noticed is that when I decided my career and my goal is every thing to me, my boyfriend has become completely devoted. He's even moving with me soon for my job and my second degree. That's what I love about Aqua. You defy tradition 😄
@Exam...that's great! Some men actually respect a woman 10 times MORE when they can sense that she knows how to love/focus on more than 1 thing/person at a time. After all, him fully supporting you & respecting you for having dreams is a GOOD thing & a leve ALOT Of couples need to reach. Men can love a woman allllll day long but him just loving her should NOT be stopping him from loving other things, especially if the relationship as a WHOLE will benefit.
Sure, there are always the azsholes who resent their girlfriends/wives for having careers or even worse, making more money than them, BUT anytime you meet a man whose willing to put in the extra work b/c of that extra respect he has for his woman, that is a GOOD thing & shows that the relationship involves 2 people who want the BEST for eachother, without all the pride, jealousy, etc. being attached all the time. Do you & go chase after what you want.
It's no different than me being an Aqua & how I feel about affection. If I have to be all up on someone 24-7 just for them to know that I love them, then ok seriously their code for how they measure their worth needs to change and/or is all wrong. I can love my partner more than life itself, BUT that doesn't mean that I have to call/hold them/be around them or tell them sweet things every 5 minutes either. It's all about finding that balance...being able to love multiple things at once & trying to figure out a way to make sure your love for one thing doesn't cause a drift or lack in your love for something else. A person shouldn't have to give up 1 great thing for the other. Love & life is all about finding a big enough plate so that we can enjoy MANY things all at once
Sure, there are always the azsholes who resent their girlfriends/wives for having careers or even worse, making more money than them, BUT anytime you meet a man whose willing to put in the extra work b/c of that extra respect he has for his woman, that is a GOOD thing & shows that the relationship involves 2 people who want the BEST for eachother, without all the pride, jealousy, etc. being attached all the time. Do you & go chase after what you want.
It's no different than me being an Aqua & how I feel about affection. If I have to be all up on someone 24-7 just for them to know that I love them, then ok seriously their code for how they measure their worth needs to change and/or is all wrong. I can love my partner more than life itself, BUT that doesn't mean that I have to call/hold them/be around them or tell them sweet things every 5 minutes either. It's all about finding that balance...being able to love multiple things at once & trying to figure out a way to make sure your love for one thing doesn't cause a drift or lack in your love for something else. A person shouldn't have to give up 1 great thing for the other. Love & life is all about finding a big enough plate so that we can enjoy MANY things all at once
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