Making it official

I'm curious to know...

Aqua men/women: You're seeing someone, everything going swimmingly well. You want to ask s.o out/settle into a proper relationship. How do you go about it?

With your significant other(s), how was the transition made from dating to officially going out?

Please list sun/moon/venus/mars

" Time to play it for real"

that's what my Aqua husband said to me.

He is Aqua Sun, Moon Venus and Mars

I am Leo Sun, Aries Moon, Cancer Venus and Taurus Mars

That's sweet! 🙂 Care to elaborate a bit more on how you got to that point?

It was a sudden move on his part, I wasn't expecting it at all, neither did I ever think that he would steer the relationship in that direction. Just a moment before this " sudden attack" we were discussing one of his ex-girlfriends.

I am sorry to tell this that my reaction was not at all classy or romantic, I felt more bewildered and slightly cheated---real thing--? why ? am I not a good friend ?

well, from there it began, I had no idea , Aqua men could be so adamant.

I think they are pretty upfront and say what they are thinking and feeling through the whole thing, the whole time. You just have to listen. I am dating my 3rd one and everyone of them were different. The thing they have in common is they will tell you the truth - bluntly, honestly and unromantically. Even if it hurts your feelings.

Not saying I've been to that point you're talking about with any of them, though.

I have a hard time saying it in words, I say it with my actions. In my fantasy land, I was hoping to find a close friend I just fell into a relationship with lol. But...that has caused some confusion and misguided approaches to dating. So now I say up front what I want. As in, I currently abhor the process of dating, I want a real relationship. If the actions of the person I am seeing says that they are not as serious as I am, then I tell them outright I don't think they're taking me seriously and if that's not what they're looking for we can part ways. I guess I go with the flow until I see red flags lol

I have never been or felt the need of being in a "serious" relationship, so i don't really know. If the day came when i was prepared to make such a decision i guess i would say something like "...and maybe it would be convenient if we got married in the near future coz i think we are going to spend the rest of our life together anyways, so what do you think?".

hmmm not sure..never had to ask to get into a relationship..usually it just happens. the guy would start calling me his gf or changing fb statuses..friends will ask "oh your his new gf? heard a lot about you". Or they will just ask me to be exclusive and official. "will you be my gf?"

Even if we were just "dating" for 2-3 months i wouldn't really gage by title but the rapport we share and that is enough for me. Each person that became my bf all had different timing to it. Some were within 2 weeks, as i got older it took a month. several dates, sex early or later wouldn't matter to the result of a serious relationship in my life, we would all go on one-on-one dates. lots of fun. and usually we hit a Disclosure point..in which we share intimate values and ideas..and feelings with one another..shortly after that...they ask me. some just transition into it.

sun: aqua
moon: gemini
rising: libra
mars: scorpio
venus: aqua
merc: capricorn

I allow them to stay over. Simple.

The guy I'm with (a Taurus), he asked me "How come you don't let me stay over?" I said "Because we aren't in a relationship and I'm looking for a relationship, not a friends with benefits situation".

The very next day he asks me if I'd like to be in a relationship with him. I said I'd like that. He asked that we become official. We did and he moved in with me last week after 18 months.

I would hang out with him, but I wouldn't sleep with him (and still didn't for a short time once we'd decided we were in a relationship. He'd asked me right at the start what I was looking for, I was upfront about it. I didn't ask him to be in a relationship, I left it to him to decide whether he wanted one given that he knew what i was looking for. Once he'd worked out what he wanted we went from there.

The man doesn't get the goodies unless he's wanting something of substance. I'm worth more than that.

He's the sort of guy that has ALWAYS had women falling at his feet and chasing him. He said the fact that I didn't do any of that made him see my value.

Posted by truecap
I think they are pretty upfront and say what they are thinking and feeling through the whole thing, the whole time. You just have to listen. I am dating my 3rd one and everyone of them were different. The thing they have in common is they will tell you the truth - bluntly, honestly and unromantically. Even if it hurts your feelings.

Not saying I've been to that point you're talking about with any of them, though.

He says and tells me (nice, affectionate) things all the time and he has been very honest from the beginning. We were casually dating. I questioned him about our relationship being a FWB...this was quite early on in our relationship, and he said I hate that term. I am me and you are you. Whatever we do is our business.

He's been loyal from the start, we speak all the time, spend days with eachother. We've known eachother for 4 years previous. He's told me something instantly clicked between us that he won't get with anyone else, and how glad he is that we got back in touch (I didn't see him for 4 years).

Yesterday he got all mushy which freaked me out a tiny bit: he cupped my face in his hands and looked at me while we were on the sofa and when he got up to get a drink he asked if I wanted one, I say no, he turns to walk away, quickly turns round and plants one on me. He has libra moon.

I feel like he's trying to tell me something indirectly (he's quite shy) so I may have to have a convo with him to find out the truth.

Seems to me he is showing you actions instead of words!!! Those actions speak loudly! And positively!

well it depends on the person. like NZAqua said if i let you stay over then your in, if i dont then you know your place.

with my libra fiance he sat me down and said, " just so you know your my girlfriend, ive told my family and friends already. any objections?"
me: silence, with a look like, " when the hell did this happen??"
him: "alright then you want meat lovers or supreme pizza, and i wont forget to order the pop this time"

that was 3 and a half years ago, been together ever since.🙂

thats what happens with aqua fems, but the males usually just come out and say it. if its not defined just bring it up sometimes they think you can read their minds. so they think you already know your their girl.

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Posted by truecap
I think they are pretty upfront and say what they are thinking and feeling through the whole thing, the whole time. You just have to listen. I am dating my 3rd one and everyone of them were different. The thing they have in common is they will tell you the truth - bluntly, honestly and unromantically. Even if it hurts your feelings.

Not saying I've been to that point you're talking about with any of them, though.

He says and tells me (nice, affectionate) things all the time and he has been very honest from the beginning. We were casually dating. I questioned him about our relationship being a FWB...this was quite early on in our relationship, and he said I hate that term. I am me and you are you. Whatever we do is our business.

He's been loyal from the start, we speak all the time, spend days with eachother. We've known eachother for 4 years previous. He's told me something instantly clicked between us that he won't get with anyone else, and how glad he is that we got back in touch (I didn't see him for 4 years).

Yesterday he got all mushy which freaked me out a tiny bit: he cupped my face in his hands and looked at me while we were on the sofa and when he got up to get a drink he asked if I wanted one, I say no, he turns to walk away, quickly turns round and plants one on me. He has libra moon.

I feel like he's trying to tell me something indirectly (he's quite shy) so I may have to have a convo with him to find out the truth.

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oh yea girlfriend he is allll yours..go ahead and reel him in. 🙂

oh forgot my stats you wanted

Sun: Aquarius
Moon: Pisces
Venus: Aquarius
Mars: Taurus

Well, I told Aqua someone asked me out and I turned them down. Then Aqua told me someone invited him to dinner and he turned them down and told them he was seeing someone. He said he doesn't want more than one. I said we're on the same page then. He said yep.

So, is that it? I suppose its exclusive now. lol!

Posted by chemengin
well it depends on the person. like NZAqua said if i let you stay over then your in, if i dont then you know your place.

with my libra fiance he sat me down and said, " just so you know your my girlfriend, ive told my family and friends already. any objections?"
me: silence, with a look like, " when the hell did this happen??"
him: "alright then you want meat lovers or supreme pizza, and i wont forget to order the pop this time"

that was 3 and a half years ago, been together ever since.🙂

thats what happens with aqua fems, but the males usually just come out and say it. if its not defined just bring it up sometimes they think you can read their minds. so they think you already know your their girl.

Very interesting with you mentioning about the other person reading their minds....with the aqua it feels like we have an unspoken 'thing' between us and there's been loads of times where he'd finish my sentance or answer my question before I've finished asking it, or we will have the same thoughts at the same time.

We haven't defined anything so with all the big hints and actions maybe this is his way of showing me that we're together.

Posted by truecap
Well, I told Aqua someone asked me out and I turned them down. Then Aqua told me someone invited him to dinner and he turned them down and told them he was seeing someone. He said he doesn't want more than one. I said we're on the same page then. He said yep.

So, is that it? I suppose its exclusive now. lol!

I guess so! 🙂

Got there in the end, eh?!

Posted by truecap
Well, I told Aqua someone asked me out and I turned them down. Then Aqua told me someone invited him to dinner and he turned them down and told them he was seeing someone. He said he doesn't want more than one. I said we're on the same page then. He said yep.

So, is that it? I suppose its exclusive now. lol!

well finally! geesh took you two forever!
LOL. happy for ya! 🙂

Thanks yall!! Lots of patience involved here.

If someone tattoos "Wynter Forever" on his forehead I might be convinced.

🙂