Making new friends

Is it easy or hard for you as an aqua? I feel like im a social butterfly but its hard to connect with everyone simply because they dont understand how emotionless I can get or aloof. Or I just dont get deep like they do.

I have found this with the Aqua I am dating. He can talk to anyone and instantly they'll feel comfortable with him. But he doesn't see the few friends he has very often at all. He is so chatty with people when he first meets them, but I feel they drain him if they want too much attention. He's happy to keep it more superficial. We've had some interesting discussions on this as we both have only a few 'true' friends but while he is very confident with new people, I like to take a step back and weigh people up.

I found this exact same trait with an Aqua I dated a number of years ago as well.

Hi its Vince with Slap Chop! You??re gonna be in a great mood all day cause you??re gonna be slappin your troubles with the Slap Chop. Now look here's a potato. One slap you got big chunks for stews, two slaps home fries in a second. And now look at this when you add a mushroom you more you do it the finer it gets you don't have to switch any blades.

I have a hard time making new friends because I dont ever feel comfortable enough to open myself up to them. So I tend to be quiet and that makes ppl think that im not interested in them socially.

I'm an aqua as well and when it comes to meeting new people I am very social. I usually try to adapt to different personalities and figure them out to relate to them on some level. It's kind of weird though because there are certain personalities that i have my guard up for (like extremely extroverted people) and i don't communicate with openly right away. Then they get the impression that I have an attitude problem or just really shy. I'm really not though most of the time.

Easy making them. Harder keeping them.

It's very easy for me to make friends.

I agree though that it's hard to actually make a solid connection though b/c we define "connection" completely differently than others do.

Plus, establishing a connection with someone actually requires deep talks & getting to know someone further than just "Hey, you look familiar" or "Hi, my name is...."

Most people don't really understand how complex & deep my mind/imagination actually goes. I've noticed that I never really make a solid connection with someone unless they've activated the side in me that likes those long, deep, complex & intellectual conversations where I actually find myself sharing things about myself (vs. just letting the other person do all the talking)

And since it's so hard for us to actually grow solid connections with most people, when we actually DO establish 1, it's that much more special. Anything that's rare is always more memorable & desirable.

Posted by DK09
Easy making them. Harder keeping them.

i agree. i can easily get along and meet new people and it'll literally b like we're road dogs or something lol. there's even been times where im out with friends and ill just wander off away from them and be hanging out with new people and my friends will come up to me and say "do u know them? who are they?" and they'll be surprised to know that i JUST met them haha. my main group of friends who i remain in contact with are childhood friends. anyone other than them seem to never stick -- even though i think they're cooler or im more compatible with them. i really dont know why lol. *shrugs* don't mean to keep rambling, but i read once that it's easy for aquas to see other people's problems but hard to view their own. so true! haha

hmm i would have to say yeah im pretty amiable and easy to get a long with. my adaptation and live and let live policy makes a lot of people around me comfortable. my problem is that not EVERYONE can entertain me and keep me interested...those usually dont develop pass the superficial etiquette..and usually only would meet with these kind of people if we bumped into each other at a gathering or on the street. despite all that, i still try my best to treat everyone the same..and then to those that dont really interest me after awhile, i stop maintaining. those that keep my friendship are those that "share" themselves and offer themselves to me as well. Mutually beneficial relationships.

At times i get super quite if im bothered by something or pondering about things ...and that may have some people think im angry @ THEM or bored..So my trick is simple, just let them know beforehand during the friendship.."i tend to get lost in my own mind".

also i can get uneasy in a one on one situation...in a group i shine..but if i were to hang out with one of the people within that setting...i get spazzy and short attention span with them. ONLY rarely i'll meet a similar energetic soul to pick up where i left off. usually, libras, aries, sags, leos, gemini's do that for me.