My Aqua man is distant after fight

Hey guys, I dont want you to be mean, but just honest. So here's my situation, I'm Leo and my Aqua guy and I were seeing since September last year. WE knew each other for about 2 years before. Anyway, things were cool, he lives in Boston and I'm in NY, and we have been to see each other back and fourth. Anyway, his birthday was some weeks ago, so i got off from work and told him i would come see him, and he agreed, and I went. Basically to make a long story very short, i got there friday, and saturday night, I got mad at him, because he didnt make the time to see me during the day, and i called and told him about and he started to tell me why but i was too annoyed to listen and I hung up. He got really pissed at me for hanging up and told me its disrespectful, and that i knew he was busy and that he was gonna see me later. We were to go out later the night and he ended up just leaving, and not saying a word to me he told his best friend he was going home. I ended up going back to NY and he still didnt call to say a word. 5 days after there was more drama, i was tweeting and i tweeted that you should never want to be wrong and strong, and he took it to heart, but i was not talking to him or about him, and at that point he tweets back "you know you just effed up right" so i had to let him know i was not referring to him in my tweets. He later messaged me and said to me: I disrespected him first of all by hanging up on him and not even giving him chance to explain why he couldnt see me, and he hates disrespect and dont expect to hear from him anytime sooon, or forever if i dont call and apologise. He also said that He was pissed at me for tweeting that stuff cause i had his friends asking him whats up with us, and he hates people in his business. HE ABSOLUTELY HATES IT!!!!! So i called and he didnt answer and i also messaged and apologised and he never responded. about a few days later i messaged him, and he puts up on his bbm "still not really in the mood to talk" so i just left him alone. So I messaged him again about 4 days later, and he responds, but now he is just kind of cold to me, and I even tried calling twice but no answer, he just messaged me in the morning and said good morning. What do i take this as?? Are we over, and should I just move on??

Ahh I really don't know. I'll let an aqua hit this one up, I have an inkling but I could be very wrong so I'll keep that to myself. All I know is that you really pissed this one off. OOoooweee. Yikes

One question...do you really think what you did was wrong or did you say sorry for making amends and not loosing him?

I probably know what you are thinking, I thought about it, it could be that was excuse to get rid of me? If that is the case, he is usually honest about everything, if I ask, he will answer, so why not just tell me what's up? And I was a bit selfish for hanging up, but I don't why get so mad. And yes I apologised by messaging the same time and he didn't acknowledge it. So in my head, I feel like its over, but knowing that he's usually blunt and says what ever is on his mind, I don't get why he just didn't say it.

And I don't get how you go from being so excited to see me just a week before and messaging and calling everyday to practically ignoring me outta your life after that. Now that I put it that way, it sounds like that was really an excuse to get rid of me.

'Basically to make a long story very short, i got there friday, and saturday night, I got mad at him, because he didnt make the time to see me during the day, and i called and told him about and he started to tell me why but i was too annoyed to listen and I hung up. He got really pissed at me for hanging up and told me its disrespectful, and that i knew he was busy and that he was gonna see me later. '

it was that. he looked forward to seeing you. and you messed it up with the crabby mood. and it was his birthday. birthdays are the one day of the year that we make it just about us. not only did you not let him explain what was going on, you hung up on him. and he wasnt even trying to disrespect you. so yea. then that stuff you tweeted that was just the icing on the cake. if it was not meant for him, did you tell him who it was for. it doesnt matter..

What do i take this as?? Are we over, and should I just move on??
he is speaking to you now. just saying you sorry is not going to be enough. saying the reason why you are sorry will make it a little better. you ruined his 1 special day of the year and you of all people are suppose to make that day extra special for him and you fucked it up. so something like, " yea you know im really sorry for messing up our weekend with my pms" not necessarily those words exactly but something along those lines.

why would you move on, you guys dont have arguments. he is mad at you, this wont be the first time. just apologize properly, and usually aqua guys like apologies in person if you know what im saying...apology+affection= eases tension.

if it is over then he is totally overreacting. this can be worked out. good luck ms. leo 😄

oops sorry i meant this wont be the last time he is going to be mad at you.

Just give him space when he is ready to talk to you he will if its good or bad.

Actually, I did apologise sincerely, and we had the fight the day after his birthday, but yes we were supposed to go out and I know I was looking forward to it. But thanks for the advice, and I will continue to give him his space I guess, and if he ever wants to talk and let me know what's up I guess he will.

Aqua men don't like to have someone tell them they did something wrong- especially someone that they care about- and especially when their actions were not premeditated or meant to hurt you. In short, you blindsided him. He wasn't prepared for your anger- it was the equivalent of you punching him in the stomach and knocking the wind out of him. You bruised his ego and now he needs some time to rebound.

As a fellow fire sign- I'm going to call you on that Tweet. I think, if you're honest with yourself, you know that at least a small part of that Tweet was directed at him. You were hurt by the situation and couldn't really talk to him directly so you expressed yourself through Social Media. It is what it is- we've all been there. But, the Aqua called you on it- as they tend to do. It's hard for us fire signs to really get one past an Aqua. We're poor liars when it comes to dealing with them.

If you want to make it work, go see him in person and own the situation. Tell him you apologize for the fight and the Tweet and tell him why. You can also express to him why his actions hurt you- but do it in a calm, unemotional way. I'd also suggest, depending on his other placements, that you make a dinner reservation and take him out after your apology as a surprise- to make up for the birthday mess. He may start off icy, but he'll warm up and be back to normal by the end of the night.

O.k I do admit, lol, I was hurt by the situation and yes, part of the tweet was meant for him. But its been almost three weeks, and damn, I mean he talks to me sometimes, but when he feels like it and ignores my calls. I dont blow up his phone but I have called twice and this is really hurts because I didnt know I hurt him like that. 😢 I wouldnt want to go all the way over there tho and then get rejected, lol, but i guess it's worth a try.

Posted by babyleo112
O.k I do admit, lol, I was hurt by the situation and yes, part of the tweet was meant for him. But its been almost three weeks, and damn, I mean he talks to me sometimes, but when he feels like it and ignores my calls. I dont blow up his phone but I have called twice and this is really hurts because I didnt know I hurt him like that. 😢 I wouldnt want to go all the way over there tho and then get rejected, lol, but i guess it's worth a try.

Those Aqua men are tough! I can 100% sympathize with you. If you stay with him, you will see flashes of this aloof, disconnected behavior here and there throughout your entire relationship. It's tough for us fire signs to take- I know. It makes up go into insecure, crazy mode- BUT it also makes us go into "chase" mode which is what keeps up around.

My Aqua has pulled very similar things on me- mostly when our relationship was around 2-3 years old and younger. I handled those situations very similarly to the advice I gave you. Face-to-face works 100 times better with a hurt Aqua than email or text. They can ignore an email or text- they can't ignore a heartfelt apology when you look them in the eye.

It's almost like they do these ego power-plays with us fire ladies- which is why he's being a BRAT with you about communication right now. In a way, you hurt his ego, so he's proving to you that he can do whatever he wants and you don't have any control over him. Why? Because he wants to hurt you right back and he's reminding himself that you don't own him- and its HIS choice whether or not he decides to talk to you.

The only way to get through this is for you to recognize the behavior when it happens and decide that you are going to be the bigger person. We've been together so long that my Aqua will initiate apologies with me now. When our relationship was young, I was more likely to see a pig fly than to get an apology.

Good luck, lady!

Lol....wow! thanks for the advice and heads up.....so i guess i'll give him some more time and see what happens, then if nothing I guess ill be on my way to see him again......I'm very persistent and I never give up with out a fight and despite all the negative things ive read about aquarius guys, I cant say that he's like that, I've always seen good in him, and he really is an awesome guy and I personally think that its worth going to see him "face to face"

I have a question tho.......Since he is usually very honest about everything, should i just ask him if he does nto want to talk to me anymore? because my best friend said thats easier than torturing myself like this? Any advice?

I guess all I had to do was ask and I got my answer...... 😄 WE'RE STILL TOGETHER, BUT THANKS FOR THE ADVICE!! LOL, I WAS SCARED FOR A MIN!

Posted by LittleAquanot
I don't think any of us can answer whether or not it's over. Only he can answer that. If I were you, I would take your friend??s advice and just ask him flat out. He's an Aquarius so, he??ll give it to you straight.

As a side note, I will say that although I find Leos fun to hang out with, you lions do have a tendency to be very dramatic and prone to temper flares. It's absolutely baffling to me. I sit slack-jawed in amazement. Lol. Drama is one thing we Aquarians cannot tolerate and, although I have not ever been in a romantic relationship with a Leo, I have had friendships with Leos. Almost all of my friendships with the lions I had to either end or limit because I found the drama draining. Never could we have a simple disagreement. Everything was blown up to dramatic proportions. And, I have been subject to the Facebook/Twitter —I say I'm not talking about you but, I really am?? comments as well. I have ended a friendship over that. An Aqua isn't mentally slow. We know e-aggression when we see it. Lol! I'm sure he felt like you were insulting his intelligence when you said you weren't talking about him in that tweet. Bottom line: Aquarians do not appreciate dramatic displays and, if there is a disagreement, we prefer to talk them out rationally and logically. We want to feel respected by the people we love.

My take is he wants to forgive you but, he is still suffering from residual anger. Have a calm talk with him to see where you stand. But, please please please consider not blowing up like this in the future. Your fiery lioness tendencies could make the Aqua eventually walk away.

Good luck!

+1 Really great advice, LittleAquanot!

I'm glad that you got your answer, babyleo! And I'm happy that you two are still together. As LittleAquanot mentioned, be careful about the temper flare ups in the future! I know its hard for us as fire ladies- we have some serious tempers and it took some serious soul-searching and understanding on my part to quell mine. Whenever you feel like flipping on him in the future, try to cool down first- maybe go for a run or do some shopping, or talk about the situation with NON-firey, airey or earthy friends (the firey or watery ones will just take your side and ramp you up)- to calm down your mind. Then talk to him.

Hey guys.....it's me again. So here's the thing, After my Aquarius guy said he was not done things still did not get much better. I mean, im still the one who innitiates the conversations, and he's not quite as cold, but we have not spoken on the phone since. I mean, he is a great guy, and I really dont wanna lose him.....but if he's not over, how come he's still not saying much to me? I feel so hurt.