my libra guy

Im an aquarian and ive been with my libra guy for nearly two years.... love him to pieces and i know he loves me..... but i still find that he doesn't open up enough to me. For example he doesn't really discuss the future with me. I'm 24 and he is 29 but i still find that he is very closed with me, is this normal? He is currently in the music industry and that is all he seems to be concerned about.... i would love to settle down with him but i am starting to loose patience. I have expressed this to him and he just says he is very sorry for letting me go through all these emotions and that it is all his fault, he also states he doesn't know how to balance things out. Do i wait for my libran guy or just move on?

Yeah but aqua-baby you're only 24 for crying out loud, and he's 29!! I mean you're still young and you especially shouldn't be worry about your biological clock at your age. I think your libra guy has a point. Why should he feel he has to settle down now? I think you should just chill a bit.

Im still here it is just that im from England so im in that time..... thank you for all your advise. I just layed in bed last night and cried because i know that i will probabaly have walk away. I spoke to him last night and told him he will regret his actions he replied what am i talking about and i just said 'nothing you will see' . The funny thing is my Aunty rang me up today and said that she is moving away for a while and that she wants me to take over her appartment.... i was so happy because ive been dreaming of having my own space away from my parentsfor a while!!! so i have got something else to to focus on at the moment. Thank you for all your replies xx

"I heard English people are extremely cold in relationship. I have never been there, I really have no interest in going to the UK. More enjoyable places to go, particularly weather wise."

What a fucking idiotic comment to make. You're almost coming across Primegen as the clich?d stoopid American. Your ignorance glares through absurd statements that you make such as the one above. I'm sure the English as a nation really couldn't care less if you visited or not!!

I think you'll find English people belong to the same "cultural" group as Americans!! And secondly I don't need to read anything to respond to your silly and childish blanket statements because I live in Ireland which is next to Britain, am also half British myself, and I know that our social interactions and dating practices are practically the same as your own over in the U S of A, the only real difference being the mere difference in accents 😛

Anyway Primegen I thought you were the one who said a couple of hundred posts ago that in order for one to really know what they're talking about, they should have firsthand experience of their subject matter. Now if you're basing your petty opinions on reading material then might I suggest that you're contrdicting your own theories and talking BS.

Your reasoning is so bigoted it's not worthy of a serious challenge. If you really think like that then you have a warped impression of British people but this is pretty much because I think you have a warped sense of logic and a warped opinion of people different from yourself.

Think about it this way if you can Primegen: there is only a certain type of people who visit the Red Light District in Amsterdam; it may be for a stag party, it may be for reasonably safe and no strings attached sex, for drugs, it may be for a cheap drinking weekend. Only certain types of people, be they British, Swedish, French, American,...whatever, will consider this an enjoyable excursion to make. Also people might be in a certain frame of mind when they visit like they may want to go crazey for a few days and choose Amsterdam's Red Light District as the best venue to do it in.

But by seeing people like this you do not then take the ILlogical step of assuming that all British people are like this based on what you saw in one particular setting.

I'm not insulting you when I say that I genuinely think you have a warped logic in this respect. I don't know what other way to respond to a statement to the effect that you dislike and therefore dismiss an entire country and its inhabitants based on what you read and a handful of its citizens that you happen to know.

"I heard English people are extremely cold in relationship. I have never been there, I really have no interest in going to the UK. More enjoyable places to go, particularly weather wise."

Hardly the basis for any "cultured experiment" worth a sod.

I'M English and he was born in Jamaica although he has been here most of his life. I just had a long chat with him and told him how it was that im basically on the edge i mean the thing is i don't want a ring on my finger or to move in with him YET (few years)!! but i just want to know that we have future andim not waiting in vain. Because he is in the music industry our time together is just not enough so i said all of this and that by the time he realises it will be too late. I think that was his wake up call cos he he said it really touched his heart and that he never knew things were this bad, etc and etc! The thing is ive stood by his side through alot.. i mean he went to America for 3 months and while he was away met up wiht a guy well an old freind who i hadn't seen in years (capricorn), who wanted to offer me the world and more but i just couldn't do it and turned him down, so i waited for him through that and many more other stuff.. I just want to say thank you for all your replies i will keep you updated hopefully it will work out because i really want it to guys xxx

"degree who specializes in cultural studies"

Primer didn't you also say in a post that degrees and qualifications in a field does not necessarily translate as having a useful and workable knowledge or experience in it? (and went on to cite various highly qualified and yet incompetent colleagues of yours as examples to illustrate) One application of your theory is that to have read a number of books about a country, like Britain for example, doesn't mean you can really have any appreciation for the place or its people unless you actually have first hand and direct experience. This is an opinion you formed yourself. You really should pay more attention to what you say since I'm even starting to retain more of it than you are.

I hope it works out for ya aqua-baby but don't do anything rash he doesn't comply with you exactly as you want.

That pathetic little dig has absolutely no bearing on the debate that's going on here. Stick to the point primer. And the point is that it's laughable and infantile to form a sweeping derogatory opinion about an entire nation based on a few of its citizens who you happen to know who didn't get on with you.

Plus I tend to find English men are usually sexier than american ones too 😛

"I've also said there are no absolutes"

Yeah when you're talking about yourself. It's everyone else who must conform to your ridiculous ideas and whims.

Im Scottish and recently had 'relations' with an American. Oh my God, he had the same opinion of the UK as primegem, even though he had never been here. You American guys..get some education. You probably couldnt even find us on the map.

Why be so sweeping here guys?? Primegen is out of order making a stupid statement about all English people being cold because he read it and knows a few english people and he should cop on. It is the kind of thing an idiot with an inflated opinion of himself blurts out. Not somebody who is of an insightful and realistic frame of mind.

"Run along and eat your oatmeal"

It's called PORRIDGE on this side of the atlantic Primegen.

"Run along and eat your oatmeal"

OOOO Oatmeal is yummy with raisins and bananas 😛

Post any blanket hate statements such as hating any woman who stand up for themselves and stand up to other men, and groups of people and countries and I'll retaliate. I don't have to belong to these groups to find it offensive to listen to somebody blab on his ignorant blanket all encompassing dismissals. So therefore I do object to it.

GL that you don't find it offensive is merely your perogative!

What are you farting on about drunkeness and hanging at the bar? Shove it up your overfed jam donut ring dickhead.

LOL

Carry On...

Correct-a-mundo 🙂

You don't piss me off Primer. You're just a self important fucking dickhead and when you blab on thinking you know what you're talking about and make ignoramus comments I'll respond. And you don't like little women talking back to you do ya jerkoff?

And by the way we're still waiting to see these nice pics showing you're amazing new body definition that must be coming along nicely now that you have your own gym that you were blabbing on about before. Why can't we see them? Or maybe you've been too busy posting on dxp and eating jelly donuts to be able to devote all your energy and dedication to it? You were very quick to pass your dopey overgrown kid remarks about my pic so I'm wondering why the reticence to show your own. Or are you shy primeee poops?

"Wow md i never saw you this mad before primegen you sure know to piss people off lol"

Kris you're making primer think he's doing something very cunning and clever. The thing is he's just a big mouth and nothing he says *is* clever. It's quite the opposite actually. He irritates and annoys rather like shit for brains George Bush does when he opens his gob to say anything.

The only skank around here is yourself primer. Keep munching on your donut.

Hee, hee..those last posts were so funny. The UK is the best part of the world (Scotland in particular of course..but im biased). The people arent cold..we have to get real close to keep the wind and rain out!! And Prime's use of the word 'oats'..that got me laughing!! Well, i just love my porridge so that aint a problem!

No antibling!! Rab C is not representative at all, except for a tiny percentage of the whole population! Oh my God..i am so insulted. How the hell do USA'ers even undertsnad him..sometimes i dont even know what he's talking about! Nah, Scots are special, proud, entertaining and accepting. There..im done bigging us up for now. Come and visit us, you'll love it here.

"Seriously, check out intercultural studies on relationship. The UK ranks near the bottom for warmth, openness, approachability."

Define warmth, openness and approachability Primegen. Since you profess to be an tuhority on many subjects, I'm sure you know that research, studies and statistics mean nothing unless the criteria under analysis are clearly defined. So do you mean that results from these interculterual studies (whatever they may be and whatever sources they may use)indicate that UK nationals are the least likely to be affectionate perhaps? And that's affectionate with whom? Towards the person on the street? Or their spouse or partner? That British people are not open; does that mean that they are closed? And if so, closed to what? The UK are bottom for approachability; does that mean that if you go to a random location in the UK and ask for directions, you are least likely to get a response? Definitely not the case any time I have been in this situation.

"Usually at the bottom in western Europe and gives a few Asian cultures a run for their money." Western Europe doesn't comprise too many countries so even if this were true it has little bearing on this scale of social interactions world wide. And which Asian cultures did you have in mind that UK social behavior could give a run for their money?

*tuhority= authority

"And sure, YOU may not think you are cold, but you are in the UK surrounded by other people who are apart of the English culture, so, you don't see the difference. Go to Italy, you'll see the difference."

You imply that no one else travels the world and has been to and sampled other countries and cultures! Yes I agree that Italian has a very strong family emphasis, more so than UK or Ireland anyway. However I wouldn't say by a long shot that this country is approachable. It could be the language barrier but it wouldn't be a surpirse if you were to be ignored and shunned if you asked somebody on the street what time it was or where the local post office is. And in Paris you more than likely will be ignored if you attempt to ask somebody a question in English! This is regarded as quite rude by some people but I see their point and I think it's quite right that one should try to make a serious attempt to learn the language and respect the customs of the country that you are visiting.

"the studies I had to review were based on science and large scale studies"

In that case the criteria must've been clearly defined approachability, openness and warmth need firm deifinitions before you can be so pompous as to infer ANYTHING about an entire nation.

"Stop the nonsense of thinking generalizations are some how bad. You do it everyday so why get picky about it now, is it because it points out something you don't like, "

Um it's not the questionable scientific studies that you keep mentioning that we don't like, it's the way you are summarily degrade a country using insulting and ignorant terminology and slogans.

Im currently dating an African guy and he hasnt mentioned anything about me being cold..so there!

I recall seeing a study that claimed that north europeans(that includes the British) have generally larger personal space then say, Italians-it means that it is not culturally acceptable to stand very close to one another, I guess this can be translated as warmth and approachability, kinda.

I consider approachability to mean that a person can feel comfortable enough to converse with another person without worrying if it will cause offence or even get a response. I do not interpret approachability to mean how close I can stand next to this person before it might be deemed inappropriate. Actually if one were to go on the Underground in London at rush hour, things can get very close and "steamy" between complete strangers! 😛

"However I think you would do well for yourself to study how cultures are different and how they are similar "

How patronising are you! We only have your word to go on that these studies exist let alone that you have studied them Primer and I doubt it very much! Any scientist worth his salt does not make big ignorant and denigratory comments about anything unless they can justify it down to the last decimal number. And if you are dismissing the whole of Britain because you read that that the people are cold etc etc blah blah, then that sounds like the most ignorant and non-scientific premise to base such a decision and you would do well for yourself to study your own ignorance and how low it ranks relative to others. 😛