Pisces and Aquarius

Hi My Aqua Ladies and gents,
I need your help. Can you share your good and bad experiences with Pisces men. I’m going to probably end up posting my issue in the Pisces board but I wanted to check in here first. I am having a hell of a time with a man I’m in love with however he keeps doing things that don’t make sense to me and is going to cause problems in our relationship. I’m trying so hard to hang on because there are children involved and because I love him but I don’t want to be an idiot either. I’m finding my self in a place where I am asking myself if he truly is in love with me. His actions says yes but there are some shady areas. I place such a high standard on what love is because I love hard. Please if you don’t mind share with me the good and bad and what you learned about their personality. Thanks a lot!!

Posted by calmwaters16
Hi My Aqua Ladies and gents,
I need your help. Can you share your good and bad experiences with Pisces men. I’m going to probably end up posting my issue in the Pisces board but I wanted to check in here first. I am having a hell of a time with a man I’m in love with however he keeps doing things that don’t make sense to me and is going to cause problems in our relationship. I’m trying so hard to hang on because there are children involved and because I love him but I don’t want to be an idiot either. I’m finding my self in a place where I am asking myself if he truly is in love with me. His actions says yes but there are some shady areas. I place such a high standard on what love is because I love hard. Please if you don’t mind share with me the good and bad and what you learned about their personality. Thanks a lot!!

i've had plenty of experiences with pisces sun males in the past. but you've got to be specific in your question.

i believe there are several types of pisces men though. From what i've seen of our uncles,

1) the uncle who works at his farm, for many years; he's a workaholic for many years. When he discovered that the farm was going to be lost before retirement, it broke him.
it was if all his family inheritance and family working future was going to disappear. but i feel this is with anyone right? you work yourself to the bone everyday of your life, even weekends, and then your livelihood is going to be taken away. He was focused on his work alot but he had no problems with his relationship with his wife, because he was there everyday with her by her side, while she cooked and cleaned for him.

2) the other pisces sun uncle is a traveler and motorcycle rider even in his retirement age.lol (note. i know several like this in the past but not retirement age lol)
he is married to a double libra Scorpio mars, but dont know her rising so she might be Scorpio moon, but maybe she is double libra because he has aries mars, and his aries mars might sit in the 7th house...it is highly likely. similar to my sister's mars. 7th housers wth other libra dominant/7th housers.
he is happy and does well for himself. he has a taurus moon. so he enjoys luxury and the comfy things in life.

so basically every pisces man is different and who they choose as their partners too.

you'll have to post your pisces man's placements, to give some people a better understanding.

i forget to add with our uncle who has the farm, when our aunt went through cancer, he was there for her, which is why he lost the farm; he was getting older and spent 40 years everyday working at the farm even when he was with his father , and when aunty got cancer, he took care of her. What a LUCKY woman she is. My mother in law told Leo aunty that she is very very Lucky indeed. She cried and said that she knows she is, but she felt so weak during the cancer, and that she felt like a burden to her husband when so many years she was the one who took care of him. They do have a beautiful marriage.

Never think u can control a aqua

Never think u can control a aqua

Thank you for your replies,
Okay this is the situation which has a whole lot more to the plot but at the current time this is what’s bothering me. I will also try to keep it short but know that’s not going to happen because I would like to give the details to analyze a full picture of why I am feeling how I am and also to be fair (this scenario is one portion). So ill refer back to things that has happened throughout the relationship but later I am going to paint the whole picture. This is just a start. I am in a long term relationship with a man whom I am in love with. We live together, share a life, know each others families and friends ect. and plan to marry each other. I would say that we at the planning stage to make sure we have a stable future together. We have two children. I’m going to go back to how we met because this is where the problem lies. We met while working for the same company in two different departments. First off I never had a relationship with someone I worked with. He had asked me out to lunch I said no because I was new to the company and I wanted to focus on my work. A couple of months later we started to date but we had determined to keep it private. I remember the very first time we went on a date he said that he wanted to lay a foundation of truth and be honest with me that he had dated someone from the job for about 2 or not even and it never developed into a relationship or anything because A felt that he was also talking to someone else at the job who is B and started to spread nasty rumors about him. I have determined that it ended because he was seen going to lunch with B.

I didn’t know who the B person was because I never asked. He never told me these details because I told him it did not matter which I realize later on I should have actually had conversation because the details ended up coming out later on in our relationship over time but I didn’t think anything of because of the picture he had painted of the A person and it was basically not a relationship at all. I told him as long as he is not seeing someone else we are good and thanked him for telling me. Now fast forward, we end up in a relationship. One day I go to lunch. I was having a bad day and decided to have lunch in my car so I can rest. That’s when I see him going into B’s car to go have lunch. Her body language was that as if she was on a date. He acted casual. It so happens my car was facing the rare of her car but in the row 2 over. She gets in and before he gets in he looks at my car and see’s me in it. He stands there and stares at me for a good 6 seconds. He gets in. The car reverses and stops for like 2 minutes while she is in mid reverse. I turn my head away for the car because now my Aqua red flags go up. I believe that at this time he is thinking should he get out of the car and what can he do to get out. But he does not. The car ends up driving off. I start thinking okay who is this person and how often does he go to lunch with her.

I determined that I would have not know because when I first started and used to go to lunch early before the normal lunch hour with another woman who trained me and a male who was on our team and he knew this. We went in a group. I stop going to lunch with her specifically because she was always complaining about the job and the people. I did not like that and didn’t want drama like that. My lunch break should be peaceful not stressful. Right After lunch he comes to my department snooping around as if he is working. I pay it no mind. When I get off work he calls me and acts as if everything is normal but I hear him smiling in his voice. I told him we needed to talk and could he meet me at my place because he was not doing anything anyways. We ended up having a back and forth session because 1 he was too lazy to drive and 2 I wanted to squash what I thought was going on behind my back and wanted to move forward. Finally I said okay we will not talk about this tomorrow or any other day, its okay. I had determined that I was going to cut him off.

He tells me that he and B are friends. He then goes on to say that this is the same senario of why him an A are not together because she thought something was going on. He says people assumed that they were together and she listened to gossip. We never had a detailed conversation and that is why I'm questioning. I told him I wasn't comfortable with it and if he was eating lunch with another woman then it should be in a group of people. This is my opinion. You all may not agree but I want to know what you think. I feel that if you find yourself in a serious relationship with someone whom you work with and you are keeping it quite you should not go to lunch one on one with the opposite sex especially if you don't go to lunch with your spouse and if you don't want to raise any red flags to co-workers or your spouse. Im going to tell u later on why I feel this way based on what he is saying months and years later after this situation. Basically at the time of the argument he claim they were only friends with B and A had issues. We also talked about trust in this conversation which I gathered with. None the less I was still on edge for a while because he continued going to lunch with B on different occasions and I know this because once I went to go get lunch and and my food wasn't ready so I sat in my car to wait. Low behold I saw him leaving another place in his car with B. I never said anything so instead I decided I was going to start testing him. I would tell him let's do lunch. He never wanted to have lunch with me and was on edge till finally he said okay after we talked like 3 times about it. Every time we were to have lunch he would forget or he would have already eaten or was planned with another coworker. Finally I said okay I'm not asking any more an it was ridiculous for me to ask my SO to lunch. Then I noticed a change that he had stopped going to lunch period. I want to back track a little because he had explained to me he was under a lot of shame from what had happened with the two women and he was low profile because of gossip.I saw the humility and humbleness in him when we first met without even knowing the situation and why did such a nice guy have cloud over his head.

Now this particular woman who is B would give me these weird nasty looks. Sizing me up and down. I would walk into the room for example and say good morning and speak and she would not. I honestly believe that she knows that he is my SO. I just feel that way in my gut. Then there came a period where she began to act friendly towards me however I kept my distance when I realized she had some type of history for what ever it was with my SO.
So fast forward. He gets promoted to another position but at another office building that is near mines. His reason for wanting this position is that he needs a change, to make more money, future positions that where opening up for him and the negative impact it has had on him not being able to move around and grow to different departments in our building because people had negative views of him. I felt happy for him and encouraged him especially if it meant bringing home more bacon. When we spoke about his promotion of course he brought the whole situation up. Some of the things he said was that he had stopped having lunch with the woman because I thought something was going on. Other people thought things even when he used to eat lunch with another woman.

During this conversation after is when I realized B had something to do with the situation because in the beginning I was assuming. He wanted to move on with his career and reputation. Once he left, he has started picking me up and taking me to lunch once in a while. Which is not something I care about or to do because I like the space we have while at work. That whole lunch episode has gone away but I still help my suspicion. Not too long after he transferred is when a lot of our problems started which I will detail later. Jump forward a few months he goes out and gets drunk with a cousin who was visiting from out of town. I did not go with them that night. The other problem we have is his social drinking. Now this particular night I got into a mini argument with his cousin because she did not want for him to come home because he was drunk and she was visiting. She didn’t understand that we have had issues in the past about his drinking, the trouble it got him in and how it is affecting his life. He got upset with me because I didn’t want to go in an argument with his cousin who is in her 20’s. Like 24. I felt it was not normal for me to be explaining to a 24 year old why my SO needs to come home. Anyways, I had to drive across town to pick him up because he could not drive. On the way home is when we have conversation. We talk about everything that has happened in our relationship. The conversation comes up again about the B person who he went to lunch with and he admits to me that the woman liked him and he once had something for her a long time ago but that they never dated and she had drama in her life with other men. They just talked as friends. Fast forward again. He was invited out to drinks after work by another female co-worker from by building where he no longer works. They were celebrating the birthday of the manager. To make a long story short he was the only male with about 5 other women. One of them was B. I found out because I was on the way to a locate market near the job and passed his car at a restaurant in the same plaza as the supermarket. He has one of the cars that when you see it you know it’s his car. It’s the only one like that in town. So I called him and he did not answer my call. He called me exactly after he had left and claimed he never saw the call and acted strange about his where he had been. The whole thing pissed me off because I don’t like being lied to especially if your not hiding something. We got into a heated argument and he did not come until the Sunday. This happened on a Friday. I asked him if B was the one who invited him out to join them and he told me know. Which I found out was a lie because me being an investigator I found out he had spoken to her that day but he tried to say it was another woman that invited him. He told me he did not even know she would be there. These entire woman I know and talk to except for B. All of them are either married or in a long term relationship. Fast fo

Fast forward again which brings us to today. He has told me that one of the woman from my office called and asked him, hey isn’t your birthday coming up. That she and a group of others wanted to take him out for drinks for his b day. I know that B will be one of the people there. He says he does not know exactly who is going to be there and if they are bringing other people. I said to him okay, are you taking me with you. He says no. his argument is that he doesn’t want people in his business and then rumors about him will start or me and if he gets a position in this building later on people would know. He says the reason him and B where not together is because he was uncomfortable about it being public. If this is true, I am questioning why he still went to lunch with this other woman and left people to assume anything if he had cared about his reputation. So I say to him, okay you are comfortable with taking me with you when you and your current co-workers who are in another building go out for drinks but not the ones you no longer work with. He has claimed before long time ago that he doesn’t associate with them like that but yet he is ready to go and hang out even with people he does not know. I asked him, if you are now going to call this person your friend, why as a grown man you are worried about what someone will say. A friend does not gossip about another friend. And if you are not hiding things why is it a big deal for your coworkers to know who you’re SO if this is the person your going to spend the rest of your life with. Please let me know if I am over reacting and your thoughts and then I will paint the entire big picture later on. And sorry for any huge typos.