krysrenee7
@krysrenee7
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Please don't do this!
Granted, some people don't answer their phones or aren't willing to hang out b/c they're playing mind games and/or b/c they're not ready for what you want (friendship, commitment, etc.) BUT I'm not talking about the people or Aquas who play the distance card. I'm talking about the Aquas who genuienly are telling the truth & don't have anything to hide even though they didn't answer their phone for 5 minutes or have time to hang out with you today.
It's very UNNATTRACTIVE to us (and many other people) when we're around someone who throws a hissy fit all b/c they can't get their way or all b/c they can't respect how we tick differently than them.
When someone doesn't answer my calls, I give them the benefit of the doubt; I don't go freaking/flipping out & accusing them of anything. Now if them not answering becomes a pattern, that's a different story. BUT even then, I won't continue to entertain or even begin to try to make someone feel bad if I get the sense that they're not that into me; hell I'll just do them a favor & move on! Trying to make someone feel bad/guilty when they're not that into you to begin with is a battle you'll lose EVERY time!
Stop freaking out and/or jumping the gun all b/c we have a life outside of you! We don't go cussing you out, threatening to take the friendship/relationship away or accusing you of crazy things all just b/c you didn't answer our phone calls! If you push ignore, we'll say "Damn, that sucks. Oh well, maybe he/she's busy!" It's that simple!
Sometimes a person ignores you simply b/c they just want some alone "me" time. And the WORST thing anyone can do when a person has made the DECISION to need some space, is to try to make them feel bad for it. It'll just make them irritated with you & if anything, make them want MORE space/distance from you. When a person needs space, they mean it.
And if any of you feel that you're dating/with someone who doesn't ever give you the time of day, walk away & move on. But if you know deep down that you're just having a hissy fit all b/c you're selfish/greedy/inconsiderate, DON'T expect for us to entertain that side of you OR think it's cute b/c we won't/don't! TRUST ME!
It's very UNNATTRACTIVE to us (and many other people) when we're around someone who throws a hissy fit all b/c they can't get their way or all b/c they can't respect how we tick differently than them.
When someone doesn't answer my calls, I give them the benefit of the doubt; I don't go freaking/flipping out & accusing them of anything. Now if them not answering becomes a pattern, that's a different story. BUT even then, I won't continue to entertain or even begin to try to make someone feel bad if I get the sense that they're not that into me; hell I'll just do them a favor & move on! Trying to make someone feel bad/guilty when they're not that into you to begin with is a battle you'll lose EVERY time!
Stop freaking out and/or jumping the gun all b/c we have a life outside of you! We don't go cussing you out, threatening to take the friendship/relationship away or accusing you of crazy things all just b/c you didn't answer our phone calls! If you push ignore, we'll say "Damn, that sucks. Oh well, maybe he/she's busy!" It's that simple!
Sometimes a person ignores you simply b/c they just want some alone "me" time. And the WORST thing anyone can do when a person has made the DECISION to need some space, is to try to make them feel bad for it. It'll just make them irritated with you & if anything, make them want MORE space/distance from you. When a person needs space, they mean it.
And if any of you feel that you're dating/with someone who doesn't ever give you the time of day, walk away & move on. But if you know deep down that you're just having a hissy fit all b/c you're selfish/greedy/inconsiderate, DON'T expect for us to entertain that side of you OR think it's cute b/c we won't/don't! TRUST ME!
I find this post hilarious!! Why? because everything you said is EXACTLY what an aqua does in the beginning. LMAO. Monopolizes all of your time as friends or g/f/b/f for weeks, months, years, and then..POOF! They are gone out of the blue, often times without a word. And the person/people left behind are left like wtf?? hell, I rarely called the one I know..he always called us...for the last 2 years!! Well, until I pissed him apparently by standing up for myself! I knew he'd POOF..I could tell before he did it. LOL..and then throw me a bone once in awhile like he never left being friends. BS!
I'm glad I never got involved in a 1/1 relationship with one and feel really sorry for those who have and gotton really hurt.
Oh the one I speak of, he went after me when he already had a g/f(and we used to all hang out together) and I have an s/o (an Aries I've been with for 9 years and we have a child together) Our girls were bff's and now since HE's decided to go POOF! his daughter should too. That is so unfair for our kids who have feelings of their own and want to be friends. And he isn't young..he's late 40's!!
I swear some will never grow up. And I see his future as an old man sitting alone in front of the tv with a tv tray wondering where everyone went and why he's alone..and never facing the fact its his own fault. Sad indeed..
I'm glad I never got involved in a 1/1 relationship with one and feel really sorry for those who have and gotton really hurt.
Oh the one I speak of, he went after me when he already had a g/f(and we used to all hang out together) and I have an s/o (an Aries I've been with for 9 years and we have a child together) Our girls were bff's and now since HE's decided to go POOF! his daughter should too. That is so unfair for our kids who have feelings of their own and want to be friends. And he isn't young..he's late 40's!!
I swear some will never grow up. And I see his future as an old man sitting alone in front of the tv with a tv tray wondering where everyone went and why he's alone..and never facing the fact its his own fault. Sad indeed..
BTW..I'm cap-aqua cusp so I get the space thing. But I never ignore a phone call. I'll call or text back that I'll get back to them @ such a time, or later, etc. But I always let person know I am not ignoring them. I can't think of anyone in my life I ever HAD to ignore..guess its not my humanitarian nature🙂
I'm currently dating an aqua and I'm a scorp. Krysrenee, I'm curious as to who you are talking about and what their sign is.
I get the whole needing space thing and wanting that alone time. When I text or reach out to my aqua and he doesn't respond, I just leave him be and let him come around when he's ready, but you best believe I ain't waiting around for him either. However, I text my aqua to wish him a Happy Thanksgiving but received no response...and I thought that was just plain rude. Space or not...if someone wishes you a 'happy' anything you should at least respond. I usually don't trip when he does this to me...but for some reason, maybe because of the holiday, it bothered me that he didn't reply.
I also agree with Jules69. I understand the whole space thing...and my aqua has pulled the distance thing on me before and actually I think he's doing it right now, hence the no reply on Thanksgiving. BUT, I think it's different when someone goes from one extreme to the next. Someone who gives you their time and attention, then all of a sudden seems like they're avoiding you like the plague, does make you go WTF. ESPECIALLY, if you've reached out more than once or multiple times with absolutely no response, and I'm not talking about reaching out as in you call/text all in the same day or even in a few days time. But when someone begins to wonder or ask themselves if something is wrong, I can completely understand why. However, I also think it's important on how you handle the situation. If you feel someone doesn't give a fuck...then act like you don't give a fuck right back. I couldn't stand to show any clinginess or neediness, therefore I wouldn't ask my aqua a million questions or give him a guilt trip for his distance. I'm the type to just get distant right back and let things naturally even out afterwards. Although I will have to mention to him about Thanksgiving because that one I can't let slide....sorry.
Other than that....I get what you're saying and I'm sorry someone made you so mad.
I get the whole needing space thing and wanting that alone time. When I text or reach out to my aqua and he doesn't respond, I just leave him be and let him come around when he's ready, but you best believe I ain't waiting around for him either. However, I text my aqua to wish him a Happy Thanksgiving but received no response...and I thought that was just plain rude. Space or not...if someone wishes you a 'happy' anything you should at least respond. I usually don't trip when he does this to me...but for some reason, maybe because of the holiday, it bothered me that he didn't reply.
I also agree with Jules69. I understand the whole space thing...and my aqua has pulled the distance thing on me before and actually I think he's doing it right now, hence the no reply on Thanksgiving. BUT, I think it's different when someone goes from one extreme to the next. Someone who gives you their time and attention, then all of a sudden seems like they're avoiding you like the plague, does make you go WTF. ESPECIALLY, if you've reached out more than once or multiple times with absolutely no response, and I'm not talking about reaching out as in you call/text all in the same day or even in a few days time. But when someone begins to wonder or ask themselves if something is wrong, I can completely understand why. However, I also think it's important on how you handle the situation. If you feel someone doesn't give a fuck...then act like you don't give a fuck right back. I couldn't stand to show any clinginess or neediness, therefore I wouldn't ask my aqua a million questions or give him a guilt trip for his distance. I'm the type to just get distant right back and let things naturally even out afterwards. Although I will have to mention to him about Thanksgiving because that one I can't let slide....sorry.
Other than that....I get what you're saying and I'm sorry someone made you so mad.
Posted by ScorpioDreamer
Do all the Aquas decide to go distant at the same time or something?
That's so funny because my friend is also dating an aqua and he got distant on her as well!
Here's my thing. I'm aware of the Aquas who pull the whole distance/space thing with some kind of hidden intention, BUT I'm not talking about the Aquas who can't ever make up their minds about someone thus only to disappear. I'm talking about Aquas like me who don't play all of those dumb "Disappear to reappear" games.
Of course I answer my phone whenever I actually can; it's not like I purposely ignore someone just for the hell of it. When I'm free/available, I answer my phone and/or I'm free to hang out. BUT if I don't answer my phone, I expect for the other person not to freak out and/or make me feel bad for actually having other engagements/plans for once!
Not all Aquas are the same. I'm the 1 Aqua who when I actually don't answer my phone, it's b/c I actually AM busy and/or doing something! And if I get crazy/accusatory text messages before I'm even able to literally dial their number to call them back, that's a problem!
I don't play the disappear to reappear game. If I like someone, I allow things to go as far as they can. If I'm slowly starting to feel myself get attached to someone, I don't respond by pulling away from them. I fully accept the great emotions I'm feeling for them AND tell them. I make sure my actions match up with what I say & how I feel. To me, love/feelings doesn't = distance/disappearing. I recognize that it does to some Aquas BUT not me!
And I think it's unfair to the Aquas who generally ARE busy some times that we have to be made to feel bad all b/c we're not 100% invested in someone 24 hours a day. That gets really old! And especially considering that very same person probably would want their space & understanding if the tables were turned.
Just like it's not cool to disappear on someone w/o giving them a valid reason (or even having a valid reason at all), it's not cool to penalize someone for needing space and/or "me time" either. I'm Just Sayin' =P
Of course I answer my phone whenever I actually can; it's not like I purposely ignore someone just for the hell of it. When I'm free/available, I answer my phone and/or I'm free to hang out. BUT if I don't answer my phone, I expect for the other person not to freak out and/or make me feel bad for actually having other engagements/plans for once!
Not all Aquas are the same. I'm the 1 Aqua who when I actually don't answer my phone, it's b/c I actually AM busy and/or doing something! And if I get crazy/accusatory text messages before I'm even able to literally dial their number to call them back, that's a problem!
I don't play the disappear to reappear game. If I like someone, I allow things to go as far as they can. If I'm slowly starting to feel myself get attached to someone, I don't respond by pulling away from them. I fully accept the great emotions I'm feeling for them AND tell them. I make sure my actions match up with what I say & how I feel. To me, love/feelings doesn't = distance/disappearing. I recognize that it does to some Aquas BUT not me!
And I think it's unfair to the Aquas who generally ARE busy some times that we have to be made to feel bad all b/c we're not 100% invested in someone 24 hours a day. That gets really old! And especially considering that very same person probably would want their space & understanding if the tables were turned.
Just like it's not cool to disappear on someone w/o giving them a valid reason (or even having a valid reason at all), it's not cool to penalize someone for needing space and/or "me time" either. I'm Just Sayin' =P
Maybe it's just me. Aside from the whole zodiac thing, I need my space period.
I don't mind affection but damn don't expect for me to be up your ass all day either.
I don't mind investing MOST (keyword) of my time into you if I'm really into you, but damn don't expect for me to invest ALL my time into you though.
I don't mind talking to you and/or answering my phone while I'm at work or if I'm busy multi-tasking but damn understand that sometimes I'm just too busy to talk. After all, what would you gain if I answered the phone & could barely hold a convo with you b/c I'm too busy to give you my undivided attention? Nothing!
I don't mind hanging with you even daily but damn, sometimes I might want to entertain/talk to/hang out with some of my OTHER friends/family too! And I shouldn't and don't want to feel bad for that either!
I don't mind spending my spare time with you but DAMN, sometimes I do like to be to myself. And if that's the case, I always communicate that to the other person so they're not caught off guard or surprised. I shouldn't be made to feel bad just b/c I know how to have fun when I'm alone and/or entertain my damn self!
That's all I'm saying guys. And hey, if I just start dating someone whom I'm feeling a little bit, I might not disappear on them but then again I'm not gonna go all in either! It's weird...the people who jump all in too early on are made to feel bad for doing so (they get called naive, impulsive or told that they need to take things slow) BUT yet the people who actually do take things slow, go about things at a pace they are comfortable with & those who don't jump all in are ALSO made to feel bad simply b/c they're not willing to invest everything (time, energy, money, etc.) too early! I don't get it!
I don't mind affection but damn don't expect for me to be up your ass all day either.
I don't mind investing MOST (keyword) of my time into you if I'm really into you, but damn don't expect for me to invest ALL my time into you though.
I don't mind talking to you and/or answering my phone while I'm at work or if I'm busy multi-tasking but damn understand that sometimes I'm just too busy to talk. After all, what would you gain if I answered the phone & could barely hold a convo with you b/c I'm too busy to give you my undivided attention? Nothing!
I don't mind hanging with you even daily but damn, sometimes I might want to entertain/talk to/hang out with some of my OTHER friends/family too! And I shouldn't and don't want to feel bad for that either!
I don't mind spending my spare time with you but DAMN, sometimes I do like to be to myself. And if that's the case, I always communicate that to the other person so they're not caught off guard or surprised. I shouldn't be made to feel bad just b/c I know how to have fun when I'm alone and/or entertain my damn self!
That's all I'm saying guys. And hey, if I just start dating someone whom I'm feeling a little bit, I might not disappear on them but then again I'm not gonna go all in either! It's weird...the people who jump all in too early on are made to feel bad for doing so (they get called naive, impulsive or told that they need to take things slow) BUT yet the people who actually do take things slow, go about things at a pace they are comfortable with & those who don't jump all in are ALSO made to feel bad simply b/c they're not willing to invest everything (time, energy, money, etc.) too early! I don't get it!
Posted by 69virgo
@scorpdreamer...all the shit k7 saying is bullshit...they get just as fucking mad as other people do when they think someone is ignoring them...so you can tell that shit to somebody else...scorpdreamer just do all the shit he's doing to you to him...and see what happen..he'll start acting like a lil fucking air headed little boy..LOL..yall aquas crack me up...
See, that's where you're wrong! Not all Aquas are the same! That'd be like me saying all Virgos are judgmental, picky & annoying little shxts! I bet you'd correct me, now wouldn't you!?
I completely require my space during certain times so it's easier for me to relax & be understanding when others need the same thing. I'm not selfish. The difference b/w me & some other people is that when I need "me" time I actually communicate that to the other person. I don't just up & disappear. Some Aquas do that, some don't. And I'm one of them who doesn't so of course I hate being talked to/dealt with as if I WAS one of those kinds of Aquas b/c I'm not!
If someone doesn't communicate with me & tell me why they disappeared, of course I'll be confused and upset like most people would. BUT, if someone communicates that with me, I'm actually old & mature enough to put my own selfish needs to the side & think about someone ELSE's needs for a minute. That's what ADULTS do period (that has nothing to do with astrology).
I'm not a Scorpio! I'm not the kind of person who dishes out jealousy but yet can't take it. I'm not the kind of person who ignores everyone but yet can't take it when it's done to me. I go into every situation ASSUMING that others have a life & hey, I don't flip out just b/c someone is living theirs!
I'm not a Scorpio! I'm not the kind of person who dishes out jealousy but yet can't take it. I'm not the kind of person who ignores everyone but yet can't take it when it's done to me. I go into every situation ASSUMING that others have a life & hey, I don't flip out just b/c someone is living theirs!
I'm a scorp and I don't do this stuff.
And to be honest, when I first start dating someone, I DON'T expect for them to be ready to dish out/invest 100% of their time, energy, money, emotions, etc. to me. I can actually respect the person who isn't afraid to make me aware of the life they have that's OUTSIDE of me!
I start out letting each person in my life slowly BUT surely. I don't start out calling them 24-7 & being all up under them anyways. Some people may like that stuff, but not me. And I'm not going to change all just b/c someone wants to be selfish & steal all of my time.
I have to be with someone who doesn't expect for me to come running just b/c they called. If I like you, I'll answer/come when I CAN, but if I can't, you're damn right I don't expect to be penalized or knocked for it!
How would YOU people feel if you got told off all b/c you didn't answer your phone when you were in the shower? How would you feel if someone made you feel bad all b/c you pushed "ignore" to them while you were trying to calm down an irate friend on the other line? How would you feel if you constantly had to explain yourself to someone else? It would get OLD! REAL OLD! I'm sure none of you would be saying what you're saying now if you were in those situations b/c it's annoying to MOST people period. Some people have too much time on their hands!
Just b/c I don't say "I love you" in their ear every 5 minutes doesn't mean that I love them any less. Just b/c I don't tongue you down in public doesn't mean I'm not hot for you physically! Just b/c I don't answer my phone at 5pm during rush hour traffic doesn't mean I'm not into you & it's def. NOT code for have a temper trantrum!
Hell if anything, the only time I actually start disappearing on PURPOSE is when people start getting to clingy. THAT'S when I'll start disappearing and/or ignoring you! If I have good intentions with someone & if I know I'm doing right & just handling my business, NO ONE can make me feel bad for some imaginary bullshxt they came up with in their insecure minds. And the ONLY people who have a problem with what I just said usually ARE the ones who think the world revolves around them! Sorry, other signs might put up with/entertain that, but I don't!
I start out letting each person in my life slowly BUT surely. I don't start out calling them 24-7 & being all up under them anyways. Some people may like that stuff, but not me. And I'm not going to change all just b/c someone wants to be selfish & steal all of my time.
I have to be with someone who doesn't expect for me to come running just b/c they called. If I like you, I'll answer/come when I CAN, but if I can't, you're damn right I don't expect to be penalized or knocked for it!
How would YOU people feel if you got told off all b/c you didn't answer your phone when you were in the shower? How would you feel if someone made you feel bad all b/c you pushed "ignore" to them while you were trying to calm down an irate friend on the other line? How would you feel if you constantly had to explain yourself to someone else? It would get OLD! REAL OLD! I'm sure none of you would be saying what you're saying now if you were in those situations b/c it's annoying to MOST people period. Some people have too much time on their hands!
Just b/c I don't say "I love you" in their ear every 5 minutes doesn't mean that I love them any less. Just b/c I don't tongue you down in public doesn't mean I'm not hot for you physically! Just b/c I don't answer my phone at 5pm during rush hour traffic doesn't mean I'm not into you & it's def. NOT code for have a temper trantrum!
Hell if anything, the only time I actually start disappearing on PURPOSE is when people start getting to clingy. THAT'S when I'll start disappearing and/or ignoring you! If I have good intentions with someone & if I know I'm doing right & just handling my business, NO ONE can make me feel bad for some imaginary bullshxt they came up with in their insecure minds. And the ONLY people who have a problem with what I just said usually ARE the ones who think the world revolves around them! Sorry, other signs might put up with/entertain that, but I don't!
Posted by krysrenee7
It's weird...the people who jump all in too early on are made to feel bad for doing so (they get called naive, impulsive or told that they need to take things slow) BUT yet the people who actually do take things slow, go about things at a pace they are comfortable with & those who don't jump all in are ALSO made to feel bad simply b/c they're not willing to invest everything (time, energy, money, etc.) too early! I don't get it!
That's so true...and very unfair for both.
Posted by candyapples88I'm not a Scorpio! I'm not the kind of person who dishes out jealousy but yet can't take it. I'm not the kind of person who ignores everyone but yet can't take it when it's done to me. I go into every situation ASSUMING that others have a life & hey, I don't flip out just b/c someone is living theirs!
I'm a scorp and I don't do this stuff.click to expand
Exactly! I knew someone was going to correct me. I can stereotype Scorps all day but the reality though is that not all Scorps are the same. And as an Aqua, I'd like that same respect. Every Aqua doesn't handle things the same. Every Aqua doesn't disappear. Every Aqua isn't trying to play some psychological mindgame. And I don't want to be dealt with and/or treated as if I actually WAS 1 of those types of Aquas. That's not fair. That'll mean I'm damned if I do & damned if I don't
K..you are a big help and asset to have here as an Aqua🙂 You are more evolved than most🙂 You gave me a kick in the arse when I already knew the answer but just needed someone to say it(type it)out loud.
But..I know always a but,lol...you can't expect others to think as you do or feel/not feel as you do..that isn't realistic.
SD..our friend did have routine disappearance but he'd hate you to know that,hahaha. keep in mind, we've known him 2 years... usually 1-3 weeks disappearance when we didn't know him well. But for the last 6 months, there was no disappearance at all...until mid oct, was the first time he quit answering our calls(we rarely ever call him anyways)and went a little over 2 weeks with no calls(he called us) and we haven't seen him in almost a month. I called him out on several things he was rude about and imo, that's partly why. And he couldn't get in my pants and got bored? I dunno...he seems to come running on the phone if he thinks I'm mad though. I ain't chasing a friend-just be one already,kwim? and yes, I am done!! it's not my nature to get mad and be all negative.
We heard from another he has a new g/f(within 2 weeks of his g/f dumping him,lol, so much for his sob story of being hurt)BUT he has never told US about her and we are/were really is only true friends, lol. Go to a picnic he has and all the people there besides us are family, employees, neighbor,people he did jobs for. He doesn't hang out with 1/2 the people there, they are aquaintences...too funny!
SD and candyapples..they suck you in like that...heart, mind and soul and they know whose vulnerable and who isn't. Some men go after the low self-esteem women because it boosts their ego. Don't wait around for him hon..he ain't worth it if he's treating you that way. there are good men out there. You just might have to kiss a few frogs first 🙂
And dance your saddness away..Lady Gaga babe! LOL Your worth something and he is not worthy of you 🙂
69virgo..ain't that the truth..I wasn't even in a relationship with our friend but i could tell when we were out in groups if a man talked to me, he got miffed. Not even my own s/o got mad.
But..I know always a but,lol...you can't expect others to think as you do or feel/not feel as you do..that isn't realistic.
SD..our friend did have routine disappearance but he'd hate you to know that,hahaha. keep in mind, we've known him 2 years... usually 1-3 weeks disappearance when we didn't know him well. But for the last 6 months, there was no disappearance at all...until mid oct, was the first time he quit answering our calls(we rarely ever call him anyways)and went a little over 2 weeks with no calls(he called us) and we haven't seen him in almost a month. I called him out on several things he was rude about and imo, that's partly why. And he couldn't get in my pants and got bored? I dunno...he seems to come running on the phone if he thinks I'm mad though. I ain't chasing a friend-just be one already,kwim? and yes, I am done!! it's not my nature to get mad and be all negative.
We heard from another he has a new g/f(within 2 weeks of his g/f dumping him,lol, so much for his sob story of being hurt)BUT he has never told US about her and we are/were really is only true friends, lol. Go to a picnic he has and all the people there besides us are family, employees, neighbor,people he did jobs for. He doesn't hang out with 1/2 the people there, they are aquaintences...too funny!
SD and candyapples..they suck you in like that...heart, mind and soul and they know whose vulnerable and who isn't. Some men go after the low self-esteem women because it boosts their ego. Don't wait around for him hon..he ain't worth it if he's treating you that way. there are good men out there. You just might have to kiss a few frogs first 🙂
And dance your saddness away..Lady Gaga babe! LOL Your worth something and he is not worthy of you 🙂
69virgo..ain't that the truth..I wasn't even in a relationship with our friend but i could tell when we were out in groups if a man talked to me, he got miffed. Not even my own s/o got mad.
'GET OUR treetrunkING RELATIONSHIP OUT OF HER HEAD AND PUT IT IN HER HEART'
69virgo..YEP 🙂
69virgo..YEP 🙂
good post.
and as far as scorpios go... i've found that some of them can be like aquas at times.
and as far as scorpios go... i've found that some of them can be like aquas at times.
@69Virgo and how is that working for her...that scares me to death to let my heart take over and over rule the sense and logic.
And when I was in love with my husband my heart still didnt have nothing to do with it, but now I try to get those feeling back and I honestly dont know how to open my heart back up....but i guess the trust is not there anymore.
And when I was in love with my husband my heart still didnt have nothing to do with it, but now I try to get those feeling back and I honestly dont know how to open my heart back up....but i guess the trust is not there anymore.
"space" means different things to different people I guess.
Posted by ScorpioDreamer
> Besides, it's all about to end soon anyway. As soon as I see him again I've decided to tell him my feelings for him...it's been long enough. I have to finally just be brave enough and do it. Either he'll return those feelings or he wont. Or if I never hear from him again then that will be my answer.
SD, why does telling him how you feel about him bring you down like this? Or is it just me?
ive noticed one thing...all aquas are diffrent yet the same. espacially about the space thing...and if you ignore them they go wtf all the time. i do find it rude when you wish them a happy anything and they ignore you...even if you feel they are good friends. one response on your me time wont kill you. pluss you have to figure...they are a diffrent sign so they wont understand this me time...its good to give warnings out. if you just poof people will go wtf...even if they are emotionally strong. no one can take your freedom so why bother worrying? im goin days without talkin to an aqua friend haha. i have no idea if she thinks im ignoring her or respecting her space thing...i fgure she will let me know. iseem to attract you aliens all the time though...but in reallity id rather some chick that will understand my feelings than one who would ignore me days at a time. just saying.
'if you ignore them they go wtf all the time. '
because THEY ignore you, they just ASSUME everyone else does to.
And then when you CAN call them back, they in turn IGNORE you.
That's some crazy messed up butter!
'i do find it rude when you wish them a happy anything and they ignore you...even if you feel they are good friends.'
cause many aren't happy with anything.
one response on your me time wont kill you. pluss you have to figure...they are a diffrent sign so they wont understand this me time...its good to give warnings out. if you just poof people will go wtf...even if they are emotionally strong.
EXACTLY! Being cap/aqua cusp, I get the space thing, but i always return calls or pick up. I just might say, "I'll have to call you back." And then do what I say I'm gonna do.
But you have to remember..most aquas are ME centered. And I'm finding a lot depends on their maturity level.
because THEY ignore you, they just ASSUME everyone else does to.
And then when you CAN call them back, they in turn IGNORE you.
That's some crazy messed up butter!
'i do find it rude when you wish them a happy anything and they ignore you...even if you feel they are good friends.'
cause many aren't happy with anything.
one response on your me time wont kill you. pluss you have to figure...they are a diffrent sign so they wont understand this me time...its good to give warnings out. if you just poof people will go wtf...even if they are emotionally strong.
EXACTLY! Being cap/aqua cusp, I get the space thing, but i always return calls or pick up. I just might say, "I'll have to call you back." And then do what I say I'm gonna do.
But you have to remember..most aquas are ME centered. And I'm finding a lot depends on their maturity level.
Posted by HappyCappy
if you just poof people will go wtf...even if they are emotionally strong. no one can take your freedom so why bother worrying?
That is really true when you think about it.
"Hell if anything, the only time I actually start disappearing on PURPOSE is when people start getting to clingy. THAT'S when I'll start disappearing and/or ignoring you! If I have good intentions with someone & if I know I'm doing right & just handling my business, NO ONE can make me feel bad for some imaginary bullshxt they came up with in their insecure minds. And the ONLY people who have a problem with what I just said usually ARE the ones who think the world revolves around them! Sorry, other signs might put up with/entertain that, but I don't!"
Kr is expressing the truth about their nature.
That is the key to aqua behavior which is quite normal for them and other signs, but I have definitely seen this in a couple of my aqua friends. They simply don't like for people to CLING to them. They love their freedom and it is true, they can't live without their freedom to explore their own adventures and likes to choose if others are part of that or not. When they don't want to be bothered, people consider them cold when all they want is their space. I give my aqua friend her space because shes told me she feels like she cant literally breathe when people are trying to breathe down her neck of invade in on her SPACE.
Kr is expressing the truth about their nature.
That is the key to aqua behavior which is quite normal for them and other signs, but I have definitely seen this in a couple of my aqua friends. They simply don't like for people to CLING to them. They love their freedom and it is true, they can't live without their freedom to explore their own adventures and likes to choose if others are part of that or not. When they don't want to be bothered, people consider them cold when all they want is their space. I give my aqua friend her space because shes told me she feels like she cant literally breathe when people are trying to breathe down her neck of invade in on her SPACE.
Posted by pathfinder
"space" means different things to different people I guess.
Very true. One thing about Aquas is that we ARE actually prectictable in the "space" category. That is ONE area we are always the same in; when we want our space, we want it. So it surprises me when people get all confused/torn during the phases when we Aquas need their space. This is the 1 area where we are persistent & go about things the same way every time.
I def. think some Aquas need to better communicate their exact definition of "space" to their partners. Some Aquas are horrible at communicating the times they are about to need space to their partners. I think most people are ok with Aquas when they need space, it's moreso that they can't really appreciate someone who just ups & disappears (no matter how valid the reason) w/o them knowing what's going on 1st. In these situations, the Aquas take it as the other person not appreciating/understanding their need for space, while the other person is like, "Oh I get it, just tell me next time so I won't be so confused!" It's just a matter of communication
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by pathfinder
"space" means different things to different people I guess.
I think most people are ok with Aquas when they need space, it's moreso that they can't really appreciate someone who just ups & disappears (no matter how valid the reason) w/o them knowing what's going on 1st.click to expand
This is very true. The disappearance is so abrupt that it almost makes you feel like you've done something wrong or that your aqua is never coming back. Normally, those are usually the real reasons why people just up and disappear. So for a noncommunicating aqua to go about it in the same fashion when they need their space...it does bring up those anxieties.
But at the same time...I can see why it would be hard to tell a partner, "Oh I need space" because it sounds like you almost aren't feeling the person anymore or there are problems in the relationship that need to be thought about...or even that you're contemplating leaving the relationship. If someone doesn't understand the aqua way...they're just going to take it personal regardless if you communicate it or not.
Posted by ScorpioDreamer
Posted by pathfinder
SD, why does telling him how you feel about him bring you down like this? Or is it just me?
It's not so much that it brings me down. It just scares the hell out of me. Telling him my feelings is putting me out of my comfort zone. I'm a Scorpio...I don't take rejection well. I just don't go around telling people my feelings. The only time I will tell someone my feelings is if they have told me theirs first. Then and only then do I feel comfortable. I can't believe I'm actually going to go through with this, but I have to or I'll never be satisfied. It doesn't look like he's going to tell me his feelings for me (if he feels anything for me) anytime soon and this hot and cold mess is killing me. I really do just need to tell him how I feel and accept it and move on if he doesn't feel the same. I have no idea how he is going to react and therefor have no idea how I'm going to react. I mean damn, if he doesn't feel the same....how the hell am I going to hold back the tears? I NEVER cry in front of anyone....and God forbid I cry in front of him. I just need to tell him how I feel and then get the hell out of there. This is so hard for me.
Seriously...I'd rather lose an arm, a leg, a few fingers, or even die rather than tell someone my feelings.
SD, breathe. Breeeathe. You're too intense right now. You don't want this desperation, it's not peaceful and sounds more fear-based than anything positive. Why is loving him the way you do present such a burden? Will telling him you love him change you? YOu can still love this man without verbally telling him, can't you? If you are feeling this way, unless he is a totally out of touch with you, he FEELS it. He feels your intensity. Let it ride. Don't let this anxiety push you to do something you are not ready to do. Calm down, sweetie. You're Ok. If you need him to tell you first, then let him tell you first. Don't be so quick to give everything away without it costing him something as well.
🙂
SD..I think you should just forget him and move on. The stress isn't worth it.
I found out yesterday the aqua friend I spoke of in another thread..lied!(again manipulation) I'm done because there was NO reason for it.
I found out yesterday the aqua friend I spoke of in another thread..lied!(again manipulation) I'm done because there was NO reason for it.
'horrible at communicating the times they are about to need space to their partners.'
Naw i could tell with our friend but geeze how much and how long do they need. We aren't mind readers. And I'm not one for part time friendship on THEIR terms only. Screw that..that's just a freindship or relationship that is all ME centered, when THEy feel like it.
I have to lol when an aqua thinks years down the road after they have ignored/distanced someone that somehow they think that person is still a friend when they do decide to contact them again.
Naw i could tell with our friend but geeze how much and how long do they need. We aren't mind readers. And I'm not one for part time friendship on THEIR terms only. Screw that..that's just a freindship or relationship that is all ME centered, when THEy feel like it.
I have to lol when an aqua thinks years down the road after they have ignored/distanced someone that somehow they think that person is still a friend when they do decide to contact them again.
Posted by 69virgoPosted by She Devil
It just takes a certain man to put up with aquas...and i am one..😉click to expand
You are exactly right about that right man!!!
And good for you I'm glad you can hang because I'm just now realizing how much of a mess I really am. Guess I'm going through a phase now but you've given me hope....I got that venus in aqua too
YIKES KingofLibras. What a surly little man!
LOL. Anyway Krysrenee7, I love you for this post. Everything you're written is SO TRUE! Thanks, people dealing with aquarians need to reference this post!
LOL. Anyway Krysrenee7, I love you for this post. Everything you're written is SO TRUE! Thanks, people dealing with aquarians need to reference this post!
Posted by HappyCappy
i do find it rude when you wish them a happy anything and they ignore you...even if you feel they are good friends.
cause you used an emotion(happy) they often do not have silly. LOL
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We don't necessarily need space all the time, BUT when we DO need it, we def. don't want to feel bad for needing it. And if you try to make us feel bad for needing some "ME" time every blue moon, that's a battle you will ALWAYS LOSE every time!
We can love you more than life itself, BUT that doesn't mean we have to call you every 5 seconds or say "I love you" every 5 minutes! Nor does it mean we'll want to spend 24 hours a day with you!
We can be very interested in you BUT that doesn't mean that we ditch all of our friends/family all just so you can snatch up all of our time!
Now granted, some Aquas ignore you and/or give you the cold shoulder b/c they're too chicken to say, "I'm not that into you" BUT the majority of us ARE that into you, it's just that we have our own ways of going about dating/relationships.
If we don't answer the phone sometimes, it's not that we're ignoring you and/or that you did anything wrong. We might be at work, in the shower, washing our hands, being there for ANOTHER friend that means alot to us TOO, cooking, eating, taking a shxt, writing to YOU guys on Dxp (smirk), sleeping, etc.
Point is: STOP freakin' flipping out all just b/c we're not willing to devote 100% of our free time to you! If we like you, we'll make time for you. BUT don't try to fence us in & give us ultimatums; don't try to make us feel bad for simply being ourselves. We will give you all the time in the world, BUT when we need some "me" time we expect complete understanding!
If we don't answer our phones or if we can't hang out for ONCE, don't send us 5 page texts that say, "It's cool, I see you've found someone else!" PLEASE DON'T DO THAT! If you make us feel bad for having a life OUTSIDE of you, we will THEN finally start ignoring you & will eventually move on!
If you want to dedicate 24 hours of your day to us, hey that's fine b/c that's YOUR choice. BUT don't expect for your choices to be our choices. We tick to the beat of our OWN drums just like others do too; we don't knock others for being who they are so we expect the same respect! Clinginess, possessiveness, controlling behavior & insecurity is NEVER attractiv