Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles.

You either have all the pieces that fit... or you don't.

Why beat yourself up trying to accommodate things you know you aren't happy with in order to stay in someone's life?

There will always be another jigsaw puzzle, there will always be another person who loves you for the person you are.

Stop the insanity of trying to fit into someone else's picture of the picture isn't looking great.

Anyone else want to borrow my soap-box?

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I needed to hear this!Sometimes I hate being so different...sometimes I wish I was like everybody else & not so . . ."out there".I really feel like im missing out on what I could be enjoying...therefore I try to change myself in order to squeeze in,but it never fails,my quirky old self ALWAYS finds me,& im back to my old self...I hate wondering what its like to be everybody else ...i mean I LOVE me,dnt get me wrong..but I just want to be "THERE"...or "HERE" whichever makes more sense....I get so ahead of myself its ridiculous...sigh*

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I needed to hear this!Sometimes I hate being so different...sometimes I wish I was like everybody else & not so . . ."out there".I really feel like im missing out on what I could be enjoying...therefore I try to change myself in order to squeeze in,but it never fails,my quirky old self ALWAYS finds me,& im back to my old self...I hate wondering what its like to be everybody else ...i mean I LOVE me,dnt get me wrong..but I just want to be "THERE"...or "HERE" whichever makes more sense....I get so ahead of myself its ridiculous...sigh*

Lol, awww... no matter what and how long, eventually we find someone who just loves us for "Us".

None of this changing bullshit. I mean, if what ya do is unhealthy and you'd LIKE to approach things in a different manner for yourself and future episodes of whatever is causing you problems then fine.

But making this change, that change, the other change simply because someone wants you to be a certain way? Failure most of the time. As you said, the old self will filter back in, the rounds of crap start over and well, you've wasted God knows how long beating your head against a wall.

There is someone for everyone. And those that may not think so? Perhaps they aren't confident in that and it shows.

I've long since stopped trying to make a round peg fit into a square hole. I'll improve or stop dysfunction, but change myself to be with someone? Oh forget it, I haven't the time or energy to do this and live in a fake world of never being me - it's exhausting.

VERY exhausting indeed,believe me i've tried to change,but i've realized im always going to be me,no matter what & finding sumbody that can accept that seems virtually impossible...I know one day I will find that person,atleast I can only hope.🙂

Very true indeed!