Should This Matter?

Would you ever have a serious relationship with someone without a bacholer's, Master's or Doctorate degree?


Does the level of education matter when it comes to a committed relationship?

What if someone started college but never finished, would you want to know the reason why?

Awww, what happen? I thought you and I were both going to take summer course and stuff lol

1)What if someone started college but never finished, would you want to know the reason why?
2)Does the level of education matter when it comes to a committed relationship?
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1) Yes you can ask of course but I wouldn't read too much into it. People start things and never finish, it happens. Also if they hated the subject they were taking then why continue studying it?

2) Does the level of education matter when it comes to a committed relationship?

IMO no it doesn't. Other people may think differently. Just cause you have a qualification/degree etc it doesn't mean that you aren't still an idiot! (just kidding!) 😛

Depends on his occupation and his goals, drive, and ambition.

Would you ever have a serious relationship with someone without a bacholer's, Master's or Doctorate degree?

Does the level of education matter when it comes to a committed relationship?

What if someone started college but never finished, would you want to know the reason why?


What does the level of education or lack there of have to do with the relationship? A degree does not define who we are. Everybody has their own reasons for persuing a college education or choosing a different vocation. Also, consider taking into account that there are people out there that started their education that have not been able to complete it for reasons or circumstances beyond their control. It does not mean that they do not have drive or ambition or are not focused, it just that sometimes, life happens and maybe they chose to put their education aside to do what is necessary at the time. Also, education is not just limited to schooling, LIFE is an education and you can't get a degree in life.....it is an ongoing learning experience.

"I just could nto be with a guy who felt like he had to prove himself all the time. i did it once...got very tiring."

You bring up a good point LK. I had someone say to me once that I needed to prove myself. I kept my mouth shut only because this is a person I do not care to have this type of discussion with, but I was thinking are you serious, prove myself to whom? Why do I have to prove myself to anyone except me? Self-worth should not be determined on what we have but HOW we chose to obtain it. If you can close your eyes at night and sleep sound knowing that you did an "honest days work for an honest days pay" then you are right where you need to be.

Good point. Even if you can come to terms/accept him for values beyond his education, can the guy accept this discrepancy? I will admit that I do use education as a vetting criteria, but you'd be surprised how many immature guys are brilliantly educated. So in the end of the day, our assumption that someone who is educated must make a better mate is really misleading. Material differences in character cannot be discerned by one's degree...BUT you will have to be okay with how you "appear" to society and whether biases of people who place such a premium on education.

Would you ever have a serious relationship with someone without a bacholer's, Master's or Doctorate degree?
Does the level of education matter when it comes to a committed relationship?

Well one, the number 1 cause of divorce is finances/money. I think that what that person can bring financially & physically is just as important than what they can bring to the table mentally. When you get older, you start to realize that relationships aren't the way they were in high school where the 2 people just sit up, have sex, sweet talk eachother all day. They require work & if you're looking for a man that you can spend the rest of your life with then I think it's justifiable & reasonable to pay attention to that person's finances, just like it's just as reasonable to chose wisely based on looks, their past & how they handle their current friendships/relationships with others. I think a man that had the drive to not only start college, but also COMPLETE his college education says alot about his character. Sure, every man that has a Harvard degree isn't an angel or the best boyfriend. But the good thing is, having a degree ups the chances of financial success and/or stability & financial stability is very important when it comes to choosing the right mate. Do I believe whether or not the guy has a degree should be the deal breaker for whether or not I chose to be with him? No. But it's something that adds on (not takes away) points when it comes to my "admire-him" meter.

What if someone started college but never finished, would you want to know the reason why?
Of course I'd want to know the reason why someone never finished. There's always a reason (whether or not it's valid in my eyes or not) & of course I'd want to know b/c their response to to why they didn't finish could be just as valuable in showing me what that person can offer me. And plus, there are 100 valid & reasonable reasons for why someone didn't finish college, or complete their degree & half of those reasons I would understand versus rejecting them for it. But even if the reason was valid (in my eyes) I would still want to know why. Alot of people don't complete college for valid reasons but I'd def. want to know, for example if the guy I was dating didn't complete college b/c he claims "it was too hard" or b/c "he hates school" b/c that response would tell me alot about him in terms of how far he's willing to satisfy & make the best for his OWN life, let alone mine, as his partner

Accountants dont need graduate degrees. A CPA is all that matters.


Everything matters when it comes to a person and who they are. Yes, I would take their level of education into serious consideration before making any type of decision.

Everything matters when it comes to a person and who they are. Yes, I would take their level of education into serious consideration before making any type of decision.

Yes, thats exactly what I mean. Well put LadyM.

Actually, I like ambitions. It doesn't necessarily have to be towards a degree but towards something with a steady foundation. Anything thats rocky makes me nervous -- I like stability.


Being that I'm sooo darn all over the place myself, I can't deal with someone any worse off than myself lol.

Of course I'd want to know the reason why someone never finished. There's always a reason (whether or not it's valid in my eyes or not) & of course I'd want to know b/c their response to to why they didn't finish could be just as valuable in showing me what that person can offer me.

YES! YES! YES! I totally agree krysrenee7. I understand not finishing, but the reason behind it will matter the most.

Alot of people don't complete college for valid reasons but I'd def. want to know, for example if the guy I was dating didn't complete college b/c he claims "it was too hard" or b/c "he hates school" b/c that response would tell me alot about him in terms of how far he's willing to satisfy & make the best for his OWN life, let alone mine, as his partner

I see it that way too. If you can't finish something for yourself, how can you ever finish anything with me, you know?

I asked this question because I am a junior in college now but where I work, its partly for the public. I meet some guys who are almost done, like me, and I meet guys who have just quit ... usually it hasn't nothing to do with money, at least those are the reasons I hear.

Its hard for me to fathom why anyone wouldn't finish college if they had the opportunity. I can see if money were the reason because I am seriously having problems in that area too :O but anything else just doesn't really seem like an excuse to me.

Its like, if I can do it, than you can do it too. You don't have to do it, but you can do it.

and while i agree that there are plenty of men out there w/o degrees who can be stimulating etc....i sincerely doubt many of those same men being able to handle being in a relationship with a more educated woman due to the male inferiority complex...(go society!) and secondly, like i said before...how that educational difference factors in to things like raising children...which is a whole different ballgame from "we have great sex and i like to go to dinner with him. he is fun."

Yep, thats another reason. Once again, I'm not talking about dating here, I'm talking about serious relationship.

Also, I'm afraid of a guy that takes it a bit easy when it comes to education and employment, you know? Like, if I have a degree and he doesn't, will I be the one who has to take care of EVERYTHING while he just looks at the ceiling—


Also, I feel that if I have ambitions then he should have some too, you know? Where I work, there are many women who seem to go for guys who are ... well, for lack of a better term ... well, I won't say 🙂

I guess my last relationship bought this about too, this guy didn't seem at all inspiring when it came to my education -- he seemed rather subdued by it actually.

I don't know, I guess it just depends what you are use to

I still might but there are a few trips I have promised my family I would take. It shouldn't interfere with classes too too much, but I dunno, I'm just getting a little frustrated with college by now lol

Really? Yeah, I can see that. Its can be nutty when you have other things going.

There is a difference between "education" and "taste".

Alot has to do with upbringing and inclination too.

Thats right Xun2 🙂

One's personality, character and drive is what matters most to me. I think everyone can get an education at any time. However not everyone is the right person for you.

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There is a difference between "education" and "taste".

Alot has to do with upbringing and inclination too.

Thats right Xun2 🙂

It was Xun3 Cappy!

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Posted by cappysweetie
There is a difference between "education" and "taste".

Alot has to do with upbringing and inclination too.

Thats right Xun2 🙂

It was Xun3 Cappy!

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OOOOOPS! hahaha, I mean thats right Xun3


Thank you Ray deary dear 😄

Education matters. Social status matters. Resourcefulness matters. Connections matter.
You wouldn't think that they'd matter, and they shouldn't matter--but they do matter.


.... so I'm not shallow if I say these things matter to me? Because they do ... they do ...

I was raised for them to matter to me -- my father especailly pushed this into my head.


No it shouldn't matter but it does.

It does make you shallow because you are a capricorn who says it matters to her. Now if you were a fire sign, that would have been perfectly acceptable.

HAHAHA!!!!! Darn you SB 😛

Okay fine, theres a tiny part of me where all the above, education, resourcefulness, etc. matters.


Its so funny, because I rarely date guys that have all the above. Maybe I should start instead of merely admiring.

I got my graduate degree because it was a family thing. My granddad and mom had it, my dad and mom had it and so I got it. Frankly, by the time it came to applying for college, I wanted to run away and become a nun at the missionaries of charity. On hindsight, I don't think they would have let me in.

My parents never received degrees unfortunately. During their time when they were young, things happened and work needed to be focus on. Neither of my brothers have theirs either but that because they got lost in society's images.

I guess thats why its important to me, you know. Comming from a family who is working class.

Brothers had opportunities just like me but they wanted to party on their scholarships *shakes head*

My godbrother and I are the youngest and we are so focus on professional careers lol. The older ones just think we waste our time but whatever, let them think what they want. We don't care 🙂