Struggling having an aqua moon :(

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Hi
I have Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aries Venus (and Virgo rising).

I find my aquarius moon and aries venus very difficult often 😢 in terms of dating:

e.g I can never ever be attracted to someone who's really nice and caring who shows through words AND actions e.g. presents, that he cares(not even if they're also interesting as well!) as to me, it just feels like too much of an easy catch and I also feel guilty when they are genuinely nice as I am naturally not the type to care deeply about people I date (I would never betray them or lie, etc.) but I just mean that I never see them like "family", I care about them in the normal generic way you would about acquaintances / friends.

If I meet a typical player (those over confident, thrilling, fun with a caring side that only shows through sometimes) but it's all about the excitement, fast cars, etc. I know deep down that they are horrible people and whilst I don't fall in love with them, I genuinely enjoy the time I have with them, I try to impress them and generally feel all giddy and excited - all the while, knowing that they are players and keeping my emotional guard up but it just suits me as I don't have to feel guilty about not caring about them / not committing to them as players usually have multiple people on the go and they're only out for what they can get. In the end, it somehow crashes and burns (obviously!) and even then, it's a constant push-pull in my mind, they pull away, I push (probably for an ego boost), they become interested (probably lust) and I feel bored with them, rinse and repeat!

Even if I was to be on my own completely, I hate it and think that someone even a boring but sweet, nice person is better than staying in on my own.. but even then, I constantly waver between wanting to spend hours with a person and then suddenly never wanting to contact them again and then the next day, again feeling lucky for what I have and then no interest in a few hours etc. without ANY trigger e.g. not something they aid etc.

So I just feel CONSTANTLY unhappy / unsatisfied due to various reasoning in each of the different situations as mentioned above ^

What to do? 😢

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Posted by LeoAquaRuler
This is what i had to say about another aqua moon thread.. i hope it can relate. 🙂

I like the airy moon fizzling you mentioned. Imagine being on an electric chair and the apparatus being placed on your head and shocks of electricity are shot down into your mind. Sometimes this feel comes across us aqua moons. He probably looked at your message.. put the phone down and sat back in that electric chair. Effort is sparse these days it is becoming a norm to not put the effort that is needed in. I suggest you make the most of the time you actually spend with the aqua moon rather than pestering. I would just keep arranging dates with him and enjoy the time you spend with him.. when he finally comes out of the electric chair and replies.
Hahah thanks for the reply but I think you've mis-understood (maybe it's my terrible style of writing haha) but there is no guy. I am talking about myself - a girl with taurus sun, aqua moon, aries venus and the inner workings of my mind
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This has a lot to do with the insane need to be independent. A nasty person is easier to break up with/leave/forget. Someone once said to me, "I always fell in love with the craziest people, and only with them, that's why I think I could fall in love with their complete opposite". Also, maybe when you get older and you collect enough bad experiences you will enjoy the company of someone who's not out there to kill you. : ) If this all makes sense to you...
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Posted by LeoAquaRuler
I usually just fuck bitches.. i aint even bout that.
😄 whatever gets you through the day
My mars is debilitated meaning low sex drive. So its not even about 'whatever gets me through the day' its more like 'ok so i have to do this now'. Yes its good but doing it just for the social norm is annoying.
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I guess it was a bad choice of a phrase. 🙂
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Aqua moon likes people that are not easy to attain. We are attracted to a challenge. Anything that comes easily is not appreciated by us. It's not necessarily a placement that is attracted to the reckless, but rather what is hard to obtain.

I had a guy who was really attractive, confident and overall very masculine aggressively pursue me. Although I was highly attracted to him and would have totally gone for him, I didn't because he was offering himself to me on a platter. His interest was crystal clear and he made it clear by being available to me at my beck and call. Insyrad of liking this guy who was everything masculine and showed an overt interest, I preferred a shy, confused loser who showed me interest sporadically. It was the scarcity of the attention I got from him that appealed to me. Eventually, I got bored and left him entirely.

The point was the confused guy posed more of q challenge and therefore I preferred him, otherwise the masculine guy was everything most women want and I would too if it wasn't for his approach.
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Posted by aj123
Hi
I have Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aries Venus (and Virgo rising).

I find my aquarius moon and aries venus very difficult often 😢 in terms of dating:

e.g I can never ever be attracted to someone who's really nice and caring who shows through words AND actions e.g. presents, that he cares(not even if they're also interesting as well!) as to me, it just feels like too much of an easy catch and I also feel guilty when they are genuinely nice as I am naturally not the type to care deeply about people I date (I would never betray them or lie, etc.) but I just mean that I never see them like "family", I care about them in the normal generic way you would about acquaintances / friends.

If I meet a typical player (those over confident, thrilling, fun with a caring side that only shows through sometimes) but it's all about the excitement, fast cars, etc. I know deep down that they are horrible people and whilst I don't fall in love with them, I genuinely enjoy the time I have with them, I try to impress them and generally feel all giddy and excited - all the while, knowing that they are players and keeping my emotional guard up but it just suits me as I don't have to feel guilty about not caring about them / not committing to them as players usually have multiple people on the go and they're only out for what they can get. In the end, it somehow crashes and burns (obviously!) and even then, it's a constant push-pull in my mind, they pull away, I push (probably for an ego boost), they become interested (probably lust) and I feel bored with them, rinse and repeat!

Even if I was to be on my own completely, I hate it and think that someone even a boring but sweet, nice person is better than staying in on my own.. but even then, I constantly waver between wanting to spend hours with a person and then suddenly never wanting to contact them again and then the next day, again feeling lucky for what I have and then no interest in a few hours etc. without ANY trigger e.g. not something they aid etc.

So I just feel CONSTANTLY unhappy / unsatisfied due to various reasoning in each of the different situations as mentioned above ^

What to do? 😢
Change the type of people you are dating. The moon and venus paired means you are looking for something....original, adventurous, different, non-traditional and desire not to be smothered in a relationship. Its not about dating assholes or interesting people. Easy catches scream "Gonna get smothered by clingy whiner" and you Aqua moon is like "Oh hell no". Your ViA is attracted to the dangerous types and your moon is so detached and weird that it wants to come along for the ride.

Join meet-ups that foster a sense of adventure for you, then date THOSE people.