Taurus ex being immature

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Libragirl445 on Saturday, February 13, 2016 and has 33 replies.

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

3 months ago my Taurus ex dumped me after a big argument and I suggested a break up. Being the libra I am I tried and tried to compromise work things out and make him stay, we still hung out and kept in contact (I initiated everything) but he refused and grew more and more distant until 2 months ago I finally cut ties completely, went NC and removed him from all social media. Thought I'd never have to see him again until he started showing up to events he knew I was going to (concerts) but thankfully I made sure I didn't bump into him.

Recently a mutual friend of ours invited me to a party last weekend and he BARELY goes to parties (especially this girls) parties but it just so happened before this party she tagged me in a post asking me to come out which I'm positive he saw. Since that post he began interacting with her all of a sudden and even showed up to this party!!!!!!

As soon as I walked in I was shocked at his behavior, he saw me immediately and starts laughing and making a huge scene in front of everyone. I just laughed and went to a different room. People started coming up to me saying "He's in there telling everybody you're his ex". Of course I was horrified and left a short while later. He saw me go get my stuff and magically appeared in front of the front door while I was on my way out and was staring me down while I avoided eye contact.

My thing is, if you dumped me and we ended things on cordial terms, talked everything out and it was mutual WHY would he act this way in public? I don't expect him to go out of his way to greet me but really? It felt like he was trying to humiliate me

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

On top of that his brother came up to me and hugged me and told me "not to be awkward" and I should say hi. When I wasn't even given a chance to react before his crazy behavior. To make matters worse the guy I am involved with now was also at the party and I guess word got out me and him are involved, so now my ex has been liking this new guys posts on social media LOL like seriously—? Why is he going out of his way to stir the pot when he's the one who wanted me to leave him alone and I DID?

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by Aggrippina66789
Pyscho stalker?? Jesus tell him not to contact you again. Tell your friends about it all.

The confusing part about all of this is that he literally makes no attempt to contact me. I've changed my number but his friends have access to my social media accounts as does he and still. Not even to say hi or try remaining friends. We had a very cordial break up

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@butterfly30
12 Years

Because he is a a**hole. I notice fix signs are marker when you break up with them. I was dating a leo..only for a few months ..we end thing peacefully..then I seen him in a mall and he called me a b*t*h..I was looking around like who is he speaking too.

Say away and keep dismissin him ..

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
11 Years10,000+ Posts

I don't know how Leo men act clearly different than Taurus men..i we don't care after some sort of drama happens, we do compromise a lot in the beginning , middle, and end. Taurus we not stand around either though if there is one sided things, like communication, or initiation, or honesty.. I t takes two to work things out and twice more when we think it's not going anywhere then we break up before we get too emotionally involved..

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by butterfly30
Because he is a a**hole. I notice fix signs are marker when you break up with them. I was dating a leo..only for a few months ..we end thing peacefully..then I seen him in a mall and he called me a b*t*h..I was looking around like who is he speaking too.

Say away and keep dismissin him ..

That's crazy, I truly don't understand men sometimes. That is exactly how I felt that night I was in total shock. But thank you and I intend to do so!!

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I don't know how Leo men act clearly different than Taurus men..i we don't care after some sort of drama happens, we do compromise a lot in the beginning , middle, and end. Taurus we not stand around either though if there is one sided things, like communication, or initiation, or honesty.. I t takes two to work things out and twice more when we think it's not going anywhere then we break up before we get too emotionally involved..

I think in this situation he was ending things before he got too emotionally involved. Communication was definitely one sided and more on his end. This relationship did teach me that it's not a strong point for me and something I totally need to improve which we also spoke about. I still don't see where this behavior could be coming from. I guess just to be an ass and for fun. Who knows. He also still has pictures of me on his page.

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
11 Years10,000+ Posts

It also has to do with our placements in our charts in the personality sections where it says will stay in for longer than necessary because we love hard at times. Clearly we over look things that could be red flags already and still give chances so when people are more able to spot of lies, manipulation, and distrustful situations then we start snowballing minor things with bigger things and then it takes time to build to that level. A few months-6 years perhaps. So in the beginning it's critical to get to know each other and ask questions in the initial process of friendships.. A fixed placements are most likely less stubborn anyhow because we take the time to actually work on things. If another person doesn't adapt or compromise then two heads will clash, on stupid things..

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10 Years

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
It also has to do with our placements in our charts in the personality sections where it says will stay in for longer than necessary because we love hard at times. Clearly we over look things that could be red flags already and still give chances so when people are more able to spot of lies, manipulation, and distrustful situations then we start snowballing minor things with bigger things and then it takes time to build to that level. A few months-6 years perhaps. So in the beginning it's critical to get to know each other and ask questions in the initial process of friendships.. A fixed placements are most likely less stubborn anyhow because we take the time to actually work on things. If another person doesn't adapt or compromise then two heads will clash, on stupid things..

I understand all of this I'm just still not understanding his reaction. It was him who decided to walk away and refused to work things out even after I literally took action to show him how invested I was and how much I wanted things to work. So it pisses me off that he would act like that towards me. I did nothing wrong to him.

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11 Years10,000+ Posts

Yeah once someone says lets take a break dude that is like signing the death warrant on you.... If you take a break then fuck with someone else while your trying to figure things out, I would ask you if you slept with anyone else in the time we split..

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15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

I can relate to your story.

I went through that obvious humiliation with a scorpio and a leo.

Recently with the scorpio, it was all too much. I wanted to date this aries but the scorpio had other plans. I received constant embarrassing backlash and he would try to befriend the aries but then mock him at the same damn time. It did not help being in the same social circle and trying to move on. I feel like the aries was starting to doubt me and believe the scorpio when he would in many ways say i wasnt shit.

I eventually left and cut ties with everyone. Clean break.

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10 Years

Posted by DMV
I can relate to your story.

I went through that obvious humiliation with a scorpio and a leo.

Recently with the scorpio, it was all too much. I wanted to date this aries but the scorpio had other plans. I received constant embarrassing backlash and he would try to befriend the aries but then mock him at the same damn time. It did not help being in the same social circle and trying to move on. I feel like the aries was starting to doubt me and believe the scorpio when he would in many ways say i wasnt butter.

I eventually left and cut ties with everyone. Clean break.

That's what I'm worried about & think that's what I need to do as well. Too much unnecessary stress.

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@butterfly30
12 Years

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@Butterfly30- Something you did when you guys were friends or together which ever you were clearly you did something in his face to be called a bitch.. You actually did something that triggered out old feelings.. What was it that you broke up for, why?

I didn't do shit ..its his ego that hurt him..when we was friends and getting to know eachother ,he was too pushy. He had this mighty king attitude. Chest push out like ..I am the almighty man. I am more slow and getting to know people he was more aggressive in a uncomfortable way. We would have a talk about subjects and have great conversation until he get irritated because our views on things was different. Sometime I thought we was having a great healthy debate until I see his ego come out stronge. I think he wanted a more submissive or passive women to date. One time he came in to kiss me and I sware he almost yank my head off..he kiss me so hard while holding my head that the shit was hurting. Eventually I told him let's keep this on a friend level. Which he agreed too but he slowly distant him self..

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12 Years

Posted by DMV
I can relate to your story.

I went through that obvious humiliation with a scorpio and a leo.

Recently with the scorpio, it was all too much. I wanted to date this aries but the scorpio had other plans. I received constant embarrassing backlash and he would try to befriend the aries but then mock him at the same damn time. It did not help being in the same social circle and trying to move on. I feel like the aries was starting to doubt me and believe the scorpio when he would in many ways say i wasnt shit.

I eventually left and cut ties with everyone. Clean break.


those scorpio men is something else ..I stop talking to one scorpio guy and he came up my job and made a scene..call my job threaten me. He also got his friends to call me. Happen to be at places that he knew I will be. Also befriended people to get to me.

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@Honeybunniie
11 Years

I want to empathized but I feel like this story has MASSIVE holes... If y'all cut ties completely how do u kno he went to the concert? Why question if u should make ur tweets private? Just block him on everything. Tell your friends don't discuss any of ur business with him. he can't just "appear" where u r unless he has a connection... Cut off all ties.

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12 Years

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@butterfly30- I would not be so nice to him as matter of fact.. yeah I am surprised you stayed that long with along of that going on..

it didnt last long.. but slowly these things show up. I think he was use to girls fulling over him because he was handsome. He was fun an adventurous but just had different views then me. I also like building a friendship bond then like it lead to relationship . He was a guy who wanted to jump into romance very agressively

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If he is a Taurus Sun and Moon, maybe, he was just slightly hurt she deleted him and stopped contact? I don't find Taurus people to always be great at communicating that such thing. He probably wanted to stay on her social media but when she deleted him, he felt rejected and cut out. Then he wanted to be seen since she was trying to make him not be "seen", he is trying to push her buttons.

I know of a Taurus moon that gets like this with his ex. He's humiliated her in public, shown up at bars or parties and such she has been at.

I'm not Taurus or a even a Taurus Moon.. I was raised by a Taurus.

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by Honeybunniie
I want to empathized but I feel like this story has MASSIVE holes... If y'all cut ties completely how do u kno he went to the concert? Why question if u should make ur tweets private? Just block him on everything. Tell your friends don't discuss any of ur business with him. he can't just "appear" where u r unless he has a connection... Cut off all ties.

I know because I have a habit of checking up on people I no longer talk to when I care about them. I never really stop caring so just to make sure he's okay or see what's new sometimes I peek at his page every once in a blue. I know some will say i shouldn't but I still do this with people I've dated from years ago. It's not an attachment more of a need to make sure they're well. I never like any posts or leave signs I've looked at his page. He's able to see mine as well because my page is public and his friends still have me on their pages

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by WateryGem
If he is a Taurus Sun and Moon, maybe, he was just slightly hurt she deleted him and stopped contact? I don't find Taurus people to always be great at communicating that such thing. He probably wanted to stay on her social media but when she deleted him, he felt rejected and cut out. Then he wanted to be seen since she was trying to make him not be "seen", he is trying to push her buttons.

I know of a Taurus moon that gets like this with his ex. He's humiliated her in public, shown up at bars or parties and such she has been at.

I'm not Taurus or a even a Taurus Moon.. I was raised by a Taurus.

I think maybe you're right. But I had hoped he would understand that since I didn't want to end things keeping him on my social media would just keep hurting me. Every time I saw him post my heart would break all over again knowing he's posting but wouldn't reach out to me. And I started checking his page 24/7. Once I deleted him I didn't do that anymore and it was easier to put it behind me

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@Libragirl445
10 Years

Posted by AriesLady8
This is hilarious to me and even relieving. My ex Taurus was the same way with me. I didn't know it was a Taurus thing I just thought it was a crazy person thing. I can totally relate to this post. My feelings use to get really hurt by it.

I feel it all comes from a place of feeling possessive and hurt on their behalf. But they're so stubborn and always acting like nothing is wrong that this is how they lash out. The desire to make a fool of you I think because that is their biggest fear, public embarrassment and to befriend the other guy to sabotage or just be in the mix

Wow yes your old situation sounds similar to mine. I really hate it because I still had respect for him and wished we could be friends. That's why I tried to keep things cordial despite my pain and frustration. But he's being so immature and it's honestly shocking to me