what do you guys think?

I was seeing an aqua guy for 3 months. I was seeing him at least once a week. He initiated most of them. Lately, I noticed that he started to open up to me more about personal things about him and his family. I know hes really busy with school but was still able to squeeze me into his schedule.I also gave him space actually lots of space. Then one day, he told me that he thinks we should stop seeing each other. He said it was because he just doesn't have time to see anybody at this time, to have a gf ,him being even busier with school. He needs to focus more and he just wants to be completely alone.He said nothing personal and there isn't anyone else. I told him that it was ok with me if thats what he wants and if thats what it takes for him to reach his goal . Then we decided to remain friends and to keep in touch. What do you guys think? I heard Aquas back away when things are getting serious. Do you guys think that he just lost interest or he still likes me but just scared to commit? Also, is me making more money than he is has something to do with it? For me its not a big deal and hes aware of it. BTW Im a Scorp-Sag cusp.Thanks =).

I agree with Ofa, their are so many men doing this crap it's beginning to sound like a broken record, I personally wouldn't be his friend anymore, many guys do this friendship only crap to keep one foot in and one foot out of the relationship and use it as a convienance, not saying this is your guy but I see this happening all the time to women, move on, date other guys that are interested in being more than friends, it's annoying when men back pedal and believe me it will always be that way, don't be the yo yo girl.

google assclowns...jus kidding

Yea OFA - that's why the jokes - the fact that someone is allowed to get away with crap for being born at a certain time of the year is just WOW.

If you can't help yourself, astro prob can't - as a rule of my pinkie finger.

actually this guy isn't so bad, he didn't just fade on her as if she never existed, he was pretty upfront but I still wouldn't be friends with him unless you really don't have any romantic feelings. Going from romantic to friends sucks, I would move on and if he comes back around I wouldn't pay to much attention to him, his loss

ass clown (??_s kloun) n.:

one, who, through the fault of his parents conception, is a skid mark in society's collective underwear.

lmao!

Anyway, rant continued...

How are you able to relinquish so much control to a person? was it his Aquaness or you let every guy you dated control things?

- he initiated all dates? so if he snaps his finger you go running? he says back off, you agree?
- you consider it a big deal for people to tell you about themselves and their families?

I heard Aquas back away when things are getting serious. Do you guys think that he just lost interest or he still likes me but just scared to commit?

- if you let him control things so much, no challenge if we were to go astro but scrap astro for now...
- so you want commitment from him? as it sounds like if he asked you, you would say yes from ^^^?
- also sounds like you care more about his needs than yours but does he return the same?

What do you guys think? I what do YOU want?

I also gave him space actually lots of space.
yea but was it a big deal to give him space? was it natural or convenient for his needs?

I agree Starfish, it hurts to get dumped this way, I feel part of it is these men feel that women have nobody else in the game, the men begin to feel like they don't have something special if he doesn't have to work hard at having what he wants, plus if a woman is too patient, too accomodating then the men feel suspicous and feel the woman is the doormat type which makes the man devalue the woman, if she isn't busy with life and isn't hard to get when he does come around then she somehow falls into the less-valuable box, everything is just too easy which means that the next logical step is a relationship and the man is still on the fence because that's not a priority in his life but he can tell if it's a priority for a woman by her availability so he feels he has to let her go, women are just way too easy and accomodating with men, not all but I see a huge percentage on dxp behaving in a way that says I'm ready take me I'm yours and these men clam up and run....

Starfish don't get us started about some of the women on the cancer board....Talk about getting mindf*cked

I don't feel it would be that confusing if women dated as much as the men do plus the priorities are so different between men and women, he dated her, felt she was nice but I'm sure her allowing him to come in and out as he chose sent up some red flags for him, he just doesn't wanna get stuck with the first available woman that allows him to come and go as he chooses, he probably felt he could do better, if I can get her then I know I can get someone better than her kind of attitude

I think the problem here is the definition of date - it has been said that women attach so much emotionally ...
- is this possible for women realistically to date so many?
- somehow women are being physically intimate with guys and not initiating it or calling all the shots...if you want to date around, then you have to call the shots somehow...reality is so different...
- OFA's right, what do women WANT? if you don't know thyself, then I don't think dating around is the key, it's a emotional surgery of self-confidence, self-esteem and what-not to give them a sure foot to kick butt...

no fly GRASSHOPPERS...

Sorry AG, I'm going back to make dinner 😉

Well dating isn't sex'n and men that date more KNOW exactly what they want, they have been through every possible scenerio with a woman and they have dated up and dated down so by the time he's ready to settle down he pretty much know it when he feels it and can quickly assess if a the woman he's dating is the right woman for him or does he need to let her go and keep his options open, I feel this is why men let go quicker because there are certain internal signals that go off which reminds him that he's been down that road before so it's easier for him to discard and move on to someone else.

I hear many excuses why women don't date and it's sorta sad because it's really fun and it's one of the best teachers out there, women can learn a lot about themselves in the process, the more a woman dates the better choices she makes with men but I'm not advocating dating although I sound like I am, I just know it's many benefits to dating multiple men and when a woman feels she has options it changes her whole vibe, men don't sense that urging feeling that the woman wants to hurry up and couple up and when a guy fades away she won't have time to care about it because she has XYZ to tend to, she will still feel a ting of disappointment but not dwell on it because Kevin is jus so fine and funny and has booked her up for a date next weekend who has time to suffer over an assclown

"the " b i t ches" are not that at all...all they are are the women who say "step to the plate mister and you better bring something to it, or i walk."

This is exactly what women are scared to do, scared to say step up or step off, some of these women are putting themselves in the low beggars position and it's really sad because all she really needs to do is let go, replace her wishbone with her backbone and tell that bleep bleep bleep bleep'n bleep to bleep bleep bleep....lol sorry got carried away

Nope all women no matter what age should date more, you can know what you think you want and need today but with dating theirs so many twist and turns along the way and can surely bring on some internal questions about that, dating is for everyone, if men felt like that Starfish they wouldn't date as much, there is something great in gaining dating experiences, there are men way past 45 dating multiple women, it's fun, it actually opens a person up to new and better possibilities, it keeps us from getting stuck into old thoughts, patterns and habits, the world keeps turning even when women aren't dating and it changes a woman's vibe instantly from desperate-dull-no life to exciting, new and fun and it can really attract the kind of men that she wants and not just these assclowns. If you don't date and are successful with it then by all means stick with that but there are other options outside of not dating

good points LK and women are treading because they don't feel confident in saying nope not for me and moving on to the next guy, there is nothing wrong saying I can't deal with his bi-polar, I can't deal with his 5 kids and 3 baby mama's, there is nothing wrong with saying to a man I expect a relationship if we go beyond date 3 or date 5, I don't expect us to jump in right away but I won't date you unless you understand that I don't want to be any mans friend anymore, I play for keeps. It's this age factor thing as well, women feel well I need to go along to get along because my clock is ticking, well mine can keep on ticking because I'm not dropping it to get stuck

I agree tiki - the assumption is not to assume because of the age or experience, you're not vulnerable...or can't learn something.

I'm a cougar in training you see so I have to continuously up my game and re-invent the rules every few months - tiki please advice

LMAO@ Z you are hilarious, you already know the answers Z

starfish, you know thyself - I declare you will find a man that satisfies YOUR needs !



thank you tiki . You're wise

Starfish I wasn't knocking you ok, I hope I didn't come off that way, I feel each person finds a way to cope and deal with there own social lives, I always throw dating in the mix as an option but I find that most women opt out for there own reasons, weight, kids, uncomfortable due to not knowing how to date or many other reasons and men seem to quickly re-invent themselves and push themselves out into the dating world and use many and any option to get to the ONE (online, mutual friends, clubs, hanging out, beach) women sort of limit their choices and that's the point I was making Star that men move forward and don't really waste too much time wondering why a certain girl didn't work out, i wasn't ganging on you for doing it your way...sorry if it seemed that way

damn it - I think she was knocking and you didn't know - fight fight fight




that's why I like the Cancer board - no need for much work for this to happen

that doesn't sound like fight talk to me ma dear...tsk tsk tsk...oh well.

lol...

ok peace back at ya

stay safe - make peace not war --- well let us know so we can watch if war...

Hey guys, thanks for all who replies. Yeah Zenal, I was letting him control things. Im a Scorp, so letting him control things is something not typical of me. But he has alot of things going on right now, his school, work and some financial problems he is facing because he has to work less.So I just didn't want to add to it. As far as being friends, Im ok with it. I actually like it that way. And its weird, cause Im actually not hurt about what he did. Maybe it will get to me later or maybe I feel that he will be back hahaha, Oh well..

I asked if its an aqua thing because I used to date another aqua who did exactly the same thing. We remained friends and I talk to him about guy issues that I have.But then he still flirts with me and gives hints about wanting to date me again But I wouldn't date him again. But atleast, both of them were upfront about it, not just walked away without a sign lol. I feel fine about it cause I have other guys lined up to date =).

- actually you sound a bit Sag...don't forget to look out for your needs, only you can do that, no one else...

erm, I don't mean sexual needs...erm...well...hmmm

is that a sag traits... to overlook your needs and focus more on the needs of others?

no no - you post sounded a bit optimistic Sag...lol...

but yea similar to a Sag trait - as they're ruled by the biggest planet Jupiter so they have a very expansive character to accomodate anything and still remain friends eitherway 🙂

*your post

I think so too! I am more Sag than a Scorp, so whats the best match for a Sag female? For some reason I always end up dating Aquas lol.

don't know - Sag's a good match with most signs, especially most fire and air, honestly as long as they're not bored and it is the right time when they want to settle.

The hesitation to express your wants and needs is more Scorpio than Sag though.

You're a Cusper...know a few Nov 22 people - they express like Scorp too but are very accomodating like Sag 🙂
Maybe do a chart analysis on cafeastrology.com or summm...

yea Elena just wants us to know she loves her man 😛

No welcome Elena, you're good with charts right...whip out the 8-ball please

you're so un-taurus-like I swear - no patience to even read 5 pages !
ok 5 pages is pretty long.

Ash gives a pretty good summary with all the random words she hits together to make coherent 😕

So did I do the right thing to just let him go, didn't even try to make him stay? Just wondering if I handled it the right way. Because for some reason that happened to me twice with 2 different Aquas. First one came back though but I wasn't interested anymore.

didn't even try to make him stay?
you can't make people stay - what I'm trying to say is that you can only handle yourself, not others.


lol Elena - what Aries side?

But he has alot of things going on right now, his school, work and some financial problems he is facing because he has to work less.So I just didn't want to add to it. As far as being friends, Im ok with it. I actually like it that way. And its weird, cause Im actually not hurt about what he did. Maybe it will get to me later or maybe I feel that he will be back hahaha, Oh well..

this is also a good indication...
I always think a relationship is where two meet to get away from the troubles of the outer world...should not be difficult - so if you feel like a relationship will add to stress, it's an obvious clue to run...yea common sense and priorities mean a lot but that's my narrow POV 😉

cusp of power ! yikes did someone say HITLER !!!

How about leo and Capricorn guys, are they a good match for Scorp-Sag cusp? These guys have been asking me out. I think I may start dating them. They are next in line lol!

apologies dominatrix - my bad...

novprin - don't see why not - most signs can work out with some work - heehee just rhymed - good luck.

Just curious- what sign are you guys dating and for how long? Im still with my Aqua- over three years now- hes still the way he is but a great friend now and Im still in love with him... and he did say it to me back finally though the funny thing is it came out really intense almost like it upset him..lol go figure.. but hey I love and respect his friendship and I will have that if nothing else someday if this ends. For now its the holidays and hes better than before but still tuff period- He gives a gift so its not that I just think hes had some sort of trama during this time...

yeah Jolana they all have trauma and it's not just an Aqua thing, it's a excuse man thing lol