What is going on with this Aquarius guy ?

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I'm a Virgo and I been dating this Aquarius guy for about three almost four months. He's from Germany and will go back home sometime in March. We hit off when me met and he asked if he could date me and nothing else since he can't stay. Also he said he's fine if I see other people. I was alright with it because I'm still free to do as I please. I slept with him a lot even if we only met up one or twice a week. I also stayed the night at his place twice. I can say the second time I spend the night over was really different then the first time. The first night I stayed over...Well I kept to my side and as did him. Skip 1 1/2 month later and the second time I'm over to spend the night. He held me and never let go. Every time I move, he would wake up and hold me tighter and say your not going anywhere. Before he started to dose off to sleep he was listing of what he liked about me out of no where. so random. He said I like your hair, your smell, your smile, I really like when you laugh. I like him but nothing more than that because I know I can't have anything with him. So kept my distance with him. I'm protecting myself because I can say this guy is dangerous. He is a very great guy! Smart, witty, funny, romantic,smooth, and really knows how to treat a girl. At the start I can say he was pretty cold with me. Doesn't really respond to my texts or IMs. Disappear and won't say a word and then pops back like nothing happen. I was thinking weird but whatever. As time rolls by it changes. He's not so cold toward me. Now when we meet up, he's all over me. Always wants to hold me or touch me. I ask him why do you have to hold me a lot? His answer: I don't know why, but I just want to keep touching and holding you. Okay there are things I don't get still. 1) We don't really talk via text, call, or IM. I will text him and he will respond like two days later or sometimes not at all. Even if it's a hello. Nothing back. So I leave it alone. Now he texts me when he wants to see me because he misses me or wishes that he can see more of me. 2) At the begining he told me I can see others. When I let him know that I was going to start seeing this other guy because he has the right to know...He actually threw a tiny tantrum like a kid and gave me a pouting face. I ignored it and pretended that I didn't see that. He grab me and gave me intense kisses and told me that I was his. I was surprise because i didn't expect that. 3) He told me he doen't really like talking about feeli
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3) He told me he doesn't really like talking about feelings because it makes him feel vulnerable. Well sometimes he will tell me that he misses me. I wish I could hold you right now. I don't think you don't like me and bored of me. But when I tell him what I think or feel it's too strong for him that he has to warn me...what?
Of recent he called me his friend...I guess we are not on stranger terms anymore?
I'm lost! What are we? Does he really feel for me or is it just sex? I just want to know where I stand.
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Sounds like a typical Aqua! lol!!!

Sweetie, relax. Don't put too much analysis on it because you will drive yourself crazy. It's really, really early in your relationship. It takes time to develop feelings. So just let things develop naturally. Be independent, keep living your life and don't close the door to any other options (men) - that is the only way to keep your sanity. Aquas move slow, so allow him to move slowly. If you push anything, you will only push him away. Let him contact you. The more you ignore, the more they seem to like you.

If you want to find out whether it's just sex or not, just stop putting out. If he keeps coming around, you'll know. 🙂

I don't claim to be an expert, but I've dated three in my life. I've been with the one I'm with now for ten months. (and they tell me that's not very long).
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Thank you all. pretty funny truecap. Made me laugh. 🙂
I don't always sleep with him. I'm seeing the other guy because I know he's going home. I'm not stuck to him and I do my own thing. When he calls for me or something I don't come running. I turned him down plenty of times which is why I see him once a week or once in twice a week. I do this to the other guy because I really love my space. I been over thinking too much. I'm so silly lol
Thank you everyone 🙂
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If its about being use, then I'm using too. So it's fine...
But it turns out its not!!! So we met up again. Went to dinner, hit the movies, and then back to his place. After sex he told me he loves me. I was shocked and then got nervous because I didn't know what to say and I just laughed. I laugh when I get nervous. He asked why I was laughing and I lied and said because I'm really happy and it surprise me. He just hugged me tight and said good. When I was leaving he said it again. I did my laugh and gave him a quick kiss and said thank you and left. I feel really bad...I think I'm the bad guy! I think I'm going have to talk to him...just thinking about it makes me nervous. Blah I think too much that it makes me feel silly, but I feel bad...
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Lol yeah at the wrong time 🙂 pretty funny...but then it's not.
No I don't feel the same way. I only like him. I was lost at the beginning because we are only dating and having fun. He did say things that made me feel something is there (he wanted something..?) and I over think so I came here for help. I wanted to be told its nothing and to be sure it's just dating. So now it's clear what he feels so I'm hoping we just stay dating.
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^ Is that a really not knowing or having too high a standard.

Been chatting with my virgal friend and she seems to think her standards are way to high that she doesn't it's possible. Stops trying before things even begin so I had to slap some sense into her.

And the other virgo I went out with, I thought it was just a friendly outing. Never called me afterwards etc wasn't til her friend told me I disapponted her! Apparently taking her out for just a coffee wasn't good enough! 😛
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Not knowing... My best friend has bagged on a quarter of the guys I dated or had relationships with. It was because they weren't attractive, they are stupid, no education, poor, there's a limit, and etc. I like them for them, that's why I'm with him lol. Then she just called me stupid. :/
I'm sorry about that. I went on just coffee dates and I think it's good. It's a nice relax way to get to know someone 🙂
Lol it's alright 🙂
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Almost curious as to what your placements are! It's always interesting to find people not so fitting of their Sun sign.

I can't fully explain why I can't do the deed unless I feel strongly for someone. At times this has been taken the wrong way like I'm manipulating them but it's much harder to accept because I'm suppose to be the guy and I'm suppose to be the one making all the moves.

I do agree with you to tread carefully. I'm in a situation as well (with a German as well that's also going back in March! how funny!) and this is where I'm opposite to your Aqua. I watch what I say and how I act because this thing isn't solid yet but it doesn't mean I can't have fun just as friends if sex is removed from the equation.

Now for you though if sex is something you enjoy casually then it might be hard or maybe he IS thinking along the lines as I am and now he's feeling attached? Thing is even if I do agree to casual sex I think I would not say all those lovey dovey stuff if I'm going to go back home to another country but then again I never usually put myself in that position.
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I don't know my placements, sorry. Yeah I been told that my sun sign doesn't fit me. :/
That's a good thing and the ones who take it the wrong way should try to understand. Also that's unfair. Do you want to do all the work? I think it should be shared equally.
Oh wow that's pretty funny and kinda awesome lol. 😄 that's very true and you're right.
Lol I do. Well I set my mind to be what we talked about "dating" and I left as that. If he or is attached, then I don't want to hurt him in any way. I did ask myself why would be say that...
It's because you're smart and know what's best for yourself and the people involve.