krysrenee7
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6. When we're out on a date with you, do NOT compare us to your ex or anyone else, even if in a good way. We don't like in any way, shape or form feeling like you're only entertaining us b/c we remind you of someone else! YES, we want to know about your past, BUT we don't want to spend the entire date talking about someone who isn't even at the dinner table to defend themselves!
7. When we're out on a date with you, Do NOT activate your "wandering eye" while around us! We take who we invest our time/energy into VERY SERIOUSLY! If you can't even give us your full undivided attention for 30 minutes w/o being able to control your staring at the hot guy/girl walking across the room, you were better off just staying HOME! We
8. Do NOT expect for us to introduce you to our family/closest friends UNTIL we officially care for you or hell even love you! We care ALOT about the opinions of those we care ALOT about so don't get offended when our friends show up & we ask you to leave OR to schedule a date for another time. It's alot easier for us to handle any possible criticism from others IF we can officially say we know AND love you; that's the only way we can properly defend you! We don't get any gain out of bringing all 5 of our "potentials" home to mama! WE want to know how WE feel about you 1st before we're ready to hear opinions from others on how THEY feel about "us"
9. Do NOT complain about every thing; we CANNOT stand cry babies or those who whine about everything. It's ok to be "emotional" or to "feel" everything, BUT think before you speak! We can't stand someone who blabs out random things/emotions just for the hell of it. There's a time & a place for EVERYTHING!
7. When we're out on a date with you, Do NOT activate your "wandering eye" while around us! We take who we invest our time/energy into VERY SERIOUSLY! If you can't even give us your full undivided attention for 30 minutes w/o being able to control your staring at the hot guy/girl walking across the room, you were better off just staying HOME! We
8. Do NOT expect for us to introduce you to our family/closest friends UNTIL we officially care for you or hell even love you! We care ALOT about the opinions of those we care ALOT about so don't get offended when our friends show up & we ask you to leave OR to schedule a date for another time. It's alot easier for us to handle any possible criticism from others IF we can officially say we know AND love you; that's the only way we can properly defend you! We don't get any gain out of bringing all 5 of our "potentials" home to mama! WE want to know how WE feel about you 1st before we're ready to hear opinions from others on how THEY feel about "us"
9. Do NOT complain about every thing; we CANNOT stand cry babies or those who whine about everything. It's ok to be "emotional" or to "feel" everything, BUT think before you speak! We can't stand someone who blabs out random things/emotions just for the hell of it. There's a time & a place for EVERYTHING!
10. Do NOT try to change us. What you see is what you get. And if we do decide to make some changes, it'll be b/c WE thought it was for the best. If we're going to change we're going to do so for US, not for YOU! The more you try to change us or make us feel bad for who we are/what we do the MORE we will rebel against you & purposely go against the grain! And if you ever DO succeed in changing us when it really wasn't a change WE ourselves wanted to make, do NOT be surprised when all your "efforts" come unwrapped & undone a short time later. If we have to completely change who we are just to make you comfortable, we will give ourselves the COMFORT in moving on.
11. Do NOT over-do things. We don't mind you being territorial over us but for goodness sakes, we don't like for you to answer questions for us or think for us! If you come off TOO aggressive too fast/quick, we will start to question your intentions/motives. There's no reason you should be telling us you want to "marry" us after only knowing us for 2 weeks! Yes, we might be flattered BUT we can't be with someone who doesn't take out the time to know us. Hell if anything, YOU need to make sure that WE are who you really want & there's no way of knowing that unless enough time has gone by. We don't/won't get anything out of you being head over heels for us if we barely even know your last name yet.
12. Do NOT play emotional mind games with us. If you want to know something, just ask. And if we don't want you to know, either accept that or move on. But do NOT show us how manipulative you can be all b/c you didn't get what you wanted when you wanted it. Everybody plays mind games for different reasons, thus everybody's intention is NOT to deceive or trick the other person. If an Aqua can verbally say you're playing mind games with them, you've probably ALREADY LOST your chances of them trusting you any time soon! We don't point guns to your head & try to make you understand us. We'll show you who/what we are & it's up to YOU to either get with the program or get moving!
11. Do NOT over-do things. We don't mind you being territorial over us but for goodness sakes, we don't like for you to answer questions for us or think for us! If you come off TOO aggressive too fast/quick, we will start to question your intentions/motives. There's no reason you should be telling us you want to "marry" us after only knowing us for 2 weeks! Yes, we might be flattered BUT we can't be with someone who doesn't take out the time to know us. Hell if anything, YOU need to make sure that WE are who you really want & there's no way of knowing that unless enough time has gone by. We don't/won't get anything out of you being head over heels for us if we barely even know your last name yet.
12. Do NOT play emotional mind games with us. If you want to know something, just ask. And if we don't want you to know, either accept that or move on. But do NOT show us how manipulative you can be all b/c you didn't get what you wanted when you wanted it. Everybody plays mind games for different reasons, thus everybody's intention is NOT to deceive or trick the other person. If an Aqua can verbally say you're playing mind games with them, you've probably ALREADY LOST your chances of them trusting you any time soon! We don't point guns to your head & try to make you understand us. We'll show you who/what we are & it's up to YOU to either get with the program or get moving!
Wow! Well my Aqua man loves me just the way I am. All he asks of me is that I be honest & loyal. Me and my Aqua don't live ourlives by rules. We are free spirits. And that's why we work well. We ACCEPT eachothers ways. Love is about ACCEPTANCE not rules. Just saying.
tl;dr, too many rules
It's not about having "rules." It's about the fact that EVERYBODY (regardless of WHAT sign you are) has things that they consider "Turn-offs." There IS such a thing as "rubbing someone the wrong way" & my post was about me as an Aqua & how certain things can EASILY rub me the wrong way!
I'm all for "acceptance" too, BUT part of getting to know someone is in learning what they DON'T like OR DON'T want just as much as what they DO like or DO want. And as an Aqua, these are the things that I do NOT like. A "Dislike list" is not the same as having "rules." If that were the case, that'd be the same as saying no one has a right to dislike something about someone else.
Hell, even the most compatible/best couples have something called "pet peeves." And while 2 people can accept eachother all day long, most people ADHERE to their own pet peeves & EXPECT for others, once they're aware of those pet-peeves, NOT to continue doing the things that persay bother/offend others
I'm all for "acceptance" too, BUT part of getting to know someone is in learning what they DON'T like OR DON'T want just as much as what they DO like or DO want. And as an Aqua, these are the things that I do NOT like. A "Dislike list" is not the same as having "rules." If that were the case, that'd be the same as saying no one has a right to dislike something about someone else.
Hell, even the most compatible/best couples have something called "pet peeves." And while 2 people can accept eachother all day long, most people ADHERE to their own pet peeves & EXPECT for others, once they're aware of those pet-peeves, NOT to continue doing the things that persay bother/offend others
LMAO! I agree with all, I SO agree!
Seems to be a very similar list to my aqua. Posts like these are good, as once you understand why someone acts the way they do, you realise it isnt personal, so no longer have to be upset by it.
Posted by Firegurl
Wow! Well my Aqua man loves me just the way I am. All he asks of me is that I be honest & loyal. Me and my Aqua don't live ourlives by rules. We are free spirits. And that's why we work well. We ACCEPT eachothers ways. Love is about ACCEPTANCE not rules. Just saying.
Yeah I would say that is exactly what I ask of any girl who I'm in a relationship with. Honesty and loyalty are so important to me above everything else really. I agree - you should accept people for who they are. You shouldn't try to change someone because you'll end up running into brick walls.
@Aquaguy: I agree, it's NOT about changing someone. Hell, it's not even about suppressing who you really are so that you can make the other person feel "comfortable."
BUT, there's this thing called compatibility. And there's this thing that EVERY person has that are called "pet peeves," & while yes, it's great that some people can FINALLY overcome their differences & end up loving eachother unconditionally, this post was geered more towards the individuals who are probably at home wondering WHY their romances/courtships with their Aquas aren't seeming to work out.
Technically, we should ALL accept EVERYONE for who they are, BUT in reality none of us do. We attach to those we can "deal" with & those we have lots in common with. And 1 of the BIGGEST problems relationships nowadays face lies in the COMMUNICATION department. It IS important to understand how the other person "ticks" & how they deal with things compared to yourself. And if 2 people are not compatible, all that "I accept you as you are" crap won't make a difference. And this post was to shed more light on HOW we Aquas justify what we don't like from what we do.
Sure, every person has a right to go about things in the way they want. Hell, a man can blow my phone up 20 times in 5 minutes if he PLEASES, BUTTTT if he never gets a 2nd date with me, THAT'd be why. My "NO-NO" list was geered more towards people who are not all the way "IN" with their Aquas. Before 2 people can officially accept eachother, flaws & all, they have to go through some things, test their compatibility, etc. 100% loyalty & acceptance is NOT something that is just given!
Hey if a man wants to blow my phone up all day long, he can technically do that if that's what HE wants to do or if that's who he really is/handles things. BUT, if I don't like that or perceive what he's doing in a different way then HE perceives it, then that is where problems begin. I'm not saying that everybody should be like Aquas, BUT if people ever want to understand WHY we consider things "turn offs" I thought I'd shed some light into our mindsets behind certain things.
For instance, it's not that we don't appreciate someone being "worried" about us when they find themselves calling us 20 times after we pushed ignore the 1st time. It's moreso that if I say I need space, I don't want to be guilted or forced to do anything that I don't want to do.
BUT, there's this thing called compatibility. And there's this thing that EVERY person has that are called "pet peeves," & while yes, it's great that some people can FINALLY overcome their differences & end up loving eachother unconditionally, this post was geered more towards the individuals who are probably at home wondering WHY their romances/courtships with their Aquas aren't seeming to work out.
Technically, we should ALL accept EVERYONE for who they are, BUT in reality none of us do. We attach to those we can "deal" with & those we have lots in common with. And 1 of the BIGGEST problems relationships nowadays face lies in the COMMUNICATION department. It IS important to understand how the other person "ticks" & how they deal with things compared to yourself. And if 2 people are not compatible, all that "I accept you as you are" crap won't make a difference. And this post was to shed more light on HOW we Aquas justify what we don't like from what we do.
Sure, every person has a right to go about things in the way they want. Hell, a man can blow my phone up 20 times in 5 minutes if he PLEASES, BUTTTT if he never gets a 2nd date with me, THAT'd be why. My "NO-NO" list was geered more towards people who are not all the way "IN" with their Aquas. Before 2 people can officially accept eachother, flaws & all, they have to go through some things, test their compatibility, etc. 100% loyalty & acceptance is NOT something that is just given!
Hey if a man wants to blow my phone up all day long, he can technically do that if that's what HE wants to do or if that's who he really is/handles things. BUT, if I don't like that or perceive what he's doing in a different way then HE perceives it, then that is where problems begin. I'm not saying that everybody should be like Aquas, BUT if people ever want to understand WHY we consider things "turn offs" I thought I'd shed some light into our mindsets behind certain things.
For instance, it's not that we don't appreciate someone being "worried" about us when they find themselves calling us 20 times after we pushed ignore the 1st time. It's moreso that if I say I need space, I don't want to be guilted or forced to do anything that I don't want to do.
aquas are so adorable like that. i deal with aquas just like that. let them do thier own thing. give them thier space. and be patient...eventually they will get outa thier dark lil corner and come say hi like nothing happened. i guess its best to forget lol. i dont mind anymore when my best friend does this...which is often. she lives a sad life but i makes her happy when i can loool. i dont expect her to tell me she loves my ass like i tell her on occasion. but she does hint that im a great friend from time to time lol. and my god is she not loyal as hell...never did me wrong. not like most friends. lol. i trust her alot.
Posted by HappyCappy
aquas are so adorable like that. i deal with aquas just like that. let them do thier own thing. give them thier space. and be patient...eventually they will get outa thier dark lil corner and come say hi like nothing happened. i guess its best to forget lol. i dont mind anymore when my best friend does this...which is often. she lives a sad life but i makes her happy when i can loool. i dont expect her to tell me she loves my ass like i tell her on occasion. but she does hint that im a great friend from time to time lol. and my god is she not loyal as hell...never did me wrong. not like most friends. lol. i trust her alot.
Ah, tis a wise HappyCappy 🙂
dating rules for me as an aqua:
1) easy come easy go. so take it easy..focus on the fundamentals: honesty, open door policy talks.
2) live according to your own convictions..i wont judge or change you but rather take you as an individual
3) be able to have verbal banting here and there just for the sake of mental stimulation and new discorvery of concepts and theories. Even if we're passionately yelling or passionately giving our opinions dont get so bothered rather focus SUBJECTIVELY logically, reasonably at the topic at hand rather than the tone of my voice
4) Accepting of all my friends that come in all shapes , sizes, forms, and types (hipsters, gamers, dorks, emotionally impaired, to shy, to the annoying)al of it!
5) understand my boundries. Talk all you want be socialable but know my limits and i'll respect yours.
6) BE CONSISTENT: dont over romanticize things and then i see your actions reflect another. (eg.a man sweet talking to you so much "i like you so much" bah blah balh but his actions are: dont text rarely call rarely ask about how your day is and what is currently going on in your life) Dont say you wanna be exclusive and act another. just be consistent in your words and actions.
7) WORDS ARE CHEAP: just show me more than talk that talk.
8) Be true to yourself
9) BE PERCEPTIVE
10) repeat.
1) easy come easy go. so take it easy..focus on the fundamentals: honesty, open door policy talks.
2) live according to your own convictions..i wont judge or change you but rather take you as an individual
3) be able to have verbal banting here and there just for the sake of mental stimulation and new discorvery of concepts and theories. Even if we're passionately yelling or passionately giving our opinions dont get so bothered rather focus SUBJECTIVELY logically, reasonably at the topic at hand rather than the tone of my voice
4) Accepting of all my friends that come in all shapes , sizes, forms, and types (hipsters, gamers, dorks, emotionally impaired, to shy, to the annoying)al of it!
5) understand my boundries. Talk all you want be socialable but know my limits and i'll respect yours.
6) BE CONSISTENT: dont over romanticize things and then i see your actions reflect another. (eg.a man sweet talking to you so much "i like you so much" bah blah balh but his actions are: dont text rarely call rarely ask about how your day is and what is currently going on in your life) Dont say you wanna be exclusive and act another. just be consistent in your words and actions.
7) WORDS ARE CHEAP: just show me more than talk that talk.
8) Be true to yourself
9) BE PERCEPTIVE
10) repeat.
11) be paitent with me: for i am a puzzling creature...and i accept responsibilities. im not perfect...but communicate with me and i will slowly open up. DONT FORCE dont play the whole "reverse psychology" just be geuine and paitent that i will turn around ON MY TIME.
lol i very wise. thanks hun,
LOL @ Caps..there are similarities.
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1. When we say we need our "SPACE" that is NOT code for call us every 5 minutes, ask us if we're okay ever 6 minutes and/or show up on our front door step every 7 minutes! NO, we're not necessarily mad at you nor did we stop liking you just b/c we need some alone time! And NO we will NOT feel guilty for needing our "space" either so save the guilt trips & tantrums for someone else!
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4. Do NOT question whether or not we are human just b/c we don't cry in front of you. YES, we have tear ducts just like you & everybody else does! BUT, for the LAST time, some Aquas prefer to cry, grieve or handle emotional turmoil in the DARK & behind closed doors! If you make us feel guilty for this OR if you try to change us, we will NOT convert to YOUR way of "ticking." We will simply remind ourselves that you must NOT be the 1, & go on to find someone who isn't bothered by us being who we really are.
5. When we ignore your calls/texts, YES we saw the caller ID the 1st time! It's just that we made the DECISION not to respond to you just yet. E.I. us pushing "IGNORE" is NOT code for call us 77 more times! What makes you think the 78th call will be any different? If anything, we will PURPOSELY start to ignore you then! You CANNOT back an Aqua into a corner!