What should i do—?

I'm a virgo,and was already in a relationship with an aquarius man. I love him since i was about 22years old. But he just never treasure me and ever unfaithful to me. I've forgiven him once although it was not my fault. And i thought i can recovered my relationship with him, but seems so difficult for me after trying for almost 3yrs now. I'm not caculative with whatever things with him, and sometimes i still give him some encouragement but he is too stubborn to listen to me. And we ended up in arguement. Since i knew him my health has becoming from bad to worse, and i've been keeping a lot of things inside me. I've try to sit down to chat with him of our personal things, but he didn't seem to listen or bother and sometimes ended up in argument,not only that he will ended up banging his anger at me!
I've tried so many ways to be nice to him, but there isn't any changes. That is worse when now both of us are suffering from stomach infections. Cause of stressing each other too much, i think so. My life with him has not been easy. I've been thinking lately that what will happen one day to two of us cause it seems so difficult to communicate with each other. Communication is more of like one way, whereby I'm the one who always chat to him first. I just don't like his character as myself most of the times is quiet too and i would prefer my partner to be difference. After so many times things keep happening to both of us, actually i ever think of giving up these relationship. But i do treasure the years i've known him,but i don't think he thinks the same way. Only thing right now, i think my life is short of something. We hardly go out together like what he used to, just everyday sleep and work, and most of the time he sleep firs, when he goes to work then my time to sleep. I myself find it is not good to have this unhealthy relationship between him and me, and i've been thinking of my future right now. What is going to happen to me, if things will to keep going on like this? I'm just afraid i can't take it anymore and will end my life someday rather than suffering from stress and causing me to keep having stomach infection for so many years which has not recovered! Not only that i've another illness recently which i need to take medicine for life just like my stomach infection. If another guy wants to approach me, what should i do since i'm still staying with him together and we are the same job!!!! I have been very confused and depressed lately and don't know what to do!!!!! Most of the times, I don't even feel like going out with a group of friends and prefer to go out alone in the night by myself and sometimes happen just to catch one or two friends to accompany me so that i can tell them what is happening and not keeping inside my system. But lately, i found out that guys always mistaken when i ask them out just to talk about some of the problems which is causing me. I'm a person whereby i don't like to create misunderstanding if a man already has their own family. So i always ignored his message recently but i was bored and mad when i have no one to chat to about my problems. These few times i've been locking myself up in a room even i myself also don't know why i did that....Actually planning to go for a short trip but have no idea who can go with me, as my girl friend sent me a SMS saying that she couldn't accopany me for holidays to relax myself. I've been very stress recently and i was always sick, i really don't know what to do. Should i still carry on this relationship by staying together, still go to the same job, but stay from a distance just remain as a friends. Can i accept any guy who wants me to go out with them? I'm confused and lost now, don't know what to do, just know that i'm not happy with what i am having now in my life! Would someone just help me to solve my problems by giving me some good advice.

Sleepless Gurl.

Hey, have u tried to find a time to tell him i want to stay at home and talk. Give him the absloute imppression that it can't wait. Then tell him how u are felling. If refuses to listen to ur promblem in the relationship. Ask him why he doesn't care about ur promblems. Let him know if he truly doen't care. I would feel break-up nesscary. Be sure not to say things ur regret. and good luck. this is my advice. just wait until more write before u take action.

Hi James the 13th

Thanks for ur fast respond, really appreciates it very much. I think i've enough and can't go any further. Already 3years. Have been taking lately to break-up. Thanks.

ohhhh. even though i haven't been in any dating relationships. good luck.....

"just know that i'm not happy with what i am having now in my life!"
My dear 3-d I have read your story and I feel your pain. YOu are asking the gang here for advice but deep down I think you know what you have to do. Why are you settling for second-best? Don't you realize that you are quality sterling..second to nobody....your aquarius guy (from the sound of things I am afraid has moved on from you emotionally) even though you are still physically together (just about!) so to speak. You've tried and tried to talk and communicate and get him to listen but he won't. I am aquarius girl and believe me we are good at listening. OK we appear to be a little detached and not strong on the expressing of emotional stuff - but if my lover wasn't happy I'd sit down, face to face and get into a good dam thrash it all mode - come hell or high water and get to the bottom of their concern and disappointment. Your guy just hasn't got the "uumph" even to do this for you. So I am saying to you - you've only got one life, it will be so hard to walk away, but if you don't do it now honey, you're gonna end up crawling on the floor....literally....your sick of your life....it's only when your sick of your sickness that you will get out of your situation. Carpe diam (seize the day in latin) and get out. Or make at least one last ditch attempt, tell Mr. Aquarius that you are walking out of his life for good - this can sometimes bring an aquarian to their senses! good luck my pal.

never let ur self get upset of anyone so much that it makes u sick. u maty get worried about is someone get hurt or something but to much worry is just wasted engery and addeds neg. engery into ur life more and more.

I couldn't agree with you more, James the 13th. No worry for me about my Aquarius friend. If he is a REAL friend, he will be back. Maybe he went to his cave for a rest. Gosh, I am sure a patient person.

Everything happens for a reason.

you shouldnt go out of your over someone who wont even go out of their way for you.

sigh, correction: your way^

what luz said is right don't go to much out of the way just be patient sometimes u got to let things fall into place.