Why close your eyes?

My Aqua --he loves me in different ways, and he always gives me eye contact when we are talking, making love, whatever.

But when he tells me he loves me, especially when I say it first, he'll close his eyes as he says it. I don't want to make it weird for him, like pointing it out if he's being genuine.

But why do you think he closes his eyes when he tells me he loves me?

Hes forcing himself to say it or he doesn't feel too comfortable saying it. Maintaining eye contact while trying to be genuine takes up a lot of mental energy, ask someone with Aspergers, they did a test on ppl with Aspergers, they don't like making eye contact because it takes up too much mental energy that they can't focus on holding a conversation, in your aqua's case maybe looking you in the eye is hard when he wants to say something awkward, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you its just very "real" when you someone says that they love you to an Aqua...I remember when both my exes told me they loved me and I laughed at them right in their faces and ruined the moment and was like "this is really happening isnt it? wow" I was commentating the whole thing like i was having an out of body experience.....I have no idea what I'm saying I'm so tired ..

Penny:

1. Is aqua a visual thinker?
Does he speak in 'photographs'?
Or recollect/remember in pictures?

Because when he shuts out/shuts off his gaze, he may be trying to 'live in the moment'.
Meditation-like, he may be trying to exclude visual (thinking) stimuli, to reach for Feeling Stimuli.
For deeper connection, to 'hold' that moment.
An attempt to focus on that thought/feeling, Only. Without the 'noise' or consciousness of the present.
After all, Aquas frequently have far too many thoughts in their head.

2. Alternatively - this could indicate a Deep Fear..
Fearful of looking/acknowledging/accepting that which you are giving him (Love).
This can be true in cases where the person is not used to Real Love.
Possibly a result of a troubled emotional past.
Does he have difficulty accepting compliments easily, or change the subject? Is he often self-deprecating sometimes? etc
Is he more about facilitating everyone else, often at his own expense?

Also, If he were Fearful, It could (theoretically) indicate a Fear of Transparency.
Eg He does not want you to know the 'depths of him' ' 'all his secrets' etc
Perhaps e Fear of Future (with you) or Fear of Repeating Past Mistakes (his own).


3. Closing the eyes could also point to 'Escaping' from someone/somewhere (H'e fleeing 'The moment' possibly)
Where does he 'go to' when his eyes close...
Are the closed eyes coincident with the start of a smile. Or the start of a pensive look?
He is 'going to' another place in his mind for sure - so where is that place?
Is it to another person in his subconscious? Or is it a time in his past? Or future?
So if it were fleetingly, subconsciously visualising an 'Escape' - what would it be from. And Why?

You can analyse this in hundreds of ways Penny.
But your practical answers will come sensing his behaviour, understanding his emotions and values.

Keep in mind that this is his subconscious we're talking about.
He seems to be (consciously) focussed on being a loving partner. That is really good.

I definitely agree you should not draw his attention to this. Ever.

Maybe you know his hopes. His dreams. Or some of them.
Try to explore over time (with him) his Fears, Anxieties, and Failures.
And your own.


It will be eye-opening 🙂

To me, I think, after reading the responses, he could have been "feeling" the moment. It is just that I don't want him to force out an "I love you" because I said it. I can express love so easily and if it's hard for him, it's hard for him.

My Aqua wants to meet up Tuesday - we'll both be playing hooky from work. He asked me what I want to do. I told him "just be with you" because he likes to make the plans. So he suggested a laying on a blanket in the park. He said picnic, but I am totally not packing lunch lol.

It's super sweet to think that he just wants to hang out. like he's taking a step back.

Do you guys do that, take a step back after having an emotional moment?

Damn Penny...

You're so head over heels its lovely to behold. 🙂
Its good you think its that in his eyes.
And sorry if the eye thing was a little too ambiguous btw...

You seem to be such a wonderful wonderful person but IMO you HAVE to not dream of Him and His Stuff too much. It can hurt you if you're not careful.
So keep on the ground, please!
I don't want to see you get frustrated at any stage further.

From what you've said he's doing what You Want.
He's being an Aqua.

But....Whats his frickn moon? - i forget if you said it sorry.
Thats the most important thing here.
Really.

What he Shows is his Aqua/Asc
What he Wants is his Moon...

And get his M/V too.
And the length of this thing lol (months?)
Hell get both charts out here.


BTW its very interesting/telling that you say because he's meeting you he's "taking a step back"
On the face of it, it doesnt seem like that at all to me.
Skipping work is a step forward girl lol

Have you got any (other) sense that he's taking a step back? At all?

Gotta go - take care, and enjoy all those nice dreams

ma?ana

Aquapiscesmoon,

Thank you for investing in my threads, taking time to answer, and actually having some fantastic advice. For the lovely words, and stuff too.


you are soooo right about me having to stop thinking about him and dreaming about him so much. I go about my days, and fill them up, but whenever I have a moment, he's all I think about. You are right, need to chillax.

His Moon is Leo. Loud, boisterous, dramatic--but not with me, see? Therein lies some issues. He's more conservative about me.

His Rising is Aries -- Ha ha, he keeps up with me.

SUN, MERC & VENUS in Aquarius -- Aqua Stellium (That's why I base most of my questions on the Aqua side)

Libra mars (I'll do whatever you like) I just don't know what I like. Not yet.

Now for the comment about stepping back. Most of our meet-ups as of late were for physical get togethers. Sometimes, he would take care of me, and I'd reciprocate, and sometimes, it would be all about me. But an actual date, it's been a while...

Obviously, if we're doing a picnic in the park, phyisical activities would be limited. So I don't know if this is stepping back, and just connecting. I never thought of it as you said, skipping work being a step forward 😄 What do you think?

Nice his Rising is Aries Penny.
So he's ready to play - Hence the work-skipping?
Cool.

Inside, as a Leo Moon, he's gonna enjoy to be the center of attention, and deep down (eventually) want you to support his (Aqua/Leo) endeavours.

So if his Aqua thoughts are idealistic, creative and worldly...his Leo plans are bright, expressive, ambitious and dramatic but his Libra seeks validation, balance and possibly are hesitant or inconclusive - then you could be a great encourager for him and his big future.

Aqua and Leo are both dreamers in different ways.
They can overthink, overspend, and be overly ambitious./ego-driven.

He probably needs to consider carefully his moves, qualify them, and then move
ahead with confidence. Can take time.

He will love to be appreciated, noticed and may flirt (very subtly/invisibly), attracting people with his distance and loving their fascination.
Saying No may be difficult for him so watch out for (smart/kooky) women friends...If they flatter him he may well become helpless. What age is he?

Does he move around in circles with lots of music - or entertainment?
You should stay closer rather than further from him I'd wager...in a non-watchful way.

He might be passive or even somewhat androgynous in romance,
seeking you to initiate things? Thats ok. You can do that.
His aqua will want You to be connected to him on An Intellectual or Air Level.
Could be a quite cool/distant in the way he loves but thats just his Aqua space.

If he's got a wide, and all Very Different, circle of friends - try to find good in them.

He will probably value worldly Compassion very highly.
Should you volunteer at the soup kitchen, it will render you a hero in his eyes..
But probably nowhere else Penny lol

He is in love with change perhaps. He won't be bored when you are kooky, creative or a bit shocking even.

People who credit him for success at work due to his Connections/ Language or
Seductive personality may not be taken seriously.
But for his Ideas? Yes... thats what he values in himself.
If you like his ideas, his mind, tell him. Often and specifically.

A little Kink may appeal to him, so role-play humorously or playfully if you feel it.
Your opinions on alliterative, global, fringe, creative or narrative subjects will have him in thrall to you.

Don't worry too much about infidelity.
If he's a focused, mature man.

I hope he is Penny 🙂