Why do some Aquas cheat?

He got cheated on before by an old gf and it killed him."

This might be the reason why. That exact statement. I don't think this is much of an Aqua thing. If anything, you have to understand that alot of men who cheat had at some point said the "I love you's" & the "I'll never hurt you" speeches. This man admitted to you his desires for this other woman, even if they were premature & even though he made it seem so simple, the truth is, this whole situation is quite complex. The mere fact that he told you straight up that she couldn't even compare to you, means that his value of you wasn't as high; better YET, his value of himself isn't that high. In that moment when he even THOUGHT about cheating, he made the decision that the consequence of possibility loosing you was worth it. Yes, it hurts & it sucks. But trust me, warning a man not to cheat on you b/c of what your parents went through will not work. He has to naturally & already have commitment & loyalty in his plans & that has nothing to do with whatever it is that you've gone through. So don't necessarily see this situation as him purposely trying to copycat your parents.

At this point, I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. But what's important is this: any man who can openly admit that the person he cheated with wasn't even worth it, means that 1. YOU also are NOT worth it to him (if you were he wouldn't have risked losing you) & 2. It seems as if he's attracted to the thrill of the short term chase & fling, which is something he was honestly right about not wanting you to have to experience behind your back. This man did you a favor in being honest with you & telling you that openly admits that he's not good enough for you & that he can't offer you what you deserve.

Men and women cheat, the star sign of the person is absolutely irrelevant.

It's a shame you were cheated on of course and I'm very sorry but that is life and these things happen, In a strange way you can learn from these experiences and become even stronger. You deserve better and he admits that, so now you can go find someone that is worth your time. As mentioned by krysrenee7 with the "I love you's" etc... words are just words, actions speak much louder than words.

Good luck for the future and please don't see this as an Aquarius thing in case you meet another amazing Aquarius man. It's just men/women in general, some just cannot control themselves - it's very sad.

Simply put: boredom. If aqua really felt like we were in a relationship, we wouldn't cheat for the life of us

I was always the person who did everything in the relationship. He crashed his car so I always drove us around on dates, I payed for the dates, I payed for conserts, I was always there for him when he had a problem, I was there for him when he went throught a huge depression for two months over personal issues. I tried to be the best gf I could be. But none of it was ever enough for him"

Well if he hadn't cheated, what you just said would've caused the end of your relationship with him anyways. We all get it that your a Pisces & that you might tend to wear your heart on your sleeve alot but you can't keep using that as an excuse or crutch in every romantic situation, b/c as you see, regardless of how you justify low self esteem, you'll still end up on the short end of the stick. This man didn't cause any insecurities. It's probably true that he did bring them out a little more to the surface, but he def. didn't cause them. YOU were the one giving 80% while he was only giving 20% & b/c that's the decision you made then this particular failure of the relationship was your fault, not his. Like I said, this situation is deeper than the whole "Aquarian" thing. THis man did what most men and/OR women would do: he took advantage of you b/c you let him. You allowed your emotions more than your logic to drive you through this relationship, and Pisces or not, that's a recipe for disaster if that kind of mentality continues on throughout future relationships. Yes, he was a dirty low life for cheating & you're right he couldn't left you & spared you from having to face your biggest fears, but on the other side of the handle, you could've ALSO ran for the hills the moment you noticed he wasn't as commited as you were. Just from what you've said so far, it seems this relationship was dumed from the start. B/c you canNOT control what the other person does the least you can do is evaluate self in everything you do. What did you do wrong? How could you have avoided ending up with the kind of person that would intentionally step on your heart, considering he of all people knows how painful that is? No it's not your fault that he cheated, but honey you've got to STOP focusing on & asking questions about something you cannot control & start focusing on what you've learned from the situation. If you decide to stop dating & decide to close off everyone from here on out, you're giving this guy too much power & if that's going to be the case, then you might as well marry him

In this life people are going to disappoint you, step on you when you're already down & betray you. That's just how it is & life was like that before either of us was born AND will be the same way even after we die. And unfortunately we cannot control that. BUT, what we can control is our ability to use our logic to prevent establishing bonds & attachments to the types of people who would atypically crush someone so easily. And one thing you could learn from this situation is that next time, understand that if you give 80% , while he's only giving 20% , you can't techincally say you're giving all that energy out of love anymore. You have to love & respect & demand service from others first before you can accept those things from others. You gave him all of that energy b/c it was bred from fear, insecurity & issues within you that you are/were unwilling to acknowledge and bring to the surface.

No it's never a woman's fault when she is cheated on BUT women need to start taking responsibility & quit waiting until they've finally been kicked down to notice that "maybe this guy isn't the most loyal" after all. There were red flags all along, but b/c you were in your own world, you unconsciously blocked out those warning bells, just to be resentful in the end when it all finally blew up. This man was sitting back & letting you do everything, while he wasn't doing anything but spitting game to you, & unfortunately, men who spot women who are willing to take most of the load, are more likely to cheat. Once again, it's not your fault that he cheated, but if you let this guy determine how happy you can potentially be with the next guy, then you might as well get back with him & marry him. No, don't stop dating completely. Just be more careful. That way, you'll know who to trust next time. Let someone SHOW you better than they can TELL you how much they love, care about & appreciate you. Learning how to demand this from a man eliminates half of the "dogs" immediately

And hey if he wants to go off & pick some "fling" over some great woman then if anything, be glad that you got to see his true colors. That's no different than a guy chosing a used car over a new car. Are you sure you want to be with a man who doesn't know your worth anyways? Whether you want him back and/or just want to be angry over this for a while or not, this guy isn't worth another second of your time, energy or conversation. You've already done enough; more than your share. 1 of 2 things happend: 1. He wasn't as in love with you as you thought, thus in his mind he wasn't really "losing" anything when he got caught for cheating. OR 2. He's not sure of what he wants yet, thus it's no wonder he can let good things slip through his fingers b/c of lust all the time. Either way it goes, this guy is a lose-lose situation all the way around. This guy made the conscious decision to risk your respect for him & everything he's built with you over some fling. And yeah, it sucks & it hurts, no different than a man who gambles away his rent money for a slot machine. That gambler always assumes that if he just gambles "one more time" he might win. And of course, 9 times out of 10, he doesn't but all that matters is that hopefully, one day he'll realize that all the gambling isn't worth it. What's important though is that you don't stick around & wait for him to finally see your worth b/c you might be sitting around & waiting for a lonnnng time. And by that time (if he even changes) you probably won't even want him anymore; things would never be the same again even if he were to pop up & promise you he's a different person.

Let that girl have him. Better her than you! If anything, THANK HIM b/c if you allow him to, he just made you that much stronger. It's up to you though. Is this guy gonna be the one who made your self esteem & self love OR broke you? The decision is yours. It hurts like hell but looking back 10 years later & realizing all the years you've lost & missed out on over things you cannot control hurts alot worse when you reach that point. You'll be okay. Just be strong, understand that words are just words (which is why the FAKE ones get so good at using them instead of actions) & pick yourself up & dust yourself off. At this point it doesn't matter what he "said" or "promised" you. ONLY pay attention to what he SHOWS you & let your emotions run off of that. If you stick around & try to figure out "Why why why!" you'll just drive yourself crazy

Sorry bout dat jen, really didn't kno your situation just solved the question of the thread that's all 😢

Well honey not everybody is as sweet & as giving as you are. That's the most important thing you've got to understand when trying to step out into the real world of dating. Yes, it sucks but you can either continue living in the fantasy & keep getting hurt OR live in the reality and join them instead of trying to beat them. When this guy told you that he was starting to lose interest in you, that wasn't code for try harder. That was him being honest with you in telling you that his issues with you had started WAYYY before he'd even made that statement. For just like all of us have done at one point, you didn't listen & you misinterpreted his words & decided to let your emotions instead of your logic guide you.

Should you just say "F guys" & never trust again? No, of course not. But should you continue to keep having the same mentality with these guys that wearing your heart on your sleeve will MAKE a man respect & love you? NO! If you want the real deal (love) then honey you've got to be prepared to go through 10-100 bad seeds before you get to the good seeds. And honestly, I'm glad life works like that b/c that gives us the chance to thorougly know exactly what we DO want & what we DON'T want so that we're the near perfect person when we finally DO meet the one for us. But people mess that up b/c instead of learning & growing from the situation, they stay there & attach themselves to the hole that was dug, asking too many questions & literally be unwilling to acknowledge their own faults & short comings. And coincidently, that person starts to realize that all of their relationships have that same pattern. I'm not saying change who you are. If you're sweet by nature, stay sweet, but learn the game.

Hey, when you find the right guy for you THEN it's okay to give all you've got. After all, that's what love is about. BUT, you're problem might be that you wear your entire heart on your sleeve WAYYYYY before you've even determined someone to be the "right" one, just to turn around & be devestated when they took advantage of you. There is nothing wrong with giving but it should always be equal. And it sounds like you based how he felt about you strictly on what he "said" versus what he did & that's problem #1. Instead of giving more just to resent that you gave more in the long run, just give less and/OR give only the same amount that he's giving, that way you won't feel so betrayed & used & abused at the end of it all. If a guy is clearly showing you that he's only dedicated to giving 20% , & if you just keep right on ahead giving 80% , then what else do you expect for him to do other than take advantage of you. Every man loves a giving & sweet woman BUT every man also loves a woman with a backbone & who knows how to accurately weed out the dogs from the right ones. If you hold on to the dogs then they'll give you exactly what you ask for. And if you can't spot a dog within the first week, wait a little bit longer, while trying to further get to know him.

I'm almost positive that this guy showed red flags wayyyyyy before this point that he was taking advantage of you & part of the reason you are in this situation is b/c you expected for him to be the hero & demand the respect for you. No, you didn't demand the respect so he in return lost respect for you & lost his energy for being into the relationship. I know that hurts your feelings, but then again, hey obviously the way you're going about your relationships isn't working so you've got to be open to new mentalities. Not everybody is truthful, loyal & trustworthy. The minute you stop trying to ask "why" & stop trying to change what you control, things will roll alot more smoothly for you