Why do you think my Aquarian friend stopped talking to me?

I know, the simplest answer is just to reach out and ask. Well, in all honesty, I don't want to. I'm afraid of coming off as needy. We haven't spoken in almost a month, and I'm not sure why. He's basically my musical soulmate, and used to send me bands and videos all the time, or talk about meeting at a show. We met a couple years ago and started seeing each other, but it didn't work out and we lost touch for awhile. About a year ago I hit him up and we started talking again (strictly platonic as he had a gf). When they broke up our platonic relationship became a little more intimate. I guess he still liked me a little? Then last month I got the feeling while texting him he didn't really wanna talk to me for some reason, so I left him alone. Haven't heard from him since. Another friend of mine thinks he may have found someone new that he's interested in, and I said maybe so, but I thought we were just friends. I'm confused, and obviously bummed. Any insight you can offer would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance 🙂

Him being involved with someone else seems like a strong possibility.

He's busy. Another possibility.

Perhaps, he maintained contact with you before because he saw you as a romantic possibility but maybe that ship has sailed.

Maybe he's going through some stuff...with family...friends...illness...etc...

There could be a multitude of reasons.

Did you ever send him bands and videos?

Could there be some new band or video or musical story that you could look for that you could send to him?

Even if it was always him send you stuff...you could find something that you could say: "Hey...ran across this...and it reminded me of you...or was listening to this and it reminded me of you. Are you still getting out to see some bands? or How is life treating you these days?

Also...do you want to be friends with him...or more than friends? If you just want to be friends, chasing him as a friend would be OK for you. I think you should send him a message (per above) but if you want to be more than friends and he's seeing someone and/or seems to be too aloof, I would move on. You don't need to be bummed all the time.

Good luck.

Thank you.
I sent him music all the time too, and friendship is all I'm after. He should know that. When he was going through the breakup with his ex, he said he was glad we're still friends, and that anyone "questionable" unfriended him after he changed his status to "in a relationship." I've never asked for more from him, so he should know where he stands with me, even though yes, we have been intimate. I feel like if someone wants you on their life, you will be, and if they want to talk to you, they will, otherwise I usually leave them be. Then again, I don't want my friends to think I don't care if they're going through something difficult or stressful. I may take your advice and reach out just to see how he reacts, and if I still feel like he'd rather not hear from me right now, I'll leave him alone again.
I appreciate your thoughtful response.

If you don't mind me asking what is your sign? @keres

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If you don't mind me asking what is your sign? @keres

I'm a Cancer, but don't worry, I'm a very evolved Cancer, haha. I'm not the annoying, childish, clingy type you read about.

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If you don't mind me asking what is your sign? @keres

I'm a Cancer, but don't worry, I'm a very evolved Cancer, haha. I'm not the annoying, childish, clingy type you read about.

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If he is your buddy, then why arn't you hitting him up? Or are you texting, msging him and he is ignoring you?

I'm respectful of people's feelings and boundaries. He did this once before after we stopped seeing each other. I sensed then he didn't want to talk to me, but replied out of respect, so I left him alone. This seems to be a similar scenario, except I thought - like I said earlier - we were just friends. Yet it seems there was more going on than I realized, so perhaps it's best I leave him be. If he wants to talk to me, he has my number. I couldn't wrap my head around why someone I used to talk to almost daily is suddenly so distant, but the fact is he is and I don't like to be a bother.