Why does my aqua accuse me.

So hi again aquas. Could any women tell me why my aqua accuses me of lying ?my aqua has been through the mill and back in life and is so used to people lying or cheating. From day dot she has accused me of lying if what i say makes sense. I find myself having to recall what ive said word for word. We split up because she thinks im full of liesvor excuses and she leaves and comes back. This time we split for 2 weeks or so now but we chatted today it was real nice. By the end of the day she was back to her antics.i wish i could say hand on my heart that im lying to her about the silly things she accuses me of..but im just not. I had to tell her i can never see her again because her treatment of me is crushing me emotionally. I really felt today that maybe we could be friends and see what happens. She had left me you see. But regardless of weather she may or may not like to work it out..i cant keep doing this to myself. I love her so much it kills me to walk. Why does she do this.

DISCLAIMER: I am not diagnosing, I'm merely suggesting b/c of my own first hand experiences with BPD Aqua females.

Has she admitted to being diagnosed with any kind of mental illness? Google Borderline Personality Disorder, read forums and you'll probably notice males that are going through the exact same thing.

She has some kind of issue be it a mental illness or a personality disorder or just a rough life that has been riddled with mistrust and abuse, you can't stay in that kind of toxic situation, the only way I can see you staying is if you don't feel as if you can do better. What you perceive as love could actually be an addiction being formed into a toxic bond which can be a very very strong bond which feels like love.

She's damaged goods, accept the good and when it's bad well distance yourself or just leave her alone completely, give yourself 60 days to detox, no contact, no emails, no text messaging, no nothing, you'll have a clear head and then you'll know exactly what you should do about your situation.

Someone else said this just after i met her. It makes some sense. It is toxic for sure and i fell in love with thecwoman i felt she was when we first got together. She wasnt like this. I need to go cold turkey for sure. Shes crushing me. Thank you for your help.. i think il try stick out the non contact .

Google no contact, this will give you some insight on why you should go no contact, I know what you're going through believe me I do, save yourself or drown, the person you knew is gone forever, mentally ill people, people with disorders, horrible past etc use the good persona TO HOOK in the target (target being you) only to revert to their real selves once they know the target is deeply in love. Why? For many reasons but one main reason is it's easier to control you, run you over, manipulate you, treat you bad and you'll stay.

The nice persona is a FAKE, FRAUD, it's just a guise to PREVENT ABANDONMENT, people especially people with mental issues know if a person is in love, 100% invested the person in love will be hard pressed to abandon the relationship so what they try to do is CREATE the BEST persona they can to prevent abandonment, the person you see NOW is the real her, open your eyes, you don't want her, you want what she sold you but she did a bait, like so many do--good ole bait and switch.

Mourn the person you thought she was and save yourself before you lose yourself to a fantasy, get real and let the person you thought she was go, that's the only way out.

My suggestion would be, try your best to jump ship, right now she's devouring you in every way possible and your losing yourself, maybe even losing your mind, so not worth it.

Good luck!

Thank you. Yes that is how it feels..and shes pushed everyone shes dated away after being nice. Then she leaves and its because they are liars or even cheats. Ive done neither. She admits to treating me bad and says she knows she foes it andcthat she cant stop.i certainly feel like she got her claws in then broke my heart time and time again. Coming and going.i was going cold turkey. I only managed 5 days before contacting her..she made me feel id done wrong so i text and apologised. We ended up chatting and having a good convo. Then she accused me of lying and making up stuff after i told her whatvi learnt about aquas. My heart just sank. I gotta repair all over again.thank you for your help..i kinda knew it wasnt me who did wrong but she made me feel it was.

Hmm my parents are both Aquas.

1 is mentally unstable,
1 is sane

Guess who's the one constantly distrusting people?

Egg-zactly.

One of my roommates from back in the day is a diagnosed BPD Aqua woman. She was nice enough but, there were always people after her. I was one of her few friends and she would act very similarly with the men whom she dated. No contact is the way to go.

Thank you gals n guys . From today i have said love you but i must go. We wernt discussing a reunion but we were chatting and not long been apart. I know she still has feelings.so do i. But i have to leave because its making me ill. Im a shadow of my former chilled and happy self. We all tell white lies but im no big liar at all. Lies catch u out in the end. Thank you again..its to greive.

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Thank you gals n guys . From today i have said love you but i must go. We wernt discussing a reunion but we were chatting and not long been apart. I know she still has feelings.so do i. But i have to leave because its making me ill. Im a shadow of my former chilled and happy self. We all tell white lies but im no big liar at all. Lies catch u out in the end. Thank you again..its to greive.

You need to be your happy former self if this woman is driving you insane. Be well, and take care of yourself.

Thank you aquas. I never met such a nice bunch of a1uas. You all restore my faith in aquas somewhat .thank you again.