lovelivelife11
@lovelivelife11
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A question for aries men =/
Posted by lovelivelife11
i really really like him and want to express my feelings to him but i'm scared that he won't feel the same way i do.
^^ this is what the post is about. Everyone in this situation regardless of their sign feels this at one point. I applaud you for saying it. Most people avoid the real issue or deny it. Relationships like this are tough because you are not sure if you are moving forward or if you are on the same page at all. But I think this is kinda normal these days and it is about dealing with the fact that when you do want to have that talk with the person, that you are ready for any outcome (the relationship continues, or it doesn't).
Plus, you also said you don't have much to say when you text back and forth. It could be that you don't feel like he is someone you can talk yet about what you talk about with friends and family, maybe because you don't know how serious you two are. Maybe come up with an almost-boyfriend relationship status in your mind, to allow yourself to talk to him about what you like to generally talk about, so you communicate better in general.
Why he isn't talking more about this relationship on those terms, could be anything (and probably nothing bad). He very much could be not talking about the relationship and his feelings about it, because he is waiting to see a sign from you that you are glad to have him in his life. Something like that. Aries deal with relationships like this on long-term prospects. If it seems like things are going good and the other person is happy and confident about it, then we do more and talk more about things like that. If things seem like the other person is being shy or awkward then we let things stay the way they are and kind of just let it be. I think he will only be as ready as you are to talk about this stuff, until you feel up to talking about it, then he doesn't want to force you.
Posted by lovelivelife11
if you don't really like a girl would you tell her?click to expand
If I am texting 3 times a week, that is a good sign. But what really matters is he inviting you out to do more than just sex when he wants. It seems like you hang out and do stuff together, even if just t.v. If you don't go out to dinner or hang out more than just having sex, I would be very concerned in any relationshi
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If I am texting 3 times a week, that is a good sign. But what really matters is he inviting you out to do more than just sex when he wants. It seems like you hang out and do stuff together, even if just t.v. If you don't go out to dinner or hang out more than just having sex, I would be very concerned in any relationship.
Posted by lovelivelife11
it seems as if all we have is a sexual connection and hardly any communication, he'll text or call me a few times a week but i never have anything interesting to talk about i feel like i'm boring him or something.
If you want good relationships with people you like, you got to be ready to say whatever you want to say and not be so shy. If you don't like talking about long-term stuff, then avoid the topic but you have to be ready to have other conversations, like what is your favorite holiday or what this week has you feeling like. This is how we get to know each other in life.
Posted by lovelivelife11
ibut he's very affectionate to me and he shows interest in me and what i'm doing.
That is a very sweet and good sign that things are good, I can see why you want to avoid talking about feelings. But it sounds like you want to say something about it. Maybe take very tiny baby steps and at least consider thanking him for being so nice and considerate all the time. Gauge what he says from there.
Posted by lovelivelife11
i don't think he likes expressing his feelings either. especially if somethings bothering him.
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Seems like he has a lot of things holding him back that have nothing to do with you. Sounds like this might be his first real dating or relationship situation and he his trying real hard to not screw it up (we can screw up relationships in a heartbeat haha).
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I guess my general advice is take baby steps and ask really easy questions, like 'hey, people keep asking about us and I wanted to know if you consider us as just dating or something like boyfriend and girlfriend...", but don't be nervous, know that you are doing the right thing and you will be okay no matter what he says.
Let us know .
No, if this is just sexual, he won't tell you. He'll just keep enjoying what he's getting.
Are you having sex with this guy? And you've been with him for 7 months and know nothing of how he feels? How can total strangers know more than you?
Stop being a baby and act like an adult if you are 'messing around with him' (sex). Put your big girl pants on and find out. Try giving back and stop thinking about how shy you are, blah, blah...it gets old. It's not sensitive or sweet, it's pathetic to think the way you're thinking. Time to grow up and get real. He should have volunteered something along the lines of wanting you to be his girlfriend in all this time.
Are you having sex with this guy? And you've been with him for 7 months and know nothing of how he feels? How can total strangers know more than you?
Stop being a baby and act like an adult if you are 'messing around with him' (sex). Put your big girl pants on and find out. Try giving back and stop thinking about how shy you are, blah, blah...it gets old. It's not sensitive or sweet, it's pathetic to think the way you're thinking. Time to grow up and get real. He should have volunteered something along the lines of wanting you to be his girlfriend in all this time.
Posted by Mistery
No, if this is just sexual, he won't tell you. He'll just keep enjoying what he's getting.
Are you having sex with this guy? And you've been with him for 7 months and know nothing of how he feels? How can total strangers know more than you?
Stop being a baby and act like an adult if you are 'messing around with him' (sex). Put your big girl pants on and find out. Try giving back and stop thinking about how shy you are, blah, blah...it gets old. It's not sensitive or sweet, it's pathetic to think the way you're thinking. Time to grow up and get real. He should have volunteered something along the lines of wanting you to be his girlfriend in all this time.
well it's just the way i am i' shy i'm quiet and i'm scared of expressing my feelings because i'm scared of getting hurt, you may have no problem with that but i do he's told me that it's way more than just sex at the beginning of our relationship, he's told me he liked me at the beginning of our relationship, he's told me that i was the only good thing in his life, he respects me and we hang out once or twice a week, we don't spend every moment with each other because i work and go to school and he's always doing whatever it is he does. he texts me or call 2 or 3 times a week when we talk we talk about school and work and whatever is going on in our lives, everything but our relationship and where we're headed. i just want to know if our relationship is going to be long term, i think it will i just want to now if were on the same page. maybe i should just suck it up and talk to him. i think i went through the same thing with my first BF he thought i didn't like him because of the way i acted so shy and so quiet i never told him i liked him until after months of dating.
but anywho i'll just have to talk to him
@heroic_guy
thanx for the advice =] the last 2 girls he dated dumped him because he never payed them any attention one of the girls cheated on him and slept with someone else and got pregnant by the guy and the other girl wanted attention he never gave her, she didn't like that he was always out with his friends and family never took her out, but i don't care i think it's good he's around his family and i would like for him to keep hisself busy especially when i'm always working and in school (my last BF hated that i worked and had school he always had a problem with me being so busy) i love when we spend time together even if it's a short time. he's not the clingy type, i love that he's so independent, responsible, and caring.
but anywho i think i need to say something soon because every time he's with me and someone calls or texts my phone he says "is that your BF calling you" he'll be funny about it but i think he's being serious, i really need to start showing him how much i really like him, i don't want anyone else but him.
thanx for the advice =] the last 2 girls he dated dumped him because he never payed them any attention one of the girls cheated on him and slept with someone else and got pregnant by the guy and the other girl wanted attention he never gave her, she didn't like that he was always out with his friends and family never took her out, but i don't care i think it's good he's around his family and i would like for him to keep hisself busy especially when i'm always working and in school (my last BF hated that i worked and had school he always had a problem with me being so busy) i love when we spend time together even if it's a short time. he's not the clingy type, i love that he's so independent, responsible, and caring.
but anywho i think i need to say something soon because every time he's with me and someone calls or texts my phone he says "is that your BF calling you" he'll be funny about it but i think he's being serious, i really need to start showing him how much i really like him, i don't want anyone else but him.
Posted by Asiza
I agree with Heroic
Ah yes the Arian love.
This guy really likes you,
if this is someone who you want to be with,
take your time with your feelings,
he will understand if you happen to become more open with him, we love honesty and like having a deep level of connection with the person
but still proceed in showing affection if you're not ready,
All you have to do is ask if you want a answer,
We'll be more than happy speaking about how we feel
He has a very nice chart and you sound very nice
There's nothing wrong with being shy, he obviously likes you for who you are
You both would make a lovely couple
Good luck : )
thanx =]
Posted by lovelivelife11
@heroic_guy
thanx for the advice =] the last 2 girls he dated dumped him because he never payed them any attention one of the girls cheated on him and slept with someone else and got pregnant by the guy and the other girl wanted attention he never gave her, she didn't like that he was always out with his friends and family never took her out, but i don't care i think it's good he's around his family and i would like for him to keep hisself busy especially when i'm always working and in school (my last BF hated that i worked and had school he always had a problem with me being so busy) i love when we spend time together even if it's a short time. he's not the clingy type, i love that he's so independent, responsible, and caring.
but anywho i think i need to say something soon because every time he's with me and someone calls or texts my phone he says "is that your BF calling you" he'll be funny about it but i think he's being serious, i really need to start showing him how much i really like him, i don't want anyone else but him.
Sounds like you have a good relationship in terms of your life. As you said, you like this relationship because it works so well with your school and work life. I like that you said that. As far as him making comments like "is that your BF calling you", I think that is another good sign that he is interested in having you in your life.
Yes I know women need to look out for themselves regarding just being a sex partner. But seems like you have your head on straight and you just don't like expressing your feelings in some situations. Which is fine. You seem to be doing the right thing in figuring out how you are going to deal with this feeling you have. Rock on!
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