do aries men have tempers?

well?

a little bit lol

my brother is 16 and he still has these ridiculous tantrums.

if god forbid something doesn't go his way, he'll go from angel to tasmanian devil in 2 seconds. he'll stark kicking the furniture and he'll start yelling at me for no reason other than that he's pissed.

or it's not always about him not getting what he wants. if he sees a jerk out in public, he can't keep his damn mouth shut. he just HAS to say something to them. and it's so humiliating for me because he always makes a big scene and draws a crowd. i understand that he wants to help those who don't have the courage to stand up for themselves but does he have to do it in a humiliating way? he is so loud its not even funny.

in the past he has already been suspended from school twice for getting into a physical fight with a bully that was picking on one of his friends. he is just so aggressive. i really think this is unhealthy.

and when i tell him to keep his temper in check he laughs and says he doesn't have a temper. are you serious?!!??!!?!?!?

seriously, i'm a cancer and i don't like aggression that much.

my parents can't control him and neither can i.

what should i do?

Posted by Jesse91
a little bit lol

lol uh-huh i can tell from that little "lol" at the end that you're not telling the entire truth lol

Gee, it takes him 2 full seconds to reach full boil? You sure he's really an Aries, cause that is the slow boat to pissed off from my perspective!!!!

Though I gotta' say, taking on a bully at a drop of a hat, now that is top notch Aries!!!!

And of course he doesn't have anger problems. He is just a bit enthusiastic, you see.

And btw, yes indeed, "Aries Ice" can be truly impressive....

lol i'm sure it's just a phase but if he's walking up to random strangers and picking fights with them, he needs to know what kinda personality he is up against and act accordingly cuz some people really are crazy so if he runs his mouth to the wrong person, he could get shot.

most kids that age think they're invincible so they go around acting like nothing bad will ever happen to them but that's a big mistake.
as for him getting into fights with bullies to protect his friend, i really couldn't be more proud of him. if i were his dad i'd be like "that's my boy!" lol

anyhow you shouldn't worry too much about it. i got my own tasmanian devil at home (except he ain't an aries, he's a gemini) lol my 14 yr old brother. i moved out a year ago so i haven't seen his tantrums in awhile but he used to be crazy. he would constantly scream at the top of his lungs if he felt like he wasn't being heard.

here's a typical scenario: he shouts something random into thin air and we don't know who the hell he's talking to so we don't respond and we just continue doing what we were doing and then he'll YELL it out for the second time as if we didn't fucking hear him the first time. he always sounds like he's talking to himself (he does that alot) and he never adresses anyone by their name so it's fucking annoying sometimes. lol

Give him some information about all the qualities about being an Aries, and get him to see he has a lot to give the world.

What can you do? You can be supportive, I think that is all anybody wants.

We aries need a way to get energy out, so maybe encourage to play video games or play a sport, or have him enjoy something that relaxes him, like drawing or whatever.

Actually, Jesse and Heroic are on the right track. Once I had read their responses I started to remember a few things from when I was much younger. I found that physical activity did so much to keep me "sane." I really needed to work hard to burn off a bunch of energy.

I did things like run cross country after school. 5-10 mile run every night. I then drove 30 minutes to a job at a gas station. I hustled gas, tires, oil etc until 9 PM, and then drove home. I pretended to do some homework, but was still fairly figdety. Once I calmed down, I finally went to bed. Off the next morning to do it all again. Pretty much manic the entire time, you see.

In retrospect it seems like I was in full blown mania most of my life. I am still way more energetic than lots of people who are literally half my age. I suppose that means I have become an "Evolved Aries." This translates into that I can actually sit in a classroom for over an hour without trying to hurtle myself out the nearest window. Still pretty doggone intense though. And still rather difficult to be around because of this intensity and energy.

My Aries temper is compressed. My Taurus Rising is both a blessing and a curse that way.

thx for the replies everyone. i read everything.

so basically the reason for his behavior is unconstructive restlessness....? lol

he does have an unbelievable amount of energy. he's been kickboxing since he was 10 and he plays soccer so his energy is already being put to good use (or at least i thought).

my dad thinks there's nothing wrong with him. in fact, he only adds more fuel to the fire. he encourges my brother to be aggressive (he's actually the one that got him involved in kickboxing) and he even has a bit of a temper himself.

and my mom is one of those super easy-going, go with the flow type of person and she'll only scold my brother if she's in the mood. but most of the time she just shakes her head and tolerates his behavior.

oh and speaking of running his mouth to the wrong guy!!! One time we were standing in the bus and he got into a verbal argument with someone that looked like a gang member to me and my heart nearly stopped. my brother was pissed because this dude wouldn't give up his seat for an old lady.

i know his heart was in the right place but that guy seriously looked like a gang member!!!!! he could've pulled out a gun or a knife!!! but this kinda thing does not cross my brother's mind. he just lives in the moment and he doesn't think about what might come next.

Posted by impresswho

GB, he kicks furniture and he is 16 years-old? Your parents can't control him? You're kidding right? Please tell me you're kidding?

The last time my brother acted like your Aries brother I took a belt wrapped it around his neck and told him if he breathes I would kill him. That was the last time he threw a fit in the front of me. OMG, what is up with some of these kids now-a-days?

lol oh my goodness weren't you scared? it's so scary when guys throw a tantrum right infront of you!!!

not only does my brother kick the furniture but he flips over tables, punches holes in the walls, and yells! there's like 3 holes in our living room right now.

and when he's doing these things the last thing i wanna do is to try and physically restrain him!!
how the heck do you physically restrain a 16 yr old boy that's twice your size who's been kickboxing since he was 10?!?!

i don't think i'm ready to die just yet lol i wanna get married someday and have kids lol

he sounds like me on a mad one. NO FURNITURE IS SAFE. aries cusp

what about creative pursuits, does he like art or music or anything? if the sports don't help, that might do it. or having more responsibilities at home, aries usually have good leadership qualities.

yes speaking of art and music, my mom is thinking about putting him in a church choir against his will lol we'll see how that goes lol

bluemoon, his birthday is march 31st, 1995. he's a double aries needless to say lol aries sun/aries moon. his mercury and venus are in pisces and his mars is in leo. i can't remember the rest.

thanks for the interesting info, bluemoon. it gave me a better understanding of what's REALLY going on with my brother.
i think i'm gonna go easy on him from now on....or at least until this uranus transit thing ends lol
because if this is supposed to be a period of growth for aries, then i don't wanna block his growth by constantly nagging him about his ways. i mean aside from his occasional temper, he's a good kid. he gets decent grades, he has good morals, and he's very enthusiastic about life so as his sister im gonna support him all the way.

no 😛

your brother sounds crazy but kind of sweet at the same time lol he stands up for defenseless people. i think that's really noble of him. but it's true that people with aries moon tend to be have crazy, out-of-control tempers. i know a pisces guy with aries moon and he can lose his temper quicker than anyone i know.

the aries guy i'm talking to doesn't seem to have much of a temper. in the past i've tried to make him mad on purpose but he didn't take the bait lol i kinda wanna see his temper cuz i'm just not buying his quiet facade lol i feel like there's gotta be something wild in him.

yes,yes they do! they usually don't last long but now & then watch out!
It's also good to stay away until their anger goes down or goes away
altogether!!! don't ever push an aries!!!!

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Posted by GreekBarbie
thanks for the interesting info, bluemoon. it gave me a better understanding of what's REALLY going on with my brother.
i think i'm gonna go easy on him from now on....or at least until this uranus transit thing ends lol
because if this is supposed to be a period of growth for aries, then i don't wanna block his growth by constantly nagging him about his ways. i mean aside from his occasional temper, he's a good kid. he gets decent grades, he has good morals, and he's very enthusiastic about life so as his sister im gonna support him all the way.

Cool, cool. Use your cancer nurturing with him instead and you will get better responses from him. Also, your parents shouldn't force anything against his will. Just let him feel like he is in control and do not try to control him. Otherwise, you will experience a rebellious force like no other. Uranus is revolution, electric, upheaval, and sudden shocks.

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Hey bluemoon. Just a little update (you don't have to respond)
My brother's temper has gotten a lot better since then. The entire family gathered in the living room and had an open and honest discussion about this. I begged my mom not to put him in the church choir because it's not what he wanted and my mom agreed. I also asked my dad to be a better role model for my brother.

I wanna say thanks once again to everyone who helped 🙂