Aries man doesn't make me happy.

I'm on the verge of breaking up with him for good this time - we've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years. At first - it was great; he always talked about me to his family and friends, never got too jealous, wrote me romantic letters, did whatever i wanted: say if i wanted to play a game - he did just that, more open about his day. Now, his attitude is dull towards me .. he no longer gets excited about speaking with me, I don't get random phone calls during the day, he doesn't talk to me around his friends, won't live with me even after years of being with one another, gets upset if a guy comments on my facebook, makes excuses as to why he doesnt pick up (mostly eating or shower). He used to always shower me with attention, now I feel like a little lost puppy with no where to go for comfort (which is why I'm writing this). I'm lonely, depressed, and clueless as to what to do. I hate that I am no longer his priority.. I've broken up with him so many times, however, I get very upset and always go back to him.

Maybe it's the fact that it's long distance. However, he's not taking the initiative to find a place or getting a job here. I am willing to move out there even though I'm still in school (he's done), but he insists on moving here. He still lives with his parents, so if I drive there.. not like he has a place for me to stay (ditto in his scenario). He's been so jealous that it's gotten to the point where I have gotten rid of all my guy friends. I can't take this much longer, I need a solution..

I broke up with him, he knew this time it was serious. Now he's threatening to kill himself, I'm very upset I'm in this scenario to begin with.

Don't be too hard on him - I would probably kill myself if I had to live with my parents.

Is he emotionally abusing you to control you and get what he
wants from you?

it sounds like he's afraid of what you could be doing while
your away from him so he's trying to reverse it on you and
make you wonder about him! Maybe he wants you to find a place
over there where he's at so he doesn't have to? whatever he is
doing it's most likely self serving and greedy on his part!
Aries are not stupid,in fact they are very intelligent,never
lose sight of that,and some aries are bad people as in every
sign there are bad ones and well as the good ones.
He sounds bad.He's abusing you emotionally and that is never
good!!!

I find two conflicting statements:
1)
I've broken up with him so many times, however, I get very upset and always go back to him.

and

2)
I broke up with him, he knew this time it was serious. Now he's threatening to kill himself, I'm very upset I'm in this scenario to begin with.

I mean, did he say he'll kill himself all the other times you broke up with him?

Honestly, just move on and yes it's all about you, my dear. Why make yourself responsible for him? You are looking for what he's not giving to you, is there really much to think about? Are you trying to nurture what you want out of him?
I would quietly move on, he doesn't have to know it's a break up if he's threatening to kill himself (hell if I were you, I would even call his parents and tell them of his threats let them deal with his mental health ), I would just get distant too, make excuses for why you cannot come up and see him, you can temporarily block/close your Facebook account and just say you are busy, sooner or later, he'll get the point.

Aries can get the point quickly.
Impresswho makes some fine points.

Posted by brights

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your all making valid points here and yes she's allowed it
and as long as she goes back again & again she won't be able
to cope with er life.Please do not get offended aries people,
many aries people are great people,in fact your my favorite
people next to my Gem's but some aries are bad,some Gem's are
bad but that doesn't spoil the truth about most of them.
I allowed my aries man to walk all over me,that is true and
I hope I have something to offer to anyone going through the
same thing or something very simular.
I haven't given up on all aries people because of what happened
to me,I love them and will continue to be around them as well.
What I am doing is working on ME so I can attract the right kind
of aries guy because I love the aries personality best in a
relationship because they get me like no one else and I hope that
bright will work on herself and do the same.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by brights

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Yes P! that is what she wrote. Maybe she won't do it but she at
least realizes there is a big problem and is trying to.P angel
do you like running people off of this forum? seems to me you do
You don't know me & Ben and you don't know this woman either.
She's reaching out for advice & support.She admits she has a
weakness and that to me is a good start.Sorry if you cannot see it

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by brights

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Again ^^^ for the stupid Gemini who has no clue what humor is

Actually, I'll rephrase ..... for the stupid Gemini who is clueless on just about everything.


For example, this thread isn't even about her .. yet, she talks about me as it pertains to her and Ben.

Seriously .. what the treetrunk does Bright and her situation have to do with whether or not I know Ben?



lol .. what a treetrunking idiot.

humour --- Brit English e.g. colour, labour
humor --- American English e.g. color, labor