are we both players?

I'm 25 year Aries woman born 21.03.1990 in Lodz, Poland at 12:20 pm. I realised about one year ago or 6 months ago that I was kind of a player. An I am still.
This is werid because a lot of my female friends say that I am very weak inside, only telling about issues and so one.
This is not true- when I am surrounded by men I am 100% self confident. But I don't want anything from them- just flirt and maybe a 'game'.
I am writing this post because I realised this one year ago. I was a kind of modest girl. People say I am pretty and intelligent. I was considered to be kind of naive and weak by my female friends. But boys told me totally opposite things. 1 year ago I met some guy. He is a player. Usually he choses girls. And it was weird because when he saw me he was chosen by me. And I was flirting with him about 3-4months before we slept with each other. It was me who had power over him.
But after this my confidence broke. And I felt used because he pulled away. But I pulled away as well. My friends told me it was me who rejected . We are still friends.
Of course after that I got a bit clingy & he escaped. It was 8-9 months ago. Since then he changed a bit and I changed a bit for worse. I mean I started to have lack of confidence. Everything that I did was wrong in my life. BUT its so weird. I like this emotional roller coster and a game.
We met on new years eve, we met after several times. It was when I did my best to look good, to show him I am attractive. I didnt want him to forget about me. I started spyting him on fb, but then I realised when I liked too many pics, he didnt notice me in a crowd. The problem is that 1 year ago we knew each other's normal side,human without playing games. Now I see its very weird because we slept with each other & I cant forget about it. When I see him approaching or smiling to me accidentally I gain confidence and start to smile and flirt. The same for him. When I start to smile and be not a bitch he accidentally approaches like I 'd give him a green signal. Its very cool game.I like it because I dont wanna commit now. But I see he met a lot of new girl friends during that time, he is surrounded or was surrounded with others. Its not like I am 'down' because of that- it creates a competition for me to be the best and to see if he would want me again.Its so exciting. Do you think that I am a player? Or is it about confidence?When he was ignoring me or didnt look in my eyes I felt weird- now when I turn my back off or I ignore him I want to make him feel like I used to feel.I see he doesn't care about me that much. Before he cared much more. Of course its because I'm not a challenge anymore- because I slept with him. But I see that If he wouldnt care about me he wouldn'tstare, he wouldn't approach, he wouldn't start talking, teasing with me.I want this game to play again.
What should I do to make him look like this at me again? He is a Virgo 10.09.1989 Lodz, Poland at 11:57 am.
Thanks!!

I will look at the charts as soon as I can, but it sounds like you have already answered your question. You said you are a player, and that he likes to "choose" women. So, yes, you're both players. You said you held the power over him, and then said you were clingy. Which is it? If you were so cool with his behavior, you wouldn't be on here at least once a month complaining about this Virgo guy.

Yeah. You're taking his lack of interest as a challenge. You're probably not used to a guy acting the way he does. You want to see if you can get him sprung, it would be a ego boost for you. Doesn't necessarily mean you want him.