Aries child.

Help me deal with my 8 years old Aries girl.
She drives me nuts sometimes...

Haha.

Oohh Pisces moon and Sun

I assuming she has a lot if energy and won't calm down?

Prepare her for boot camp 🙂

The problem isn't her active side, I'm very energetic and even impulsive too, we do have lots of fun together but she can be so stubborn, defiant and naughty....totally ignores advice and instructions and thinks she knows better and should do everything her own way.
She's a clever girl but not very dedicated at school. In fact she has so many interests that I help and let her pursue but she doesn't use her burning passion in none of them.

I was a active aries child, it did subside, along with the stubborness and toughness. Some qualities is favourable and I miss all my spunk, do encourage her the right way. Aries can be gullable and naive, so maybe reverse psychology might help, as often spite is a great aries motivator 😛

And also try and find something you can do together so that the respect for you as a parent grows through bonding. Telling an aries child off might cause them to withdraw emotionally. Emphesise bonding and her respect will grow for you. If a child is told it is wrong often, the child will act that way. Tell her she's great and she will be more wary of loosing the title.
One thing aries despise is feeling as if they wronged someone, it might not show but the level of guilt is often strong and one should not take advantage of that. If an aries child is made to feel they've been bad or did not behave reasonable they might loose sleep over this and hurt inside, while on the outside keep the bad behaviour.. So do activities together that you both enjoy, The aries girl often identifies with boys during school age so keeping good friends from same gender can be difficult, as it sometimes feels as though they are from different planets, this adds to the insecurity aries hides very well.

Also engage her in helping animals and appeal to her humanitarian side, Could you visit an animal shelter together? Maybe do some voulenteer work, an aries needs a lot of praise and is actually willing to help but never if it is demanded, Use your intellect to bring out the best in her 🙂
Always highlight where she does good, and this will become so addicting she will do anything to maintain those traits to keep shining in your eyes, Also if you praise her infront of others, she wil need to keep her act together to not loose face 🙂
Does she have siblings to compete with? And aries child sometime claims ownership on the parents, and if the siblings are better off and get more positive attention this might even add to the unwanted behaviour.

So bond, praise, engange her in areas where she can develop more care or at least get to show it where she can be needed and be tactfull in how you approach her in order to get stuff done. Instead of demanding, ask for help arppund the house. Like, oh I really apprecite it when you help me in the kitchen etc. Wow how do you set the table that nice/fast etc, I bet you can't remove the clutter in your room that fast etc. Be clever in how you adress the situation 😉

As an aries child I always felt different, never understood the girls in the schoolyard and what they were on about, I would much rather climb trees and show the boys I was the bravest kid that school had ever seen :p So mimicing boyish behaviour was more natural to me

Thanks all.

Posted by Goldfish

....totally ignores advice and instructions and thinks she knows better and should do everything her own way.

.... not very dedicated at school.

.... she has so many interests that I help and let her pursue but she doesn't use her burning passion in none of them.

You aren't directing her. By your own admission you let her, and help her pursue "so many interests" .... that you are letting her be vague on all, rather than specific on several.

So, stop letting her do whatever the fuck she wants to do, and start putting controls on her.

Let me guess ... when she gets stubborn, you just cave and let her win.

If that's the case, if you're not actually being a parent ... then stfu with your whining about it

Posted by Goldfish

....totally ignores advice and instructions and thinks she knows better and should do everything her own way.

If you let her believe that she knows better by letting her get her own way ... then she is right, she should ignore you and all advice ... but, by letting her rule, you are instilling it into her that she's right and knows better than you.

Don't let her ignore you. Physically pop her into a chair and make her stay until she yields, make her do as you say and the moment she begins to act like an ass, place another restriction.


And don't yield.


if you're not going to do that ..... then what's the point of this thread?