Aries-Leo compatability

Hi, i've been involved with an Aries man on/off for 6 months now and like your guy its when he has a few drinks it seems to loosen him up but otherwise so incredibly aloof and distant - to the point I've told him to forget about it now. He is also Aqua moon, Aqua Venus. I'm a Leo too.

wow texasleo, i could have posted the beginning of your post almost word for word when my aries and i first started dating. 🙂

sorry should have said Aqua Moon, Mercury Pisces - his Venus is Aries

he manages to suck me back in - but this time i am sticking to my guns, wish I didn't feel so good about him but can't take the distance and lack of communication anymore, its too difficult, i blame it on the aqua/pisces input but sure maybe he's just not that into me!!

Posted by trifles light as air*
wow texasleo, i could have posted the beginning of your post almost word for word when my aries and i first started dating. 🙂

can you give us any more info/hope! how long did it take for the Aries direct action to finally kick in!!

Posted by Noosiekins
Funny I'm an Aries and met a Leo guy that i've fallen for... Almost exact situation but him being the Leo and me the Aries.

I've read some of your posts about him. I hope it's going well with yall. Relationships are always hard in the beginning when we don't know if the other person has the same interest as we do.

Posted by celticlioness
he manages to suck me back in - but this time i am sticking to my guns, wish I didn't feel so good about him but can't take the distance and lack of communication anymore, its too difficult, i blame it on the aqua/pisces input but sure maybe he's just not that into me!!

Maybe some of the Aries can give some input on this. I'm curious to know as well.

I have Venus in Aries and I must say I tried to be aloof and distant when I first met the guy who I now absolutely adore.
I fell in love with him at first sight, but having been hurt in the past wasn't looking to get involved with anyone (even an A grade top level hunk!!)

I remember him pulling me into a doorway (it was raining) and he kissed me (world's best kisser this guy) and then stood back and said,
"Wow, we just had a 'moment'" and I stamped my foot (go Ram!!) and said,
"No - that is not a 'moment' - we will not be having any 'moments'!"

Of course he wore me down🙂 eventually but again that was me trying sure he was serious because when I love someone I give it everything and you cannot afford to put it all on the line for some poser just after a fling.
**Not sure if this is true for all Aries or peculiar to Venus in Aries people.

So I would check that he knows you are serious. And as Noosie said, we should seek the opinions of our wise RamGuys because boy rams can be different to girl rams.

LDRs are a special subject all of their own but nothing to fear if you have real faith and trust. Don't know why people diss them so.

Aries/Leo rocks. All my besties are Leos. True friends who are always there for you.

oh yeah

if it is over it is OVUH....and we won't be losing sleep over you either...we have a "Delete Fukcwit Button" and you are history

And yes, no screwing around. We want you. Just you and whenever possible thanks.

Venus in Aries - the only way to go!!

Hi Alicar, I wonder could you have a look at our charts and see what you think - you seem to know a bit!

Mine

Sun Leo
AscendantSagittarius
Moon Cancer
Mercury Cancer
Venus Leo
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Virgo
Saturn Aries
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Lilith Gemini
Asc nodeAries 12.09


His

Sun Aries
Moon Aquarius
Mercury Pisces
Venus Aries
Mars Aquarius
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Gemini
Uranus Libra
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
Lilith Sagittarius
Asc nodeCapricorn

Posted by AliCar15
I'm happy for you, Tex! There is nothing like forming a great connection with someone.

Thanks Ali!

Hi Ali, Thanks for that, it has given me some insight, i'm aware of the emotional content of the cancer sign and coupled with the leo sun i am a very emotion driven person which I hate sometime but love mostly! Sometimes I wish i had a bag load of air and earth in my chart as it can be a rollercoaster dealing with emo's. I am also a cancer-leo cusp so adds to the ride, sure i'll take the lows as long as i can have the highs!! I have to say i'm not passive-agressive at all thankfully.

have you any suggestions though on how to relate to this guy - i'm not into games and am usually just myself but i admit i'm finding this tough.

Sorry for hijacking the thread!

Posted by AliCar15
Hey Celtic!

Thanks for the compliment! I'm on here a lot- and learning about Astrology has REALLY helped me understand and communicate with my crazy Aqua boyfriend!

Let me see- what sticks out RIGHT AWAY are your Cancer placements. Those seem like the only issue you might have in your relationship. Moon, Mercury & Mars in Cancer - Cancer is an emotional "feeling" sign, and the sign of Aquarius is 100% logic based. If what you say is based on emotions and not on logic, he'll have a difficult time understanding/accepting it in some instances. You, especially with your Leo Sun, need love, attention, security, and ego boosts! It will be hard for him to give this to you all the time because he is so damn independent and aloof. He won't see why you need these things. He's in the room, isn't he? Shouldn't that be enough to prove to you that he loves you? Aries & Aqua are the most independent signs in the Zodiac. That said, the little water he does have in his chart is his Pisces Mercury (the planet of communication) and Pisces & Cancer Mercs tend to have the capacity to understand each other well.

Your Sun signs & Venus signs ROCK- Aries & Leo are so incredibly great together. Where you might run into some issues are with your Moons & Mars (Aqua & Cancer). Your Cancer influences here could make you be a bit passive-aggressive in your emotional dealings with him if you're not having your needs met, and he just won't have the patience to deal with it or even try to understand you. This could cause him to flip the Aqua distance switch and disappear here and there.

Your Sag ascendant (your personality? GREAT in this combo! Sag has awesome compatibility with both Aries & Aqua!

Aqua moon and venus... That's what scares me! I do love how aries likes to chase though. Too bad my virgo moon doesn't take it seriously which is why I keep ending up with earth and water sun guys.

Hmmmm....

mumble, mumble....

*scratching head*

Expand a bit on the lack of respect issue, if you would.

I was married to my scorp for a long time. She would get me drunk once in a while just to hear what was really going on inside my head. Part of that seemed to be that I needed to be limbered up before I allowed all my thoughts to flow. Once they got flowing, I was able to piece them together and make sense of some of what I was doing. It can take a bit for me to let down even my internal barriers.

Next, believe what he does. Use Aries guys are people of actions. What he does is far more indicative of what he is feeling than anything he will say. This takes me back up to the respect thing. If you told him you thought he had not been treating you right, and he changed, then he cares enough to listen. If he continues in these behaviors, he don't care much. Once again, his behavior reveals what is going on inside his head and heart.

A while ago I read where someone was bitching about how the married Aries guys just seemed to get a kick out of sticking their marriage rings in their faces. Yup, that would be an Aries who truly loves their SO. Once again, behavior trumps anything this man can or will say.

He could also be a bit scared (I didn't really say that, us Aries guys aren't scared of anything!!!) to openly announce his love for you until he feels 1) he is ready, 2) he fully trusts you, and 3) you feel the same way.

Truthfully, I am a huge flirt. I just love quick banter with more than a ting of innuendo. If I am truly smitten though, the banter stops with that person. I am very attentive. I am start doing Ye Olde Walking On Eggs around this person. I know I am abrasive, and I am doing everything I can to not be so annoying, but really, I just want to be attentive to this person so that I can get to know them better, understand them better, be closer to them.

Before I married my now ex, I went away and thought for about 3 months about "Us." For people who are supposedly pell mell at everything, some of us Aries types can be surprisingly delicate when it comes to matters of the heart.

Are you happy now ReallyNice. I don't want another head butting!!!!

Walking on eggs is good training for him. And as I said, I will only do this if I am truly and deeply "smitten" by someone.

This will wear off. As his trust/comfort level raises, the walking on egg thing decreases. It is the sense that I love and trust enough that I can really reveal myself that we are talking here. Some of use are remarkably shuttered and guarded. We approach very delicately, because we go all in, and it really hurts to get our teeth kicked in.

As a side bar, one of the things my ex told me more than once was something along the lines of "Everyone says you are such and such, why can't you be like that around me?" My response was, and it was the honest response "I don't lie to you, I don't hide from you. Everybody else can go to hell!"
Something you might watch for. If he behaves differently when you two are alone than when in public. When the facade drops, you have broken through to the true interior of this person.

And yeah, it was pretty tacky of him bragging about being hit on by another chick. Maybe when just the guys were around OK. It would be a "guy" thing then. But if you were there and heard it, bust his ass.

And lastly, yes, no matter what, he needs to contribute to the relationship. It does sound as if he got the messages though. So, back to his behavior. With just a bit of "education," it would seem this may even be workable. But what the heck, all guys, other than me, need some training....

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
oh yeah

if it is over it is OVUH....and we won't be losing sleep over you either...we have a "Delete Fukcwit Button" and you are history

And yes, no screwing around. We want you. Just you and whenever possible thanks.

Venus in Aries - the only way to go!!

As a Leo, I'm the same way. It has to do with loyalty and respect. If a person is disloyal or does not respect me, they will not have a place in my sunshine 😉 aka my life. "Delete Fukcwit Button" is a great thing to have!

Posted by dofacc
Are you happy now ReallyNice. I don't want another head butting!!!!

Yeah, back to my silly normal self. Always up for a friendly headbutt though.


Loving that bit about the ex Mrs dofacc..."I was married to my scorp for a long time. She would get me drunk once in a while just to hear what was really going on inside my head.."

Sneaky Scorpio putting you on the truth serum!!

And then she would take advantage of me whilst in that inebriated state!!!!

Ah yes, good times, indeed.


It would seem your Aries guy has gone right down my little check list TexasLeo. Be kind to him, cause it appears to me that he is all yours, and yours only.

Posted by Noosiekins

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
oh yeah

if it is over it is OVUH....and we won't be losing sleep over you either...we have a "Delete Fukcwit Button" and you are history

And yes, no screwing around. We want you. Just you and whenever possible thanks.

Venus in Aries - the only way to go!!

LOL well i don't know about the losing sleep part I guess it's when we feel that it's over then it's over and done with and we don't lose sleep...but if we want it to keep on chucking.... i don't know I've lost lots of sleep over a stupid Cancer man before.

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Bad Noosie for losing sleep over a Cancer.

I admit to losing sleep (and other stuff) over the damage done to my life but not the actual guys:
Lying Fukc Gemini - married to the town bike - best of luck to you both (and yes it is a BIG town!!)
Socio-Aggro-Aquapath - well it's hard to have feelings about them. I do wish these people were locked up instead of allowed to roam the streets with non-psychos

They wasted my time - what should have been the best years of my life, but if it took narrowly surviving all that shit for me to meet and marry my sweetheart then I will cop it as gracefully as I can.

My time is precious and I would rather have my head full of gooey dirty thoughts about someone I adore than some nasty self centered fukctard.

Posted by dofacc
And then she would take advantage of me whilst in that inebriated state!!!!

🙂 poor dofacc, being taken advantage of. Bet you hated that

I am referring to the list of things that I laid out through this thread. He listens when you tell him about something you didn't like, and it seems he modified his behavior. You say he acts like he truly cares for you, a check on the list. Watch his actions, not his words. He behaves differently around you than around others, he is letting you see the real him, another check on my little list.

It seems to me that every one one of the signs that he cares for you I mentioned, you report that he was already doing. No mind games, just behaviors. Classic Aries male behavior.

With both of you having recent emotional traumas it may take a bit more to reach a truly deep level of trust. This will take time, but then again, isn't time what you are really interested in? That is, time together,right?


As for your "fire," I am going to go out on a limb here one more time and guess that he is actually rather taken by your spirit and fieryness. That'll get his blood up and running....

I will have to stop giving away guy/Aries secrets now. If nothing else I am starting to feel down right jealous of you guys...

And yes, poor, pitiful me, being taken advantage of by the wanton scorp, and for all those years besides.....

Posted by dofacc
I am referring to the list of things that I laid out through this thread. He listens when you tell him about something you didn't like, and it seems he modified his behavior. You say he acts like he truly cares for you, a check on the list. Watch his actions, not his words. He behaves differently around you than around others, he is letting you see the real him, another check on my little list.

It seems to me that every one one of the signs that he cares for you I mentioned, you report that he was already doing. No mind games, just behaviors. Classic Aries male behavior.

With both of you having recent emotional traumas it may take a bit more to reach a truly deep level of trust. This will take time, but then again, isn't time what you are really interested in? That is, time together,right?


As for your "fire," I am going to go out on a limb here one more time and guess that he is actually rather taken by your spirit and fieryness. That'll get his blood up and running....

I will have to stop giving away guy/Aries secrets now. If nothing else I am starting to feel down right jealous of you guys...

And yes, poor, pitiful me, being taken advantage of by the wanton scorp, and for all those years besides.....

I appreciate all of the feedback dofacc, thanks. It has put some clarity on the situation and it's nice to be able to have a guy's point of view.

is banter flirting?

coz I do banter a bit but would never consider it was flirting.....I find it helps to put people at their ease and I figger it is harmless - I mean most of what people say is complete crap anyway. I hate wasting words but if it helps someone along in their day, where's the harm? But no unauthorized flirting takes place.

I would find it un-Arian. Maybe it is just un-RNAP?

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
is banter flirting?

coz I do banter a bit but would never consider it was flirting.....I find it helps to put people at their ease and I figger it is harmless - I mean most of what people say is complete crap anyway. I hate wasting words but if it helps someone along in their day, where's the harm? But no unauthorized flirting takes place.

I would find it un-Arian. Maybe it is just un-RNAP?

OK, I engage in lively banter. Perhaps the problem is that I am not making a clear distinction between flirting and banter. I have no trouble at all handing someone a load of verbal nonsense just for the heck of it, is really what I mean.

And example.

Shifts change where I work. I tend to use one particular work station just cause I like the way it is set up. On the other hand, this is a specific work station for a person on the next shift. They pretty much have to have this space. So, sometimes I forget to move some of my stuff out of the way for this next person. She is a very kind and patient person, and simply reminds me that some of my stuff was forgotten etc. Very low key, you see.

So, another next shift person managed to set something down in this same work station when she came in. Kind and patient person mentioned this, and wanted another person to move her stuff. Another person joked about how "terrible" kind and patient person was about her work space. I butted in and said something to the effect that as kind and patient person had "already ripped my head off this morning, her blood lust was pretty well sated for awhile!" We were all pretty amused.

So, am I to assume that this is banter, as compared to flirting, cause this is what I do.

*nods*

I think I would suck at flirting..I am just not subtle enough
"your place or mine?"
"jeez, I can't get this belt off"

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
*nods*

I think I would suck at flirting..I am just not subtle enough
"your place or mine?"
"jeez, I can't get this belt off"

"Here, let me head butt you!!!!"

Posted by dofacc

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
*nods*

I think I would suck at flirting..I am just not subtle enough
"your place or mine?"
"jeez, I can't get this belt off"

"Here, let me head butt you!!!!"

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Oh, absalootley!!