Aries/Pisces cusp with a Leo

Hey there, hi there, ho there folks!

I recently met myself an Aries/Pisces cusp. Brace yourself, it's a long story. We went on a first date over a week ago on a Wednesday night. There was a very intense connection. There wasn't a single moment where we weren't deep in conversation or laughing and when we weren't eating we were holding hands. Lots of gazing into each others eyes over dessert. Speaking of dessert, once it arrived I was excited about the piece of cookie that was sticking out of the middle (it was my favorite). So I picked it up and put it in my mouth completely forgetting that the center of the dessert was scolding hot. I burned my tongue. It was a particularly silly moment and I laughed through my pain. He got me some ice water and as my tongue cooled down I felt embarrassed. Then he kissed me. "Does that feel better?" he asked. I shyly nodded "Much, thank you." We had completely lost track of time and finally noticed that the restaurant was trying to close. We got into a cab, he dropped me off, walked me to my door, kissed me goodnight, got back in the cab and headed home. He texted me as soon as he got home and we flirted a bit more before falling asleep.

I didn't hear from him again until Monday. He texted me that his mom had a heart attack over the weekend and was in the hospital. She was fine but said he was going to be mentally and emotionally preoccupied for the next few days and he wanted me to know. I told him ok, wished his mom a speedy recovery and offered to listen if he needed to talk. He expressed his thanks and called me beautiful.

Tuesday he friended me on Facebook. Wednesday I texted him to ask how his mom was doing. She had made it through surgery with flying colors and would be going home that day. He was on his way to his office to try to catch-up on his work (he owns his own business). He asked how I was. I told him about a job interviewed for that I was excited about. I asked him about his business. He said he'd tell me all about it the next time we see each other but he didn't think it would be until next week. I told him that "hopefully we would have something to celebrate by then" (that being me maybe getting the job). He said "We already do." "Oh?" I replied. "We can celebrate meeting again." "Sounds like a good reason." was my response.

Today, I had a bit of an issue at work and posted a Facebook post of general aggravation not alluding to anything specific. An hour later he texted me to ask what had happened. I explained the situation. He told me a similar story and sent me a video to cheer me up. "That's the worst thing about people." he said "They exist." "But there are some good ones out there. You, for example." I responded. "Don't spread it around." he said. "I'll be sure to keep it under my hat. Thank you for checking in on me." I said. "You're welcome" he replied.

At this point I'm very anxious to see him again. Our initial first date was delayed because I had a sinus infection. After we rescheduled, he ended up stuck out of town for 2 days. From what I've read about Aries - and he is much more Aries than Pisces personality wise - they like to take the lead. Would asking when I get to see him again be too much? My instincts tell me to let him be the man and chase but it's confusing to me that he hasn't suggested a day for a second date yet. Any Aries out there care to share their opinions on the matter? Much obliged!

I'm an aries female so it's hard to say, when I'm being pursued I have no problem with someone asking me things, it shows they're interested. I'm not so sure for men though? But in any case, I don't see why you can't ask when he was planning on seeing you next. It would only turn me off if I wasn't interested. Why can't people be more upfront. It doesn't have to be an interrogative question, does it?

Good point. It's just such a strange thing, and maybe I'm overthinking here. I didn't want it to seem like I'm pressuring him at all, especially with Valentines Day, when we had only been on one date. Also don't want to come across as clingy or needy. I think I may just be too much in my head on this and need someone else's perspective.

I'm an Aries/Pisces cusp, March 21st, 0 degrees Aries. Mars in Sagittarius, Venus in Aries, Moon in Cancer.

Do you know his Venus sign?

First of all, I'm so glad that this wasn't another suspicious-of-infidelity thread. When we're interested in a woman, she'll be the only one we think about. From what I've read, this is the nature of both Aries and Aries/Pisces cuspians. Personally, I'm hit hard with my Venus and Moon as well, assuring that I am a one-lady guy with a laser beam focus on her.

It sounds like this is a really magnetic connection so far. Yes, Aries often likes to take the lead, but we also love attention and affirmation. In truth, Aries/Pisces cuspians can be a little dependent and clingy as well, but simply because we love so deeply and passionately and dream of a partner who will be our anchor in the storm of life, partners in crime, soulmates, and a queen to our king. If he's like me, he probably hasn't set a date yet because he's worried about being overbearing and scaring you off by exposing the depth of his passion. Also, it sounds like he has a lot going on. (Not surprised about that)

On the other hand, Aries is independent. If he feels like someone is trying to control him, manipulate him, or get in the way of his vision, he'll call things off.

That being said, Aries also often "places on pedestals" and envisions the woman of his interest as a princess. In the early stages especially, you probably can 'do no wrong' if you are the one he wants. Within reason of course.

From my perspective, if I'm into a woman, her texting me shows she's interested and hopefully captivated.

After reading your story, if I were him and you asked me about when you will get to see me again, my heart would be warmed, my ego would be gently stroked, a little blood would rush to my penis, and I'd be thrilled to have the lines of communication opened without appearing needy myself.

Thank you so much for sharing your insight. Everything you've said makes a lot of sense. Since I asked him when I get to see him again the flirting has been amped up and he's been very communicative. He apologized for going so slow and that it doesn't mean a lack of interest. He explained he needed to do some things for himself first. Something he learned from previous relationships. I'm sure I'll find out more soon enough. As it is right now we are both, very much, on the same page.

I've thrown a few compliments his way and in return he's made me blush. We've both admitted to being insanely attracted to each other and agreed to not rush into anything. That's going to be the most difficult part. There is a fair bit of mental attraction (in addition to the physical and even emotional) which I've always wanted with someone but never experienced before and, I gotta say, it's pretty fantastic. This is, by far, the strongest attraction I've ever had to someone so early on but we're both trying to keep out heads on straight and focus on getting to know each other.

We're seeing each other again on Friday and I couldn't be more excited.