SweetestFatale
joined July 17, 2007
female from USA
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    I hate my lack of sympathy with misplaced emotions or over emotional people.

    I hate my total and complete disregard of people, ideas and items that serve no purpose to me. I'm not mean or rude, they simply don't exist.

    I hate how I love sensual pleasures over logical choices. Yeah I know I shouldn't have eaten it, but it looked, smelled and tasted delicious. Likewise with sex. Bad sex pisses me off, good sex renders me insatiable. I'm faithful, I just want MORE.

    I hate my strict routine and work ethic. At the end of the day there is a plan, goal, objective, purpose or list and I will complete it. Sorry not sorry. But it sucks to be that rigid.
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    It is worth ignoring anyone or anything that isn't helping you accomplish goals. Life is short and time is passing. The worse feeling is to look back and realize you've made no progress. The best thing is to realize you have an amazing support system to back you and push you towards your goals...even if it's only you.
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Umm the topic of the OP IS sex. This post is totally and completely about sex.

    Our relationship is NOT totally and completely about sex.

    Thankfully a Pisces man responded and he understood the point of the post
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Sounds like you're going to come up empty. I'd ask her to hang out some time, no pressure. If she says yes, face to face ask her if she'd be interested in something serious with you.

    If she never says yes to #1 there's no need to ask #2
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Lol wow. What kind of men are you used to dealing with Gem? Not all men perform on demand and it isn't a matter of being controlling. Have you never dated anyone with physical, emotional or mental limitations?
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Montgomery
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?


    Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought



    I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.



    It's a Control thing that is not exclusive to

    Pisces men.

    Imho. Straight Face

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    He isn't controlling tho..actually more of the self sacrificing type. If I really pushed I feel like he'd eventually say yes to please me, but that would suck for someone to pressure you into sex. That's not loving.

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by hydorah
    the more you beg someone for sex, the less value it will have for them to have sex with you.
    So try to make it really special every time, even if it's not as frequent as you want.
    Pisces men can be repelled if the sex appears coarse or soulless.
    What's your sign?


    I'd never beg. Not my style . I can tell he wouldn't appreciate the aggressive approach, that's why I'd never do it. Best imo to figure out a happy medium we can both appreciate and that isn't "only when he wants to". I have noticed he likes celebrating holidays and birthdays with sex. Lol

    I'm a Taurus on the Aries cusp.

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?


    Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought



    I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.



    Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.

    What in the world are you talking about?


    Your obsession with this man.

    You alright now?


    Ahhh, thank you for getting to the point. Lol I rather enjoy my obsession with him. I was never not alright.





    I wish you the best.
    Ciao.
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    Thank you

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?


    Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought



    I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.



    Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.

    What in the world are you talking about?


    Your obsession with this man.

    You alright now?
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    Ahhh, thank you for getting to the point. Lol I rather enjoy my obsession with him. I was never not alright.



  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.


    So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?



    Sometimes, but it feels like treetrunking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.



    It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom.



    Don't tell him that. I'd never think of myself as being the feminine energy in the bedroom and i might feel unappreciated if i sense my partner is feeling that way. One can be gentle, loving, warm and masculine at the same time.


    I won't tell him that, but honestly, that's why I am able to empathize with you and him.

    Im just now starting to realize more than not all men want sex all the time and it's for the same emotional and physical reasons women don't. I guess in the end it's not a feminine/masculine thing. It's just about the emotional connection/exertion with sex.


    Exactly.

    Do you feel like your previous partners were mainly concentrated on sex?
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    Not at all. What I would say is that they separated sex from feelings and the need to exert so much mental and emotional energy having sex. It was mostly for the physical pleasure of sexual stimulation. I do overall like the passionate type, but not all passions engage the physical, mental and emotional.

    It doesn't make him any less desirable. It's an enduring quality. I do wonder now if it ever seems more tiring than pleasurable...maybe too mental for something that should be fun and pleasurable.

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?


    Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought



    I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.



    Nah it happens to everyone. Not a Pisces thing. More a falling down the love hole thing. You need to work on yourself in this aspect. Imo.
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    What in the world are you talking about?
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.


    So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?



    Sometimes, but it feels like treetrunking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.



    It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom.



    Don't tell him that. I'd never think of myself as being the feminine energy in the bedroom and i might feel unappreciated if i sense my partner is feeling that way. One can be gentle, loving, warm and masculine at the same time.
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    I won't tell him that, but honestly, that's why I am able to empathize with you and him.

    Im just now starting to realize more that not all men want sex all the time and it's for the same emotional and physical reasons women don't. I guess in the end it's not a feminine/masculine thing. It's just about the emotional connection/exertion with sex.
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by ManInTheMoon
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?


    Sounds like a viscous circle to me. Is the first time? It's not a healthy state to be in a relationship. Good thing you can see yourself clearly. It looks like intrusive thoughts to me.

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought

    click to expand


    I think it's more a normal unpleasant thought process as opposed to intrusive. As I said, the next morning all was well. Its not something that dominates our relationship or interactions. I was just curious if it's a pisces man thing.

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Posted by SweetestFatale
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.


    So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?



    Sometimes, but it feels like treetrunking and not like connecting. Personnaly I prefer the latter. Im not your boyfriend, we are all different. Just sharing my experience if that helps.
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    It certainly helps. I think you are like him. When we were just friends I could tell he was holding back on the connection. Now that the connection is undeniable we can never go back to the disconnected fast, fun and free. It's like the roles are reversed and he's the feminine energy in the bedroom. That's not an insult or complaint, but that wanting the emotional connection is usually something women are said to want more.
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Cvurkoo
    Im a pisces and sex for me is a ritual that takes a lot of time and emotional energy. Its beautiful but i really want to connect with my partner and if i dont feel like it id ask to postpone it for later. Nothing to do with how attracted i am to my partner. Its just sometimes i just dont feel like it. Dont take it personal.


    So if it's ritual it isn't about pure animal attraction? No raging hormones or random horniness? Sometimes? Never?

    I'm extremely considerate of him and I'd wait any time he asks me to. I definitely wouldn't try to change his mind. Is there anyway to compromise?

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by Gemitati
    I’ve heard crap like that! Never experienced. Would like to hear from men WTF is that all about? smile


    I've never experienced it until now and it's so crazy because before our relationship was official we had some steamy conversations. I really hate to think he has this horrid box system for women where serious girlfriend/wife can't overlap with the sexy friend. I don't want to be that woman begging my husband to pull my hair. Smh
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Maybe someone told her something that pulled her off her square.

    When I was younger when someone said something to me that made me question who I was and where I stood with people on the whole in relationships I would get seriously weird. I've been told Im difficult, Im selfish, I nitpick until I find something wrong, I'm hard to please, I'll never be happy, I'm what's wrong in my failed relationships. All things that left me more confused and bruised my self esteem.

    She might be getting not only bad, but conflicting advice about who she is and being with you.

    I'd step back and give her some time to sort out whatever she's going through.

  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    *sigh* my Pisces is SO sexy to me. He always has been. He's like my fantasy walking and he's extremely intelligent. He's everything I want in a man and my reaction to him is off the charts. He turns me on in an "anytime, any place" type of way. I have a hard time telling him about it and I don't want to scare him by just going for it. He seems waaaayyyy too gentle, calm and collected for that. He's even asked me to wait til the morning one night. I felt so rejected it was hard for me to sleep next to him. Of course by the morning all was forgiven and the session was phenomenal...but I am starting to take it personally like maybe he isn't attracted to me the way I am to him. Sound typical?
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    The same thing that makes anyone bad makes a Taurus woman bad....immaturity, lack of accountability, dishonesty, superficiality, negativity, inconsideration (is that a word?), being spiteful, being dogmatic, condescension. Lol I've grown a lot. I'd say I'm at my best because I've ditched the listed traits.
  • SweetestFatale
    female from USA
    Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
    I need to know this. Especially factoring in my Cancer moon.


    Interesting...I'm a Taurus and my Pisces w/ cancer moon man is extremely affectionate. I'd say try to find someone with a water moon and see how it goes