goddam aries man again!!!

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So I have an Aries friend with whom there is a mutual attraction. (I am a gemini!) He was on a break from his girlfriend, we started seeing each other, he said he couldn't promise me anything because he didn't know what would happen with her. I said ok, but if you get back with her, obviously I walk away! I should have run right then! I began to get attached, we spent too much time together, he kept telling me how much he cared for me, how sweet I was, how much he enjoyed spending time with me, etc. Then I find out through FACEBOOK of all things that he is back with his ex - for about two weeks - and he didn't tell me and we were together in that time! I was so angry I bawled him out but all he could say was well I was honest and sincere with you from the start, whereas I think he tricked me with all his sweet talk into thinking he might care for me! I just told him to leave me alone and when I felt like being his friend again, I would get in touch. He has tried a couple of times to chat to me since online but I just tell him over what I said before and he doesn't seem to understand why I'm angry with him! Why is he such an idiot? And if he loves his girlfriend why cheat? (He cheated on her for a whole year with another girl!)
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He was upfront, open, and honest with you.... an Aries trait/characteristic. You decided to pursue it and while your feelings are appropriate, he did not mislead you. He already told you.



he didn't tell me he got back with his stupid girlfriend, did he?! that was quite misleading!!!!!



The girlfriend is a scorpio? yeah, good luck... move on.
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work in progress! goddamnit!
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Posted by Notunemotionaljustlogical8

Sweety he never actually SAID I love you to you. He most probably meant he cared for you as a friend. Who cares if he cheated on her? It was her decision to forgive him and go back to him. What he did before doesn't concern you because you're not responsible for his actions. He didn't trick you into anything. He was probably being polite with you and expressing that he really cares about you but as a friend. You even said that you got attached to him which is probably the reason why you understood what he said the wrong way.
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No it definately went beyond that! I didn't expect him to say I love you, but the way he acted, definately went beyond friendship. That was partly why I got attached! Anyway we haven't spoken since then and I'm working on getting over it, who knows if we'll be friends again.
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It doesn't matter even if he did say he loved you, I'm afraid. Two things have been said to me with regards to male/female interaction that has stuck with me. I urge you to remember them both.

The first was told to me by a male friend: women are these beautiful creatures who just want to love and care and men.... They just want sex.
The second was said by my aunt years ago when I was a lot youger. Women play with sex to get love and men play with love to get sex.

Even if he did say he loved you.... It doesn't mean a thing. Anyone can throw words around and there are those guys who will say whatever needs to be said so they can get sex.

Another thing: if he told you they were on a break (as opposed to broken up...) it probably means he had every intention of going back to her. Shit may have just got a bit too intense between them and may have needed a time out (read: break).

Just because a guy might just want sex from you doesn't mean he's gonna act like a dick or a player. They are also just people at the end of the day and enjoy affection and tenderness. They just don't take sex as a commitment or as a 'taking their involvement with you to the next level'.



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Oh yeah... And no offense or anything.... But you kinda walked straight into that one! He told you up front what the deal was (as we've all said) and you said ok to him. You gave him a get outta jail free card before it even happened :/
Guys love pulling that one! Men tell women what the deal is most of the time... Women just choose to hear what they want to hear or believe they can change the guys.

Listen to what they say because their choice of words are careful for this very reason. Their words are like double-edged swords. They say things that are most likely to be interpreted in one way when they're trying to score (what you want) but actually means what their real agenda is.... And their reason for bailing in the end (and the get outta jail card).