How DXP had changed my way of thinking.

Like many newbies, my first couple of posts were about asking for advice.... How do I go about doing.. blah blah blah?

Yah sure.. I got the answers I was looking for, but not. In the end, I did what I had in my heart to begin with. I can't even remember whether or not the advice helped or not, but it made me wonder......... when someone posts a question.. a plea from advice, is that person really asking for help?

Within ourselves, I think we all have MANY of the answers we need, but it is self doubt that causes us to wonder whether the solution we have is the right one. Should I leave? Should I call? Should I end it?

Well, if you're asking- you probably already know what you want to do... too.

Is it that you want to know from group of strangers whether or not your instincts are correct? The thing is.. only you know the situation in its entirety- you know what is on your mind, what happened to bring you in this emotional state and how you feel in your heart. So in a that answer is there within you, if you'd only search for it. I realize that the answers to SOME of life's questions will always come from within- and if a person works through their own confusion- then many times their most initial reaction can be the right one.

Don't get me wrong-I'm not against asking for advice. Sometimes it's good just to say a situation out loud to gain perspective.

DXP has helped me understand this..... and in the wake of understanding- I've also gained good friends.

What had DXP done for you..?

Just a little question ST😱

Why do we suck with our decitions while at the end we learn that other people have better ones?

I don't have a definitive answer for you- because I cannot speak for anyone else.

BUT, from my own experiences, I've learnt that the more experiences you have- the more you learn to trust your own internal thought processes- and become more comfortable with your decisions. So it may seem that another person is making better decisions- but in reality that person probably just has more experiences and/or are more comfortable with themselves in terms of doing what's right for them.

Of course.

STD that is something to think about...

I guess for me, I wanted a perspective from a person who's thinking is similar to the person I am having issues with (horoscope). I generally like hearing others perspectives on situations in my life to see what they would do in that situation.

DXP has been a source of entertainment and information for me. In the process, the most important lesson I have learned was tolerance for others.

Ultimately...I have taken advice from here and applied it to my life because at times, I was genuinely confused as to what to do...Other times I already knew what I was going to do, just needed a place to vent...a place for sympathy, support, and a listening ear. Even with that, sometimes strangers can give you a better perspective because they ARE removed from the situation which helps us emotionally involved parties.

Just a few thoughts...CL/CM2

Actually C-lady.. you're right, and that's probably something I didn't consider when I first wrote the post.

There have been times where someone totally removed from a situation can clearly see what you and maybe your other friends are missing-- just because everyone connected are just too biased.

But sometimes.. even then-- when someone tells me things.. I think.. wow, it all seems so simple now!!

I feel yah!..sTD

DXP.. or many message boards around gives the opportunities to share the ideas globally

And yes.. they can change the way of thinking and the way of life?! Because we will know that there are many people around the globe that share the same idea.. more or less..

I cant say thank you DXP? but DXP as one of the millions around? is ok?

I come here to see if I'm nuts and if so on what kind of scale. By measuring the way I think against other people in my zodiac and others. It never quite works though because I'm a little concerned about how crazy you all are.

Seriously though, I've thought about this a lot STD. This place is more like a social experiment to me where we can share ideas, ideals and basically have a good crack at each other. I'm must say I've learnt a bit about myself through this place.

Imagine if this site just dropped out oneday and most of us never talked to each other again nor would we have any idea if we pasted one another on the street (well except for CL of course, everyones knows CL).

LOL

What can I say...I am an attention hog! That would make me happy if I was just walking in the mall in any obscure place and someone came up to me and said:

"Hey, I know you...You're Cancerlady!"

Unless it was &toto...she might try to kick my ass, or lecture me...One of the two!

I really wish I could have a big DXP party and all the people from everywhere could come & meet each other! That would be SOOO COOOL! Hell, I was excited when STD and VirgoSquared came to my birthday party...it was unreal to actually meet these people I talk to everyday on a message board. Too bad Brahn0913 couldn't make it, even though he LIVES in ATL!

If anyone on DXP ever comes to Atlanta and wants to meet me, feel free to write ahead of time...maybe we can go have SUSHI!

That would be interesting but the only one that I can think of offhand that might have a chance to meet is lizard if I ever make up my mind to go to germany.From what my bf's brother-n-law said it it's only about the same time percentage as driving completely around and through ohio,so im sure I could convince someone to visit him but like I said I don't know what the hell I want to do yet.And haven't decided yet if I want to move to alabama yet for a couple months to rebuild houses so will be closer to you too but like mentioned,theres alot popping up in my life as well as the need to be cautious towards the risky right now and don't know what the hell to do with it,im about to play run away from it all rather than pick something and leap.

And some one accused that Virgo?s are ?indecisive? on Virgo board...!!

Tiamat?

? Normal intelligent people pick the (nearest) target and run for it..!

? Unusual intelligent people pick their (probable) target ?s ?and run for those according by their expectations..!

Only fools.. Stay and do nothing but whining?!!

As we all know.. You aren?t a fool?!


Pick something and DO it...

🙂

Basically, I am an egotist who just use this site as a vehicle to get my grandiose worldview across. I've never been particualarly concerned with making friends or being popular. I've never been a afraid to rip someones head off if I diagree with their point of view. If i posted here more, I would be our local prick.

Dear Branh,

Your motives for posting on DXP are probably no different from my own. I'm somewhat of an egotist that loves posting my own opinion and re-reading it. However the difference is, I have made some friends along the way- and I am concerned with maintaining those friendships. It's not about being popular.

I do admire your style to say what you want regardless what people think, however I think you can be that without being a resident prick(Besides, DXP already has it's share of visiting pricks, don't need a live-in, thank you). Not to mention, the "I'm a jerk so deal with it" attitude is just a front anyway. 😛