Initiative?

Hello I have a budding online friendship with an Aries. Both bored at work one day we decided to message each other. In the beginning it was fun entertainment however after about two months I gave him my number because I noticed he was not communicating as frequently as before. It was a very clear cut message because I wasn't going to pressure him. Shortly after he text me. It was nice but still very friendly. However as time passed I started growing affection. I'm not a clingy or overbearing kinda chick because of things I've learned about guys from dealing with them in the past. We have discussed meeting once and he agreed but neither of us set a date. That was about three weeks ago. We've never actually spoken on the phone but we've been texting since May. I know Aries men like to initiate but they also like bold woman. My question is, should I just call him and discuss meeting? Just call him to feel him out? Or would that be too forward? He communicates pretty well but he seems like such a cool guy that even if we were just friends I'd be happy. Any advice? Hopefully from other Aries?

I reckon people with horns like to see aggression so show him some..you know how some men find a confident woman a turn on. Aries are warrior style and like to fight so dont go in there all sweet and pleading and soft..say something outrageous that shocks him and amazes him sorta thing.. maybe a teasing thing yu can retract as a joke if it doesnt go down well..if he responds just get more and more aggressive with it to get him a bit steamy I reckon

if you tussle him and lock horns just a few times and show him you like aggression and assertiveness then hell know he can do it to you..because youve shown ou thin its fun...then you stop doing it and he will take over if he likes you

dont wait for him to initiate.....if theres one thing ive learnt about men they consider it ungentlemanly to push a woman into anything. You have to give the green light..and pretty much give it big style because men dont notice subtle signals..and they are not gentle creatures either. You know when in a relationship most men dont do anything till the woman asks? Well its the same with friendships that could become more. I waited 6 years for a man to show some initiative and was alone and bored. Then I realised what I said above and took action and I was courting 2 men witin weeks after only having 1 date in 6 years! You have to tell men what you want and make it clear then they decide what they want and make a clear response. If I were you id just send a message at work that makes him wet his pants and watch him squirm ..if he doesnt like it yur not compatible cos theyres a problem at his end.

Wow thank you for your insight. There have actually been times where I've asked things of him that were out of the ordinary and was pleasantly surprised with the response or comment that was returned. Thanks for the thorough and enlightened advice!

Lol thank you! I will definitely look into those sites. I'm always told I'm not a typical Virgo. I'm more connected to my Tiger chinese zodiac. I have several A Typical Virgo friends and we're as different as night and day, literally lol. I will definitely not press or force. Not my style and I don't think its very feminine.

Yeah, pretty much smack him up side the head and tell him, "here I am dumb ass, come and get me if you think you can!" Or words to that effect, anyway. That should set things in motion, one way or the other.

Posted by dofacc
Yeah, pretty much smack him up side the head and tell him, "here I am dumb ass, come and get me if you think you can!" Or words to that effect, anyway. That should set things in motion, one way or the other.

Thanks! I just didn't want to step up too quickly. But it seems like I need to make that happen. :]

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Posted by dofacc
Yeah, pretty much smack him up side the head and tell him, "here I am dumb ass, come and get me if you think you can!" Or words to that effect, anyway. That should set things in motion, one way or the other.

This ^^^^^^

Some Aries don't read between the lines so hitting him upside the head will defiantly get his attention for sure. That's the thing she has to grab his attention.

Actually, here I am dumbass is kind of sexy to me, so I know that would work with him.

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What do you mean by donkey? As in stubborn lol. My apologies for not "getting it" prior...

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Thank you! Will do. We actually haven't been communicating so well this week. Not sure if he's busy or just not in the mood. As previously stated I'm not a nagger. I did text him on Thursday but no response so I didn't continue. We shall see!

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Posted by dofacc
Yeah, pretty much smack him up side the head and tell him, "here I am dumb ass, come and get me if you think you can!" Or words to that effect, anyway. That should set things in motion, one way or the other.

This ^^^^^^

Some Aries don't read between the lines so hitting him upside the head will defiantly get his attention for sure. That's the thing she has to grab his attention.

Actually, here I am dumbass is kind of sexy to me, so I know that would work with him.

What do you mean by donkey? As in stubborn lol. My apologies for not "getting it" prior...

You're potty mouth filter is on. So, donkey is dumbass, lol.

lol! Turn your filter off by going to Settings > Profile > and turn off the filter at the bottom, TigerGoddess.

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LOL!!!!!! I love it. I'm at work so this is entertaining. In regards to ImpressMe: I've heard that Aries get like that, meaning very blunt. Sometimes a few days will pass between us and then he'll text like a maniac. Maybe its his pattern but I don't concern myself. I like the idea of a relationship of some sort with him but if nothing then it wasn't in the cards! Donkey! Lol