me again still confused about aries guy

soooo me and this guy i have been dating (who's an aries) have been together for 9 months. i've texted him and called him 3 weeks ago and everytime i did text him he acts as if not interested in talking to me (sending me one word texts), so i asked him "you really don't want to talk to me do you" and he replied saying "no i didn't say that" and i never contacted him back. i haven't been blowing his phone up and texting him back to back i had only texted him once that week and once the next week and then i left him alone. then he texted me the other day last week and asked why i haven't been talking to him and i told him i was busy with school and work (but what i really wanted to say was "why are you asking me why i haven't been contacting you and when i did, you acted uninterested in talking to me" but i didn't say anything). then he basically replied i think your talking to someone else...(but he was being funny about it) well i think he was. and i said "no im not i have more important stuff to worry about" then he replied saying "you better not" and i replied "so if i did then what are you going to do" and he replied saying "then i won't talk to you anymore"
one thing i don't get is he posts all over facebook how single he is... but he doesn't want me talking to anyone else or else he'll stop talking to me. he can talk to other girls, but if i were to talk to another guy and possibly date him he'd stop talking to me. i don't get it, that's not fair. he's shows me that he's interested and sometimes it seems like he's uninterested, he puts me in the background. the only people that knows we talk is some of his family members and my best friend.
i don't know where i stand with him or what he wants from me or if i'm his girlfriend or not
i think he just may be keeping me around for his own convenience or if he wants me all to hisself, if he's just taking things slow, or if he may not know what he wants yet.
i really love him, i do everything for him, and all i know is i'm willing to wait for him i just hope this is all worth it.

Dump him! He really isn't that interested in you. I have no idea why he is trying to string you along, but I am guessing he is having trouble working up the nerve to just plain say so.

You said you didn't send the text that you really wanted to send. Send it! He has to make himself clear, and there is no other way that I can see for this to happen.

I expect he is "trying to spare your feelings," which in reality is doing just the opposite.

Well, either trying to spare your feelings, or just plain being a jerk. Either way, cut your loses and run!

i seriously think thats what i should do

He's a douchebag! Dump him! He's actually walking all over you and treating you like a doormat and you're putting up with it. It makes him think you have low self respect and low self worth and that you're too weak to stand up for yourself. You deserve better than what you're accepting from him.

and whenever i do get upset at him for not wanting to talk to me he always try to have a conversation with me and i wouldn't want to talk to him because it seems like i have to get mad or have to try to make him talk to me. i don't want to have to make him do anything or anything that he wasn't intending to do.

i was with an Aries for 10 years and we have a child.

You want him..then tell him what a jerk he's being and how he made u feel. He'll respect you for it. and then it puts the ball in his court. They dont usually play games..at least the mature ones and Aries men tend to mature and settle down later in life(30ish).

Aries can also get distant sometimes and real quiet without meaning to..at least the one i was with. he had a lot of water in his chart..cancer..so maybe that was why.

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Can you post his chart and your chart? 🙂

his chart is:

Sun 15??40' Aries
Moon 25??41' Leo
Mercury 2??23' Taurus
Venus 29??20' Aquarius
Mars 18??39' Aquarius
Jupiter 3??17' Cancer
Saturn 24??39' Capricorn
Uranus 9??34' Capricorn
Neptune 14??33' Capricorn
Pluto 17??14' –? Scorpio
Chiron 11??54' Cancer
Ceres 1??30' Cancer
Pallas 7??32' Taurus
Juno 24??32' –? Scorpio
Vesta 5??21' Aries
Node 14??47' –? Aquarius
Lilith 28??19' Libra
Fortune 4??01' Sagittarius
AS 24??00' Cancer
MC 6??11' Aries

my chart is:

Sun 12??54' Cancer
Moon 16??36' Aries
Mercury 2??01' Leo
Venus 26??06' Leo
Mars 23??49' Leo
Jupiter 15??15' Leo
Saturn 5??03' –? Aquarius
Uranus 11??47' –? Capricorn
Neptune 15??27' –? Capricorn
Pluto 17??43' –? Scorpio
Chiron 29??12' Cancer
Ceres 24??10' Libra
Pallas 21??23' Virgo
Juno 28??37' –? Capricorn
Vesta 17??00' Cancer
Node 18??57' –? Capricorn
Lilith 24??50' –? Capricorn
Fortune 1??36' Libra
AS 5??19' Cancer
MC 11??55' Pisces

Posted by bluemoon9043834
You seem more like a Leo than a Cancer? lol! 🙂

Your Mars and his Venus are in opposition. His Mars is in opposition with your Venus. Makes it a little difficult with coming together, even though there is a magnetic attraction. Your moons trine and your moon conjuncts his sun. This is the chemistry you are feeling. However, with your moon conjunct his Sun, you are play a supportive role to what he wants, but you need to stand your ground and say exactly what you feel.

yes everyone's telling me to tell him how i feel but im so afraid of telling my feelings to someone, but i'll just have to do that.

Girl Girl Girl, these aries on this board keep it ALL THE WAY real, and you should listen to them. If an aries so much as gets a whif that you might be a weak woman, sniffing up behind him, begging him to talk to you, all of that jazz will irritate him. Im in sort of the same situation exept my aries is a very comfortable with me so he down right honest. We don't spare one another feelings when it comes to what we want, and how we want it, that way neither of us are in the dark, plus we were friends first. However he came at me with how he wasn't ready to be my man yet, because he couldn't provide for me and all that other stuff the way he thinks a man should, but he knew he we were going to be together. So we built this awesome friendship since childhood, never crossed the line, until recently and honestly that's when ish just got real for me flat out. I tried to do that whole go with the flow thing, but I warned him that it's not really my cup of tea, but im an air sign we will try ALMOST anything once. Naturally my feelings started to get all rowled up and I could see myself becoming irritated and sometimes angry, things that could ruin our friendship and everything that we've built. SO, I did what they are telling you to do??_I calmly told him what I wanted, and how things were effecting me. I didn't cuss him out, but I surely let him know I wasn't feeling the love, or security in WHATEVER it was that we shared. I've backed off, and no he hasn't come after me, but I suspect that it's his stubborn side/and selfishness that has him like "She can't make me" Yet I find out he's asking about me and what not. I love him to piecies but they say aries like to chase, he knows how I feel, im backing off. He wants me he better come get me (AND SAME GOES FOR YOU AND YOUR ARES), and when does he wont be sorry. But you have to state the facts, and let the man be a man. Don't be scurrrrred! lol

Posted by impresswho
I read this and my heart broke because this is just sad. What do you love about this man?

i wouldn't say i love him but there are things i do love about him, besides everything else i've said, i love that he's so independent, and he can be caring and sweet, he's responsible, he's helpful, he's funny, he knows how to have fun, even though his ex Gf who he has a baby by says bad things about him he babysits his daughter for her while she works he's never to busy to be with his daughter he does everything for his daughter, so he's not a dead beat dad. he doesn't nag me (like my ex used to do), he doesn't get mad at me whenever i can't do something for him (which is something my ex used to do), he doesn't hang out around the wrong crowd of people and get into trouble, he's very attractive, i like that he's laid back like me he's not too much of a homebody he likes to get out sometimes and party or hang out with his family.

the only thing that i don't like is he talks to other girls or i've heard he does but he doesn't want me doing the same or else he'll leave me. i'll do whatever i want and if he stops talking to me well then that's it i don't care. and i hate that most of the time (not all) he can be emotionally unavailable. seems sometimes that he only wants to be bothered with me if he feels like it, but sometimes i can somewhat be that way too but i never mean it in a bad way i just want some time to myself. my ex (a virgo) used to bother me all the time asking why i don't come see him (but i came almost everyday to see him) and wanting me to move whenever he says move and getting mad at me whenever i couldn't do something for him, that stressed me out alot he was so needy.
and last like any other guy he talks to other girls and i hate it because it makes me think he wants them and not me.

he also can be a little sensitive

Posted by ALibra
Girl Girl Girl, these aries on this board keep it ALL THE WAY real, and you should listen to them. If an aries so much as gets a whif that you might be a weak woman, sniffing up behind him, begging him to talk to you, all of that jazz will irritate him. Im in sort of the same situation exept my aries is a very comfortable with me so he down right honest. We don't spare one another feelings when it comes to what we want, and how we want it, that way neither of us are in the dark, plus we were friends first. However he came at me with how he wasn't ready to be my man yet, because he couldn't provide for me and all that other stuff the way he thinks a man should, but he knew he we were going to be together. So we built this awesome friendship since childhood, never crossed the line, until recently and honestly that's when ish just got real for me flat out. I tried to do that whole go with the flow thing, but I warned him that it's not really my cup of tea, but im an air sign we will try ALMOST anything once. Naturally my feelings started to get all rowled up and I could see myself becoming irritated and sometimes angry, things that could ruin our friendship and everything that we've built. SO, I did what they are telling you to do??_I calmly told him what I wanted, and how things were effecting me. I didn't cuss him out, but I surely let him know I wasn't feeling the love, or security in WHATEVER it was that we shared. I've backed off, and no he hasn't come after me, but I suspect that it's his stubborn side/and selfishness that has him like "She can't make me" Yet I find out he's asking about me and what not. I love him to piecies but they say aries like to chase, he knows how I feel, im backing off. He wants me he better come get me (AND SAME GOES FOR YOU AND YOUR ARES), and when does he wont be sorry. But you have to state the facts, and let the man be a man. Don't be scurrrrred! lol

i never beg him to talk to me that's the last thing i'll do i don't believe in begging anyone to do anything lol but i'm thinking about telling him that we want something different and as much as i really like him i don't think we should talk anymore. i don't know how he'll take this because the way he acts is like he doesn't want me to leave him he doesn't tell me this but in his actions and little thing he says, he's not very open and expressive with his feelings, he