My Aries Standards/Expectations.

I hear all the time that Aries set standards that are hard to meet. It's true. But I don't set shallow standards that are meaningless and anyone with money can meet. Such as, a good job, physical attractiveness, good family/background, a nice car, or house, or whatever. I hardly care about that shit at all, really. I don't like a lot of people I get to know and only let a few get close to me, I decided to finally sit down and figure out what my standards really are, more for my own good. The reason I set standards is because I only allow a few people close to me. This is because people can really break my heart, and I only want to risk a few being close enough too.

My Standards/Expectations:

1. Will confront you directly with a problem. Passive aggression doesn't work for me. Neither do observational judgments you allow to build up over time.
2. Never plays games. Direct honesty about how you feel proves to me that you care enough about our relationship to make yourself vulnerable to me.
3. Believes in true equality. I don't like it when a person expects me to do more work in a relationship for obvious reasons. But just as importantly, I don't like it when a person tries to do more in a relationship; to me this is like them saying —I'm doing all this for you, so you OWE me this..?? Like if a guy pays for dinner that means he should at least get to second base or that kind of shit. If we??re moving onto the next level, it's because we??re both emotionally ready, not because someone paid me to do it.
4. Never let's the little things permanently effect our relationship. If I hurt someone I care about, I feel awful, and I will apologize. But if all I did was hurt you, not financially damage you or ruin your reputation, and I stop doing what it was that hurt you in the first place, why not let it go and accept the apology? It's because you want something to control me with. Which like I??ve said a thousand times before means, you don't care about me.
5. Doesn't bring up things from the past. If we didn't have a confrontation about a problem you had in the past, that's your fault because I didn't detect the problem. If we did have a confrontation about something, it should be resolved. The only reason you would have to bring it up is to try and manipulate the current disagreement to your favor. Which is counter productive but also proves to me that you think you are wrong, but don't care about me enough to admit i

6. Attempts to get to know me. If you genuinely ask me questions and talk to me about my past, I care about you a great deal. This assures that you are trying to understand me and you??re asking me for help, not just making baseless judgments about my life. I??ve met guys that supposedly love or care about me, but I know we've never had a heartfelt conversation. If you say you care about me, but don't have any real reasons too, it shows me you don't really want to get to know me or you will always make judgments, good or bad, based on nothing.
7. Doesn't fall in love with the idea of something but me. People fall for the idea of love or friendship. The ignore the problems because they want that close relationship, and not the person, so badly. In the long run, this turns into passive aggression and a waste of time relationship. Prove to me you want to love me, by speaking up about your feelings and the problems you have with me. Share your intelligent differences when it comes to the world and politics but listen to mine too. Work with me, it means a lot.

To me, there are two kinds of people in the world. The kind I get along with and everyone else. The kind I get along with is extremely rare. I am picky because I care so much about them and I get only really get hurt by people I trust. I will do anything I can to stay friends with the kind of person I get along with (unless I realize they don't —meet my expectations??), because I appreciate who they are, and they appreciate who I am. If you don't care about me, then I can no longer care about you, and if I can't care about you, why are we even friends?

Right now I'm close to exactly four people. I??ve been close to many many more people, because I work by getting close to someone, realizing they will never meet my expectations, and cutting ties. It helps us both avoid colossal pain in the future, so I don't feel bad if it hurts them a little now.

If I cut ties with you, it doesn't matter if you change; it's really hard for me to turn off the Aries ice after it's been turned on. I'm afraid of being hurt, so sue me.

I forgot an important one:

8. Intelligence and an open mind. To me, a closed minded person has strong political/ethical/worldly opinions, but little knowledge of them. Because of this, they refuse to have intelligent conversations about their opinions, as they are terrified of being proved wrong. They are also quick to become loyal to a person or cause, with little reason too. I see this ferocious loyalty as an excuse not to have to think for yourself and thus take responsibility for your actions because someone/something else is doing the thinking for you.

This shows a lack of intelligence and self-esteem, and I can't handle that type of person.

MY ARIES Standards are;
-Funny, open minded, genuine, loves their mother, good role model, good in bed, smart, witty, doesnt mind the submissive role...in certain areas.

More later =)

Posted by everevolvingepithet
"Who pounces first ?" as 9, the rest of the list seems on point. 🙂

This one is a little tricky for me 😉

Almost all of my relationships have ended because I didn't like the way they started. Mostly because I didn't understand that aspect of my personality so far in life.

My last relationship started ideally. I've realized that I really don't like to initiate the relationship. I like to show my interest by spending extra time with someone or making up dumb excuses to see them; but I don't like to flat out ask someone out. I feel like that's too easy for the both of us and the guy is just supposed to have the balls to do it. But I really don't like when a guy tries to start a relationship suddenly or sporadically. (I like that in friendship, but once a libra went straight from "friends" to "hey, let's just make out tonight!" one night, and I was gone within a few minutes)I feel like a guy that likes me too much or too suddenly hasn't taken the time to get to know me and just wants sex. I'm really emotional about physical relationships and I can't handle meaningless shit so that really doesn't work for me.

Mostly, I want the guy to initiate the relationship, but he has to do it at just the right time. Enough to suprise me, but not surprise me too much; if that makes sense.

I'm difficult about that.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
"Mostly, I want the guy to initiate the relationship, but he has to do it at just the right time. Enough to surprise me, but not surprise me too much; if that makes sense."
Oh explained in a way only a woman could understand........haha.
j/k
You like traditional courting and the like ?

Yeah I know I'm difficult ^_^ but that way if a good thing comes along I appreciate it even more.

And yes. I love those perfect romantic moments. Memories like that are important to me so I feel like a relationship is fulfilling. But they have to be real and have real feelings behind them.

I don't like people who are difficult for difficulties sake.