Please help me!!

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Kanikas1
@Kanikas1
9 Years

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I am an aries woman and I've been dating a virgo guy for a year now. We didn't really take time to start off, it was more like we met and we knew there is something special. After 3 months of talking casually we started dating very seriously.

He is a management consultant so he traveled alot back then. This never effected me cause im working full time too and whenever we would meet we would make those moments count.

I was not that into him initially and he knew that but somehow as time progressed I couldn't help but fall for him. He would take care of such small things and it was beautiful.

After 6 months he moved to the other end of the globe permanently and we knew we couldn't see eachother till I dont come to USA for my higher education. With the distance things started messing up and we fought about petty things. We tried to make things work but somehow always ended up arguing. I even went to meet him once in the USA but nothing could get the magic back.

We decided to go on a break and give eachother some space. Those two months we did soak occasionally and when we did it was nice, no fights just spoke about what's happening in life.. However after 2 months when I asked him what are we finally deciding? He said that he does love me but he can't be with anyone right now. I didn't say anything i took that and told him that I understand.

It's been around 1.5 months since then I genuinely thought ill move on because it's never been difficult but somehow I really miss him. I don't expect anything from him. We still do talk off and on and try to not be clingy or make him feel like I need him cause I want him to have his space. I REALLY want to fix this, I'm 25 and I've not felt this ever, this feeling that I wanna marry this guy one day. Recently only after 1.5 months we have started flirting a lill and sexting since it's a LDR, But last night I got emotional like an idiot and he told me that don't say all these things to me cause we aren't together and when you say all this i feel bad when I can't respond. He said I do feel for you but nothing right now there were so many issues.

However he is coming back for 5 days next month and he said he wants to meet! I'm so confused! I am being stupid to hold on. Will this ever reverse. How do I fix this.
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AriSaturn
@AriSaturn
9 Years

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You're self sabotaging it. A confident and fun and flirty aries is awesome but an insecure aries is a headache and you're being a headache to him by picking fights. He senses that the distance is affecting you and there is nothing he can do about it. Go back to being supportive and positive.

Don't ever ask a man "What are we?" ...they will show you with their actions. And if a man is actually showing interest and you question him, he thinks you're not recognizing his effort and it's almost an insult. After 2 months of things going well you questioned him...it's almost as if it wasn't good enough for you.