The Aries Ice

The only time I use the fire over the ice is when I really care about someone or a situation. If I stop caring, the ice comes out and it's really harsh. For example, I got into a fight with most of the seniors in my school over basically lies the aries male told everyone. How wrong the lies were and how the aries was pissed me off so badly -- it was the only time I've lost so much control of my fire lol. Mostly I *cared* about what they thought, once I found my real friends I stopped caring and the ice came out. I cut off communication with like 80% of the class.

Now the more important example. My mom and I used to be really close. The problem is, she's a virgo and I'm an aries, and over time our natural differences have come out. I used to trust my mom with my life and tell her everything. But one day I discovered she was judging my secret thoughts a lot more negatively then she was leading on, and then discussing them with family and friends! It hurt me soo much and at first I cared. A lot.

We got into a number of fights, and the judgmental side of her came out. She called me a whore. She totally misunderstood so many of my actions, and instead of talking to me about them time, she had come to conclusions on her own. Ouch. I told her I wasn't okay with it. I told her why, that I had trusted her and she had not only judged me, but ruined my reputation with a number of family and friends. Then she blatantly lied, and said she had never told anyone anything (I heard her on the phone and behind closed doors, so I knew she was lying.) I told her she was lying -- and that she didn't have too. If she would admit to what she did was wrong, then I would accept the apology and try building up trust again.

But how can I trust someone who says they never broke my trust in the first place? That's when the ice came out.

She kept trying to start arguments that went no where. So I stopped talking to her. Almost completely. It went down hill from there, because now my mentality is just stubborn. It's been months of this grinding passive agressive silence from me. She realized after a few silent arguments that yelling at me wouldn't work. This took about a month. Then she started telling my family that I was giving her the silent treatment *sigh*. So of course now they all hate me for that. But it's like I just don't care anymore. I don't care about my mom. And that hurts to type because we used to be so incredibly close and she has always been so supportive of me -- and continues to be. She uses that against me though. She tells friends and family that she is so supportive and it just doesn't make any sense that I have —suddenly?? stopped talking to her. >_>

I don't know what to do at this point. Really, I have no idea. After I stop caring about someone, even family, it's hard to get me out of the ice stage. Even if I want to be.

I have this cut and run mentality. Like I never want to talk to her or the rest of my family again, and just run away from it all lol. Or pretend it never happened. Which is hard because it's so fucked up and unfair, how my family views me and what not. They act like I'm the worst person alive.

hey AiryBri 🙂

I'm new here but I saw your post and it was like reading about myself! I have the same issue,
my mother is a capricorn with cancer moon and we don't get along (anymore)

me being an aries doesn't help with having patience with her... I also was backstabbed and
my mother denied this later 😢 makes you look like a dramaqueen doesn't it?

I have been distancing myself from my family more and more, because it's the only way to stay sane. but now I
wonder about that icy side of aries. I don't want to alienate people unnecesarily...

are there more aries who have somewhat same experience?