Desperate to understand a scorpio woman

I am a libra full out smitten with a scorpio woman. We have known each other for over a year but work together. In short, she is quite senior to me in our job positions (and about 10 years older...) but we are work colleagues. I can tell she has had a difficult life, never in a relationship longer than 1 year and a workaholic (as am I...). When we first started working together, she was very hard on me but now I know I have earned her respect... Our work relationship has turned more friendly over the past few months. We got a drink just the two of us for her birthday and she has now taken to calling me in the evenings about 6 times over the past month (nearly always on a weekend night or on a night where I am off...) She usually has a work related reason for calling but then it quickly turns into a social call and often lasts an hour or more. Of course, I end up revealing more than she does but she has confided some very serious things in her past to me... which I consider an honor for a scorpio. She will however occasionally turn very bossy to me. Everytime I think we have developed an easy rapport, she will pull rank and be condescending which frustrates me and certainly stops me from feeling comfortable enough to take this any further... I can't tell if she is giving me signs, how serious those signs are, and how I can pursue her safely. Or do I just wait for her to do the steering ? And am I misreading her and she is just trying to strike up a friendship? I've tried to get my hands on any info I can about scorpios... I was talking to another colleague and made eye contact with both her and the person to whom I was talking when I realized that she kept looking at me so intensely. In fact, I left the conversation thinking to myself "what was that all about??" And then I read about the scorpio gaze and it made the look so clear... although I still don't understand what it means.

I'm looking for any suggestions of what further information I could learn to help me decipher this relationship ! It is now torturing me because there are such high stakes if I read her wrong... Any advice would be amazing !!

Advice... Leave her alone. Damn libras just break scorpions hearts. Soon as u have her u wont want her anymore.

Posted by Skykomish
Advice... Leave her alone. Damn libras just break scorpions hearts. Soon as u have her u wont want her anymore.

JesusFuckingChrist !!!!!

She is definitly into you, and wants you.

Before you go any further with this, though, you have to think about the reality of it, IF something does develop here .... you know her relationships don't last long, so it's highly probable you've got a year of relating ... and when it does end, are you able to continue with a working relationship with her as your boss?

that ^^^^ has to be formost in your mind .... if it happens, and a breakup occurs, you know that she's going to be really extra hard on you, and this hardness will never end because she will feel scorned.

You've already said that it's hard for you to handle now when she goes from friendly to hard on you .... that will get worse if you persue this.

You have to really take all this into consideration.


Because ... yes ... she is definitely showing you signs that she wants you to chase her.

Never ride the work horses, EVER. Do not jeadordize your career. Furthermore, if you piss a Scorpio off she will make it her mission to send you to hell. Don't do it!

This is all so helpful. I know - it's one of those things where I look at it as an outside and I think "it is insane to pursue this woman". And then I just feel so strongly for her that it is impossible for me to turn away from it... I am trying to keep my distance so that I don't make a huge mistake because I'm not planning to leave my job anytime soon... And I don't think she is either !

Dude, RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One of you could lose your job. Scorpios can be very jealous people. Read up on the scorpio female. Think about it, do you want a jealous scorpion at work with you that you have had an affair with?

I'll speak from the heart... because right now I don't want to deal with the head issues (personal)

She wants you yes BUT you need to take the lead and be dominant. That's what she wants, someone to take charge, she's probably tired of always being the boss, so to speak..plus you being younger may have a factor in it too..

So I suggest you walk up to her and tell her you are going to take her out to dinner or meet up for a drink at a particular time and to be ready for you!

Dont wait for an answer....just walk away and leave her to think about it!

Don't take everything she says/does so personal. Remember that she's got a history & pattern of short-term relationships. So if you notice that your friendship/relationship with her is already rocky or confusing, don't take it personal, b/c I'm sure these things about her are in part the reason why she hasn't been able to maintain a long-lasting relationship.

It seems like you see past all the baggage she has & actually see HER for the real her. That's great & all, but remove yourself from your own emotions & think realistically. If this woman has had trouble maintaining long-lasting relationships with other men, there's a chance that you'll be no different. Doesn't mean that you've done anything wrong; just means that some women actually get used to AND comfortable with rocky relations with others so much so that even if things are going smoothly, they can't help it but to purposely add some rocks to the situation.

There's no telling WHY she's in your life or why she wants to be in it. You'll have to get to know her a little bit more. You can often tell what a woman's intention is by what she claims she's lacking. In other words, if she doesn't have that many people in her life that she feels comfortable talking to, she may simply be in your life b/c you fill that void for her & not necessarily b/c she's looking at you as anything more than a friend.

Sounds like she's afraid to overstep the "relations with other employees" boundaries. That explains why she always assures you that her contacting you primarily is for WORK-related things. She may be doing this b/c she may feel the same way you do OR she may fear the same thing you do, which is liking someone more than they like you. So to protect herself, she's probably keeping things light in the beginning on purpose just to feel you out.

There's something about you that's intriging her though. Only time will tell though what exactly she's so intrigued about.

Just keep being a listening ear to her. See what she wants from you. If she continues to open up about personal problems, that doesn't necessarily mean that she likes you in "that way," but then again there's a good chance that she does.

Her random /condescending attitude may be her just being herself OR it could be her purposely trying to trick herself into believing that she shouldn't like you, even though she does.

What sweethearts said is true. It would work. But.. don't go there. Damn Libras.

Haha Skykomish, I have the same love/hate for Scorps 😛