How to get my cancer guy back

I have been dating a 32 year old cancerian guy for almost 3 months now and things have been going brilliantly! I really like him and up untill last week was pretty sure he was the one. I have never had this feeling before. Last week he came round to see me and we shared an amazing night together, we talked about how much we liked each other and both agreed dont want to be with anyone else. He said he has really strong feelings for me and loves spending time with me. I dont normally show my feelings but as he was being so strong with his i told him i felt the same.

The night after I was on a night out with some friends and he came out to meet me. I was really drunk by the time he met me and apparently when he came over to speak to me i ignored him and went to the bar with another guy (this guy is a freind from work who i have no interest in whatsoever) I dont no why i did this because i am not a game player and i do really like my cancer guy.

We had words but then seemed to work things out and i left my friends to spend the rest of the night with him and his friends, after a while the same guy i went to the bar with turned up and kind of started hanging out with us. He went to the bar and bought me and him drinks but didnt ask anyone else. He then told me he really liked me (my cancer boyf wasnt here at the time and does not no about this) I replied by telling him i am not interested in anything more than friendship and that i had really strong feelings for the guy i am seing and would not want to ruin this.

My boyfriend then left when i was in the toilet without telling me he was leaving and when i found out i sent him 4 text and rung him 29 times, he never answered or replied. I then left him another 3 days and text him asking what was going on, i said i really like him and am truly sorry for ignoring him but want to know where i stand, are we seeing each other or not? I said if he doesnt want to see me anymore thats not what i want but its fine but just let me know.

His reply was: can we leave it for a while and see what happens, he doesnt like too much drama, but n

The next day i sent him a text saying i was sorry for actng the way i did last night but i didnt understand why he left and i was sorry for all the calls etc, he replied to me telling me things were fine and we would catch up soon but that he wasnt feeling well today and needed space.

I left it 3 days then text again saying can we forget about the weekend and move on- he ne

Thanks I really dont know what happened! The last I heard from him was 3 days ago. I text him to say i want to know where i stand and I cant apologise anymore and his reply was we should leave it for a while as he cant handle the drama!

It really infuriates me as he's causing the drama by not speaking even though he says he's over what happened. When i replied and said ok Im upset that you feel like this because i really like you but will leave you alone now he said just give me time, we'l catch up soon!!

What does that mean?

Try to imagine how he feels...I mean cancer guy opens up to you about having strong feelings for you...and you tell him you feel the same. He meets up with you, you are intoxicated and you ignore him, and hang with another guy.

I would be confused if I were him...
It sounds as if he's doubting whether you know what you want? I mean it feels like you are a bit over the place to me...and may be he's giving you this space to just make sure you think about it all, properly...

I know its nothing much to go by, but it feels like he's not sure if you are ready to be with him. And in situations like these...he's hurt,yes. But he might also feel like you just don't know what you want.
He won't talk about it - hurt cancer withdraws...

Upto a certain point, the more you try to apologise, the higher the defense walls are getting.

But then again, 3 days is enough.lol call him and ask to meet up with him so you can 'catch up'...
The whole distancing thing? Nah, just doesn't work. Okay, you gave him space, but then you want to talk about what happened and make sure you're on the right page. Call him up and invite him for coffee...then get down to business. Talk about it all. His walls just won't stand a second longer if you don't give him room to do so. But make sure he knows, running after him like that is just not gonna happen again, if he's your boyfriend, n you hurt him, you should talk about it when it happens. It will make life so much more simpler.

Thanks for everyones advice- I am now thinking about trying to contact him one last time, but not sure whether doing this will puch him further away.

I thought of either saying:
1: Missing me yet?
2: What you upto this week, you fancy going for a drink?
3: Hey, hows you? We haven't spoke for a while- just thought id send you a quick text to find out whats happening? If you want to leave it now you could at least let me know, we both seem to be over this whole situation now so we either need to forget about it and meet up or just move on from each other. I'm getting really bored of all this now and I'm sure you are too


Or if anyone else has another suggestion- please help!!!