I am needing some insight on a VIRGO MAN

I met this guy a month ago I was not into him at first i liked his friend. But as the party was going on, once I was observing him I started to like him. And him the same. You can clearly see it and feel it with Virgos! (through their body language, especially in a room with people) He mentions me and him being married , when friends and I were discussing weddings . So, I got his number and messaged him saying thank you for a nice evening etc . His messages were short but he replied.Then nothing , so I needed to make a excuse to meet so I made one , we both knew that it was to meet up and not for "some advice" on an issue we were discussing at the party. Our first night I met his friends who liked me and was giving him compliments about me etc We have similar upbringings. we shared stories about our lives and opened up about deep subjects . He said "You need a big strong man to take you away" I was not happy at home . Then After meeting him on a few dates ,I messed it up by going to his house coked up - even though he takes it , but what I relized was - not to that extreme! I have had an addiction for a while and I am in recovery . When Id meet him we used to take it together. (only twice) So I used to message him nearly night, wanting to meet after my night had finished. He told me "You are clingy thats why I have not been answering." The two times I apologised he always replied straight away "Get well soon." Then I sent another message a week later "I am still in recovery." Basically saying, give me a chance to meet up -(during the day) and see the real me off coke and booze. He replied straight away saying "Yes for sure" "stay safe"My friend said "stay safe" could mean GOODBYE ..... But last time when I left his place he did say "Be safe, don't take any more drugs or alcohol."I know men don't like to read long messages so I sent him some photos of my Family house etc . To show I am having a normal life etc I think... because I shared stories about my life and being on coke it had been ruined too soon. He only replied to one photo of some antique cups I asked cute lol and he replied : "Nice" After the cup photo he didn't reply to any of my family house pics (WhatsApp) so I reminded him that I would be coming to London and asked if he wanted to meet for a coffee this week, if not then some other time.He read it but not one answer . I think him and I bonded well , we have similar backgrounds and we opened up to each other a lot. Is he saying without words - I don't want anything more to do with u ? Answer is probably staring at me in the face but I cannot help going over in my head about it all. I have had a virgo boyfriend in the past and their behaviour . But if he wants nothing to do with me why not just tell me !!

Why doesn't he just say - look I think it's best that we cut our communication ??
Why let it drag on

From dealing with virgo friends, they tend to back off once they see something they don't like in someone but just leave it & if they have processed their thoughts they will come back to you if they want to

@ Op- I hope you a full recovery it is no joke...I have taken care of people partying the night before for their birthdays and end up on my hospital unit on a trach, had a stroke and all kinds of tube placements just to have fun for one day. It was an eye opener to think drugs and partying did this to someone who was working, had a good family, and it was his birthday celebration. I wish you well my dear and hope you continue to be clean...

.. how did you quit? or how did you start?

Coz I messed up with this guy . And another relationship . So I had to stop , it's a shame coz if I was not on drugs I would have a boyfriend .
Somthing happend to me and I was never the same , so I wanted to self destruct .
But now I am trying to get better I have been 5 days clean

Not to mention how much money I have spent

@OP- Yeah it is expensive, and horrible but since I learned at a young age like 18 or so.. I can't even accept a person no more if they do those types of drugs... I have a cigarette addiction that is costly now and I am a coffee drinker too.

I know about peer pressure it is how I thought these were cool people and my friends back then.. My ex bff got hooked on meth and guess what here I go too. Lol..Later in life about 24 -25 years old he got hooked on Vic Odin I didn't even know or how he got that habit. But I picked up on strange behaviors when were living together oh man.. I was like nope..

I watch people come down off of whatever it is here at the hospital...It is no joke and sometimes they scare me..

@OP- To get back to what you want to know about this guy, hmm nah I think you should surround yourself with better people, and meet new people, go do things for yourself, focus on you and your life..

That's true about the guy if he was genuinely into me then he would atleast ask if I was ok .
But then as u said your boyfriend was a drug addict and u had enough .

I had the same issue with another guy who coil not stand it. Atleast he said goodbye and not make me hold on , but this guy isn't doing that maybe he is just waiting for me to get the message of him not replying .

But why say yes for sure we will meet . Then nothing .. I suppose all are different lol

I just feel so angry with myself and embarrassed .
When I sent him photos of my normality he didn't reply so I guess ur right .

Yes about people coming down from drugs that is what made me stop even more , coz my nose was blocked and I couldn't even swallow food etc .

Thanks for this I will continue to get well and if it's meant to be then I suppose he will message . Maybe I got emotionally attached due to us sharing our life story and upbringing etc .

But he was married for 8 years . I asked him what happend he said she could not take my life and career as he was very young and starting out etc .

But I did spend the night with his friend , (before we met) so maybe he found out ??

See what Coke does to people - I never have one night stands but it made me into a completely different person

@OP- That is what friends do for each others and share life stories, but being an asshole, or marker, or disrespecting isn't called for...You have to get your life situated before jumping into anything with anyone...

Oh perhaps that too with his friend, but sometimes when we aren't thinking clearly especially under the influence shit happens.. And later feel remorse, so yeah just befriends, lay low.....