I screwed up with my cancer guy

I'm a sag. And we've been seeing each other for the past 6 months, but nothing was official. We never even made it to the kissing stage. I'm 27, will be 28 this month, and he just turned 26 in July.
He moves incredibly too slow for me. I've waited and waited and still it's almost unbearable. He says he wants a relationship but wants to move slow.
He has an abusive gf prior to me to the point where he has PTSD from her.
I joke around a lot and on Halloween I broke up- we aren't official so I dunno if that's the correct term- because of something I didn't even know I did.
I jokingly asked him and gently touched him on the chest to tell me I looked cute. He didn't say anything.
It hurt my feelings so I said "really? Still nothing?"
Then inside of the party he tells me he he doesn't like to be told what to do and that I did look cute.
I was so hurt by this because it was in a joking manner and yet he made me feel super guilty about it. I spent over 2 hrs getting ready to make sure I looked cute FOR HIM, and that was his response. I wound up leaving the party and texting him later that night how much her hurt my feelings.
He then said that the reason he didn't say anything to me was because I "hit" him. He's super jumpy and hate being hit. However what he classifies as a hit is anything other than a gentle rub of his arm.
Now I'm even more upset because had I known I did that and hurt his feelings, I would have fixed the problem, but instead I blew up on him and returned his stuff without saying a word.
Now I'm heartbroken to the extreme and he's ignoring my messages. I've only sent him 1 message since it happened a few days ago. He's just choosing to ignore it. It says he's online and active but my message hasn't been read.
I don't know what to do. Everywhere says to leave him alone, but I can't do this. I'm a sag, and I miss him so much. We weren't official but now I feel like I've ruined everything because I wanted to feel special and yet I was the root of the issue and the reason why it's over now. It's all my fault and I don't know if he will forgive me.
It's only been 2 days and I'm beyond miserable. Can anyone help? Do you think he will call me in a week or so? Or should I try to make amends with him in a week or two? I'm so heartbroken.

Thank you guys for the responses. He's still ignoring me. I haven't sent any other messages then the one a few days ago that said "if you want to talk, I'm here for you, and if you want your space, I'll respect that too". Still hasn't read it. Even though I sent it 3 days ago, and he's been online all day, every day since.
I admit that why I feel soooooo incredibly guilty is because I KNOW I was the one who screwed up. I just wish he would have said something to me about it instead of hiding it and basically internally using it against me to justify his actions all the while not telling me I upset him in the first place.
I should have talked with him when I gave him his stuff. But I didn't and that right there is the point where I think I could have saved all of this turmoil.
Yes, I did get impatient. I've been waiting with my heart on my sleeve for 6 months and on his words that he wants more with me, and I just got fed up with waiting. I would have turned into complete puddy if on Halloween he said I looked cute and then kissed me.
I would have probably blushed so hard you'd see it from space like a roadside flair going off.
That's all I want. I have Scorpio in half of my chart as I'm a cusp baby and I've fallen hard for him. Even though we never even kissed, I wanted to be his soooo badly. To be his girl. For him to call me his and hug me like he doesn't want to leave...
But my sag side comes out when I don't get what I want, and yes I am the one who screwed up. I regret it sooooooooo much. I just want to explain how he hurt my feelings and I've told him how I feel about him, but not to the extent of what I just posted above. I want him to know I freaking love this kid and yet we're just friends.
My November horoscope says I'll have an amazing day on the 12th, but not the rest of the month. Especially on the 25th... Where it talks about a past lover, friend, person who I will have some difficulty with. I sincerely hope it isn't him, and I hope he contacts me on the 12th or I'm going to be super sad anticipating a horrible birthday if those things are true...

I shouldn't have gotten so bent out of shape by him not telling me I looked cute at first. I shouldn't have asked him to tell me. I should have shown up, and let him tell me on his terms so it was heartfelt from him and not me asking for it....
I know when I read it, it sounds silly, and I shouldn't let him have his way all the time... I've been on his time since we met and look how far that's gotten me. I thought if I asked he would say it back and be enamored with me, but that's not realistic...
So it was my fault from very beginning.
He did say I looked cute but also said he didn't like being told what to do... If I hadn't of asked him, we never would have had an issue...

So as of today, 3 weeks since the incident, he's officially blocked me on Fb. I've only sent him 1 text message 2 days after the event. And tonight I called and left a voicemail.
I apologized for blowing up on him, and I realize I am in love with him and I blew up because I felt being mean to him would make it easier on me to deal with my insecurities about us. How selfish of me. I told him that I had no idea how much I hurt him. I thought he would leave me along for a day or two but never expected he'd ignore me for three weeks and then block me on Fb.

I think it's over. 😢 I'm not going to press anymore about this. I gave him his space, but I pretty sure that backfired on me as it led to him blocking me and not answering his phone.

I'm feeling pretty depressed right now. My birthday is on Tuesday (3 days) and it seems every year my birthday is awful. Im seriously dreading it. 😢

You didn't do anything wrong

If you want an insincere compliment - ask for one. And while doing that, you are also ridding him of the opportunity to take the initiative to do that himself. He might have been struggling to work up the courage to compliment you for months, for all we know.

So I agree with you that doing so was probably not the winning strategy. Being a sag venus, I can see how things like that might happen anyway, though. As the others say: don't be too hard on yourself!

Was he physically abused in his previous relationship? That could explain his extreme reaction to the touch on his chest.

If I were you, I would give him space - if he is still interested, he will contact you in time. Live your life as well as possible in the meantime - don't wait around. And again, it's good to be able to acknowledge if you think you've done something wrong, but you are not better off beating yourself up about it. Imo.

Super good luck! 🙂

I am still confused why you gave him back his stuff.

Isn't that like the universal "I don't want to see you anymore"-treatment?