Leo girl needs help with a Scorpio man

I have read up on scorpio men, but still cannot seem to understand. I have been talking to a scorpio for 1 month 1/2 and have been confused. I guess I can sum it up by saying what's up with the mind games. How do I know if it's just mind games or he is really into me. He comes across as a gentlemen, we only have made out no sex. He is very respectful, but when it comes to hanging out his friends come first. Is this because we are just starting out? I am a Leo woman and love to be in control so this is very frustrating to me. Help!

Single,

How he feels about you will show in his actions and availability mostly. He may not always be with you but if he likes you, he will always be around you, one way are another, somewhere. I'm personally very slow when approaching a relationship, well slow for today's world. I can't say all Scorpios are slow but Scorpios tend to be observant, the more they consider you a potential, the more observant they'll be, because more of them is at stake. One thing for sure, Fire and Water don't operate at the same speed. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, you can both get better from your differences. It's an opportunity for you, to be a bit more patient and him to be more outspoken and precise when communicating. In my opinion it's a challenging combo but Scorpios and Leos have a lot to give to each other. Under proper setting, it can be quite a beautiful thing.

Thanks for your advice. Okay what does this mean. We were supposed to hang out last night and he decided to go out with his buddies. He calls me a 1 in the morning and I did not answer. I sure did want to though.( he is so hot) I did give him a little piece of my mind when he hinted that it was not going to happen,which was kinda a good thing cause he is very straight forward. I was going to text him to ask him how his night was or should I just not make contact. I think he will be at a function this week that I will be attending. Should I just act like I don't care? (that's what he did to me about 3 wks ago when I went out and we were supposed to meet and I did not answer my phone- he text me to see how my night was. Do you think this is a way to get back to me) But, I am not used to this. So how will I know if he really likes me. He does come around when he knows I will be there.

I say be yourself, being true to yourself is never bad. If you're mad at him, let him know and tell him why. So that he knows. You should act according to your nature. Otherwise you're playing a game and games are always temporary gains. Never long term. If you see him as a long term potential, then let him know who you are, so that he knows. Otherwise he'll know you for who you presented yourself to be and act according to the type of person you presented yourself to be and you can't blame someone for not knowing you ... when you never showed your true self to him.

Wow! your great. True. I think I want more out of this than he does. Or thats what he has shown me this far. I'll see where this takes me.

He could be into it, more than you can ever believe, it may just not be apparent on the surface. As a Leo you have the ability to move him in a special way. Your nature is quite different but as said earlier, it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Leos are usually not the best at withholding feelings, there must be something in your chart helping you with that.

Well I did text him and he did not respond. I just hate the mind games, why not just come out and respond or say I am no longer interested. So what your saying is I have to be patient. So as a leo woman I have the ability to move him huh? okay give me some pointers. What should I do different.

Your very nature is a challenge to him. In the sense that it will keep, getting him out his comfort zone. Leos are usually excited on the up, keeping things burning all the time and very consistent in that way. That alone can keep him emotionally on the up towards you. If there is one thing you should do a bit differently, it would be to put less of your mind into it. If he's nice and respectful to you. You don't have to analyze it like that, you'll go crazy. Love is not that logical. Try to get to know him by interacting with him and invite him to get to know you by interacting with you.

LOL! I tend to analyze everything... and of course interpret the worst out of it. And as far as interacting- he kind of shows as if he's scared or something. I want to hang out but the last minute he does not come thru. So is he playing hard to get? I would love to interact with him he can be very funny but that's only around people. I'm telling you he is so hard to read. I don't know if it has to do with him being hurt in the past, but come on I thought he would of by now spent alone time with me.

Haha. I see, I don't know if he's scared or not but he'll move, in his own time. He's going to want to control when things will happen. The more you will try to snatch that from him, the longer it will take to start something with him. He may step back and start the walk towards you, all over again having messed up that process. Don't try to pull him into the relationship, let him walk into it. It will be much easier that way. My ex would always tell me that, I was hard to decipher and I was like you don't have to decipher me. I'm not planning against you, we're just different and have to get to know each other.

I am just going to pull away just like it was in the begining. He seemed to like that. I was quiet and I guess you can say played hard to get. I would just say hi and go about my business. I'll let him figure it out, if it's meant to be. What you wrote above about not planning against you (ex) we just want to figure you guys out, it just makes it so much easier and we would love to know what it is that you guys like. Well as for me I would love to do things that I know he likes. Instead of trying to figure it out. All I know is that his friends mean the world to him. He says that often is he trying to tell me something. He says things that lead me to believe that he does not want to get hurt and has his guard up. I am such a good person that I would treat him good, with in time hopefully he will put his guard down. The only bad trait about me is that I can be extremley jealous (bad,bad,trait I know) I hate that about me but I can just feel the heat in my body when I start to get jealous. When we went out with a group a girl was there (also in our group) that was giving him eye contact and that's when I knew I was starting to like him. He did talk with her but came back to sit with me and we both left together. (okay just had to vent ahhh)

I know I do. I have never met a guy like this. I have been pretty good in understanding them and being in control this one however has me thinking way too much. Have you delt with a scorpio before? If you have then you know the reason why I have posted this 3x until someone finally responded. LOL!

So your a scorpio guy trying to figure out a scorpio female is this right? So you can see where I'm coming from. Maybe she see's you as a player or not serious enough for her. She's actually acting like my guy holding back. So have you talked to her, complimented her or anything. As for myself yeah we made out but it just doesn't seem good enough for me. Can't you tell I have very little patience. So why do you scorpio's like to take it slow if your intentions are not a long term relationship. It's kind of giving the other person hope that there can be more. Does that make sense. I guess his actions tell me different.

So you have only heard that they don't dig compliments. Why don't you try it what do you have to loose? I think ALL woman love to be complimented just don't go over board. It can also be that she has been hurt and thinks that all guys well you know are JERKS! So it's hard for her to take a compliment nicely. I bet that sucks for you because you so bad want to get close to her. I know that feeling. Well look on the bright side at least you get to see her what is it everyday (does she work with you?) I see mine maybe once a week if that, but hearing his voice is just as nice damn he has a lovely voice hmmmm. Okay I'll settle down. LOL!

Okay wait a minute. I am new to all this stuff so please bear with me. What the heck is treetrunk and he doesn't go on the computer to chat. He spends alot of his time working out and hanging out with his buddies. Oh and I know about 1am trust me I wanted to so bad answer my phone but I was upset that he did not want to see me at our original time. We don't talk on the phone for very long, I don't know about you but most guys I met don't like to talk on the phone Why? Its has always been short and sweet. He does compliment me alot but than again he likes for me to do the same. Except he will ask me so do like my clothes or what ever. (that's kinda odd don't you think) I should tell him he should not ask. Tell me what you think about our last conversation last night. Once I knew that he was not going to stick to his plans I text him and said basicly I tired of your games. Not even a minute went by he called me. He did not bring it up I had to and told him that he was full of sh@#. I can be out spoken and now figuring out how a scorpio works I probably should of kept that to myself. But, than again he did call.

Your best friends sister. You do know what that equals right = DISASTER. If he is truly your best friend I doubt it if he would agree to this relationship. Your stuck. I am the same way I obsess over him to for that same reason. What the hell is wrong with us. LOL! Sometimes our feelings get in the way and we don't see nothing around us but that one person. Just like at our group function I was feeling tipsy and I was making some remarks to him not caring who was around, damn have I told you how good he looks. Okay, anyway back to you that's why she's holding back because of her BROTHER! She wants you believe me especially if she is giving you that look.

I think he's mad, he had time to think about what I said. I text him this morning to see how his night was and of course no repsonse. And I only did that because 3 wks ago we were going to meet up I went out with my friends and I did not answer my phone he called me 3x that night. The next morning he text me and asked me how my night was. So I don't know if he was trying to pay me back. Since he acted like he didn't want to meet up I did not answer my phone I did not think he cared. He doesn't like to know all details just short but I did mention I had so much fun! Thanks for the translation, and believe me my hormones are shouting out but I did not want him to feel like he was in control last night. We talk about treetrunking (lol) but when it comes down to it he backs away. He acts as if I'm going to take advantage-well I probably will haha. Why do you think he pulls back?

Good luck in trying to stay away. You will find a reason just to at least see her. You have scorpio friends- well then there you have it ask them for some good advice. They don't have to know who the girl is.

LOL! You do mean with him right? I just go with the flo. I guess I play it too depending if it does not go my way. I never seen it as me playing the games. Go get some motrin we have more to talk about. LOL

That is true. Now I know why he's single. But, damn he's hot. Hey where are you from it shows that we are 2 hours apart in time. My time right now is 4:14pm.

Ok, so what do you suggest that I do?

Your such a guy. Have you not been paying attention to what I have been writing. (that was a joke) Well I have not talked to him since yesterday remember. And no he has not called me today. I will probably see him later this week at another group outing. Should I just act like nothing when I do see him. I know its another mind game but what's a girl to do.

I don't think he really gives a shit. To be honest. He acts like it, he has mentioned a couple of times that he does not want to be in a relationship because he likes to do whatever whenever and does not have to ask for permission. So really I new what I was getting myself into. I just wanted this to be all in fun I did not want my feelings to get in the way. So with that said I cannot call him up and express myself to him. Because I'm in it for the wrong reason. I think I need to pull back before I get hurt.

LOL! Because you asked me if we were in talking terms after I finished explaining my situation to you. Thanks for your advice above that's exactly what I am going to do. I will let you know the out come of the group gathering. If he does not show up then that will clearly let me know where we stand.

Well if it does that is where he stands at this time in his life. I wish I could change that but I can't.