Libra Man and Scorp Woman - Can it Work?

Hey all,

I am new to this site.

I recently met a Libra man who is 30 years old. I am Scorp woman who is 27. Actually, I am on the cusp of Libra and Scorpio. I have read some websites re:Libra men and the compatiblilty between a Libra man and Scorp woman...but I wanted to know if anyone has any personal experience or further insight on if this is a compatible match and/or what's the deal with Libra men. So far, he has been extremely intriguing and we have had great conmversations. However, it apears as though we both have really strong personalities....could be problematic in the future? Also, I read on one website that they are wonderful companions who are very loyal and on another site that they are always looking for something better which oftens leads them to infedility. I am somewhat confused. Granted, I realize that non of this is gospel and everyone is different - other factors such as enviornment, family life, etc play a contributing role in a person's behavior in a relationship. I just wanted to get some input on the astrological side of things from you all.

Any input and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

Sorry for the typos. I guess that's what happens, when you do not proof read before you post.

Well it's true that generally Scorpios & Libras are compatible & here's why. They both have a deep craving for intellectual stimulation. Libras know how to hold conversations & how to keep their awaiting & needy & picky Scorpions satisfied in the conversation department. They both only attach to partners who fulfil their need to have a partner who stimulates them intellectually. So as far as communication, Libra & Scorpio will both love this similarity about eachother. Libra loves love & just wants to be loved & remain in love, in which often times they'll do anything to remain in the "in the relationship status." And to a Scorpion, this translates into their Libran being a "ride or die" for them, which of course allows them to attach even more to their Libran. Scorpios & Libras both have a deep passion for love, the kind that's REAL & they will both fulfill eachother in this department. B/c they naturally have the same theory & policies about love, they will naturally fulfill eachother in ways that others can't.

Scorpio will love their Libra's ability to be submissive to them, but then again not so submissive that the relationship no longer is a challenge. Libra doesn't mind chasing & charming their way into the difficult Scorpio & Scorpio will appreciate this & will be glad that they don't have to change or "train" their Libra on how to keep them. Libra will also understand a Scorpion's need for intense & sensual sexual activity b/c they both come from the same side of the tracks. They both put a lot of passion into what they do & who they love & b/c they have this in common, it's only natural that they are great for eachother.

BUT...On the other hand...You know I've got to give the BADs...

Libra will have an intense need for their Scorpio to tell them everything & to confide 100% in them & they will eventually become disappointed by how much the Scorpion strives for 100% honesty & secrets being told, without necessarily giving the same back in return. Libra will not be able to handle very easily an angered Scorpio who feels he's been betrayed. Libra will not understand the aggressiveness Scorpios release whenever they feel they've been lied to, betrayed or taken advantage of. Libra's soft nature will always want to handle things with peace & harmony & won't always be able to tame a Scorpion's wrath when it's started. So in other words, when things are going good, things are GREAT. But when the tough times come, things are horrible!

While a Scorpio will admire (in the beginning) their Libra's ability to cling on to them without any shame, a Scorpion will eventually start to wonder if the Libra is clinging on to them particularly b/c they are special or b/c their Libra holds on to anyone who will let them. Libra will give so much into the relationship & when a Scorpion's "too good to be true" side comes out, Libra will not understand why their Scorpion is all of the sudden doubting them. Libra will often times feel themselves working in overdrive to keep their Scorpion convinced that their love for the person is REAL, versus it just being about their love for love itself. Scorpions generally are never satisfied b/c they're so used to engaging in relationships where they're misunderstood. And the minute Libra sees this, they'll automatically assume that they're doing everything wrong. When things are tough, Libra will take themselves on an emotional rollercoaster with Scorpio

krysrenee7,

Thank you so much! This was extremely insightful. Wow! I can feel the chemistry between him and i in a major way.

There is another catch to me and Mr. Libra...we were somewhat set up via facebook through a highschool friend. So, we have not seen each other in person yet. We have seen pictures of one another..but no face to face. We have a date planned for this weekend. Based on previous conversations, I can tell that he is somewhat picky and I and becoming increasingly more and more nervous about our date. First, I am nervous about the physical level of attraction....on both ends. I have a feeling that I will be attracted to him. However, he is a fitness buff and although I am not fat be any means I have a few extra pounds that I a currently trying to get off. I had been working on getting in better shape for summer before meeting him. He knows that I work out reguarly and that I am currently trying to lose weight. But I am still nwervous. You know us Scorps hate regjection. I have not been rejected much and men seem to find me attractive, but on the couple of occasions that it has happened, it has stung and left me feeling a combination of bitter and depressed. Not only do I not want to experience this, I obviously want for him to think that I am smoking HOT! Lol. So, I am nervous about this weekend's blind date.... I go back and forth between feeling as though I will appear sexy and attractive to him vs. him thinknig that I am attractive but those extra pounds might stand out. It may be all in my head. In other words, because it is such a big deal to ME and I am self concious about my fitness level, i might be tranfering that onto what I anticipate his thoughts MIGHT be about me. I guess blind dates are always nerve racking. Especially, when you really like the person and you have a big ego. Lol. Arrgghhh!!!

Oh honey stop worrying! If the pictures of you on facebook are good indicators of what you REALLY look like then trust me, he's already seen those pictures & has already made the decision to consider you attractive to the point of wanting to go out on a date with you. Unless you've hidden most of your body in your pictures then you don't have anything to worry about. It's not about how much you weigh. It's about how you ROCK your curves & body with confidence! It sounds corny but it's true. And hey, the reason you are slightly insecure about how he'll consider you in the looks department is b/c Scorpio is very inticed by physical appearance..the outer being & body in general. Sexual attraction happens first through basic physical attraction & you assume that since you are very picky & peculiar about who you're technically attracted to, that he thinks the exact same way.

And with him being a libra, trust me physical attraction is important too BUT it's not the most important thing. Let's say he meets you & doesn't necessarily like your body. Well the good thing is that alot of Libras are willing to let physical flaws slide IF that person has other gifts that make up for it. So, for example, if your conversations are explosive & if this Libra has already attached to the connection you two have, then the chances of him just up & never talking to you again (b/c of him not being phsyically attracted to you) are slim to none. But the key is, there has to be a strong attraction in ANOTHER area that will make up/cover up his lack of attractive for you in the phsyical department. And based on what you said, it seems you guys have that mental/intellectual attraction & understanding going on. Don't even be worried. If it's meant to be, he'll not only like your body, but he'll LOVE your body! Besides, any man that's counting the extra pounds like you (your worst critic) isn't the right man for you anyways. Only YOU should be counting the pounds, not him. If he's shallow, your weight might bother him. If he's looking for the real deal, he'll let it slide! So either way, it's a WIN-WIN.

We went on our date on Saturday. We had fun. A few awkard moments, but over all I enjoyed myself. He expressed that he was attracted to me. He wanted to see me yesterday as well, but things did not work out - timing and so forth. The funny thing is that I do not know if I am really attracted to HIM. Lol. He is a good looking man but I am not sure if I am really attracted to him. I will continue to date him for a bit and see where this goes....

Again,thanks so much for the supprt!

Oh Lord, what happend? See, you were so worried about how he was going to feel about you, that you forgot that this guy hadn't necessarily proved yet that he was heaven on earth. If he's good looking to you then there must be something else that you sensed that you didn't like? What happend?!?

Ummm...nothing specifically bad happened. He is just a little overly confident (arrogant). He is attractive. However, he does have certain physical features that I do not care for. With that being said, I feel that he really does not have what it takes to be as arrogant as he is. Lol. BUT I can tell that he really likes me and is trying his best to make it work. Maybe I am being too picky?

I am an African American female who is 27 and I would like to start a family within the next few years. I read an article about how hard it is for an educated Black woman to find a Black man, b/c the numbers between productive Black men and productive Black women appear to be so disproportionate. The article stated that Black women need to not be OVERLY picky. If a man possesses qualities that prove themselves to be "deal breakers", then move on. However, if the man possesses qualities that can be dealt with then try it out and see what happens. Therefore, now I am questioning myself about if I am being OVERLY meticulous and if the issues that I have are "deal breakers". I suppose only time will tell. 🙂

What are your thoughts? Again, thank you so much!!

Air and Water don't mix. It can be for the short term. They're better off as friends.

My mother and step dad have been together for nearly 30 years....not an easy combination. I find my mother to be totally self fish and feel for my step dad most of the time. He very rarely stands up to her and when he does she turns on the false tears...*shakes head*

As long as you are both prepared to meet each other in the middle when it counts, I think anyone can make a go of it but when one makes all the rules 90 percent of the time...what a miserable life!

i've known couples with this match. i've watched the break up process of couples with this match, and it's pretty depressing to watch.

libra man needs a lot of attention and praise. he'll flirt. he might even have an affair. scorpio will find out and slowly destroy him by making him think everything is okay, then getting back at him with a flirtation or affair of her own. what he did upset her on principle. what she does will actually break his heart.

and that's if you can get a libra guy to commit in the first place. libras in general love relationships, but we expect more than we have a right to expect. we want to be worshipped and given freedom to do whatever we want. and if we aren't totally into someone, well, as a scorpio, you shouldn't waste your time on a libra who isn't totally into you. we're also very shallow, and we won't want you if you aren't our idea of perfect. i read a thread of yours about trying to lose weight...most libra men like slim figures on women. either the slim but curvy type or the so straight up and down, you wonder if he's really straight.

if you aren't 100% into this guy, don't even bother.

if you're looking to start a family, find someone for whom that is also a priority. if you want good conversations, that's what friends are for. and if it's not a priority to find a black guy, date a white guy. it's hard to find a black man who'll treat a black woman well (sorry if that's racist of me, but it's true.) and i've known several white guys who only like black women and have treated the girls they were with like absolute queens.

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i've known couples with this match. i've watched the break up process of couples with this match, and it's pretty depressing to watch.

libra man needs a lot of attention and praise. he'll flirt. he might even have an affair. scorpio will find out and slowly destroy him by making him think everything is okay, then getting back at him with a flirtation or affair of her own. what he did upset her on principle. what she does will actually break his heart.

and that's if you can get a libra guy to commit in the first place. libras in general love relationships, but we expect more than we have a right to expect. we want to be worshipped and given freedom to do whatever we want. and if we aren't totally into someone, well, as a scorpio, you shouldn't waste your time on a libra who isn't totally into you. we're also very shallow, and we won't want you if you aren't our idea of perfect. i read a thread of yours about trying to lose weight...most libra men like slim figures on women. either the slim but curvy type or the so straight up and down, you wonder if he's really straight.

if you aren't 100% into this guy, don't even bother.

if you're looking to start a family, find someone for whom that is also a priority. if you want good conversations, that's what friends are for. and if it's not a priority to find a black guy, date a white guy. it's hard to find a black man who'll treat a black woman well (sorry if that's racist of me, but it's true.) and i've known several white guys who only like black women and have treated the girls they were with like absolute queens.

It is not hard to find a black man who will treat a black woman well. There are some good stand-up black men out there who know how to handle their business and handle it well! I see so many black men designated to the friends category because he is "too/so nice" and "so easy to talk to" and "is just like a brother to me" and other foolishness.

Don't buy into the hype that most black males are homos/on the DL, married/taken, crackheads, dope boys, in prison, pimps, dogs, thugs, or whatever other fill-in-the-blank BS people come up with.

Black women must FIRST AND FOREMOST know her worth, what she wants/has to bring to the table, and how to maintain it. Work on the self-esteem issues that plague women and establish healthy boundaries and build realistic expectations. Have s

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omething to bring to the table - you want a top notch man but you are raggedy, drama-filled, and have nothing to offer him but some coochie and a headache?

Believe in the abundance and everything will fall into place.

Some women wouldn't know a good man if he....you know the rest.

Peace.