LIBRA'S NEED AN ANSWER VERY CURIOUS.....

I am very curious about something, and I figured you guys can help me, being a Libra, and all.
My friend I am talking to remember the Libra/?? We have got into a couple debates about certain things he calls it fighting or arguing I call it discussion. One night we were out somewhere and I was hanging out with my cousins he found me and said he just wanted to let me know some girl was really smashed and kept flirting with him. I was like cool; I don't really get real upset about things like that. Later on that night I was dancing with some friends and I seen him at the bar and the girl was all over him, he was kind of backing off at the same time I could see him looking around the room for me. He did not see me watching him. I acted like nothing because I didn't feel it was a big deal, I have to admit I was a little upset. Later on that night I said something jokingly about it and is phone rang and I said O it is probably that girl; mind you I was being sarcastic joking around. Well he got very upset and starting showing me the phone number, I was still joking around saying Ya, Ya, save it. Well he got so mad he socked the wall. I was very shocked he got that upset, I was joking I explained and he said he hates being accused of things that he takes that stuff very seriously. I was like OK then. Now my question is in my experience when someone gets so offensive it is usually because they are guilty. Is this just his personality, or is it something more—

I'm not a full-on Libra, I'm a Scorpio but with five planets (or something like that) in the sign, maybe I can offer an opinion.

First of all, wtf with the socking the wall over something so little? That really sounds kind of psychotic. I would get far away from this guy; that kind of behavior is at the very least weird and immature...but more than that, how do you know he's not going to sock you next time if there aren't any walls around? It's beyond defensive, it is bizarre.

He sounds like maybe he likes drama: for example, why did he feel the need to tell you that some girl flirted with him? How does that help the relationship at all, or make you feel good or secure? It doesn't. Maybe he told you that to instigate some drama, hoping you'd have a reaction. Finally, you did, so he had a dramatic reaction to your reaction.

I wouldn't worry about if he's guilty or not, I don't think that's really the issue. I would worry about someone who reacts like that to something incredibly small. What happens when you have a real fight?

A male Cancer friend of mine said something once to me that I'd never considered before, and it made perfect sense (and I've kind of measured how other males are in relation to him on this issue, too)...he said, "I don't really like talking to girls about other girls. I think it's rude." And this is just a *friend* of mine! I think that's a very nice and respectful way for a man to think. As opposed to telling you every time another female comes on to him. (Why bother telling you that even, if nothing came of it?)

Final thoughts:

I think one of the most important things is to be able to feel safe and secure with the one you're dating/love/whatever. I would feel fearful around this guy, rather than safe. And for me, that would be a deal-breaker.

yes fire and ice, libras dont like to debate or have passionate dicussions. i had a lot of problems in my relationship with one. forget the deep conversation, its too much for them. they just want to skim the surface in my opinion.
sounds like he was trying to make u jealous at the bar, mine did that too. being a water sign it is not wise to make us jealous on purpose.

I have to agree on that. I can't even describe how I become a totally different person when I've been made jealous. And I don't like the dark place that I go to...figuratively speaking.

Cj7, TW2 here, just wanted to say that I am a full on Libra and I am sorry about your experience with your Libra. I hope you will not think all Libras are the same. Their are many other factors that can make people of the same sign quite different. Libra and Cancer are not the best match for each other as it is, so there are bound to be complications. I find this true with my Cancer and myslef sometimes. I just wanted to tell you that ok.

I have to agree with you Phoenix Rising. I would be fearful around this guy also. It took my first husband a year before he finally hit me. There are always warning signs a person will display when they are capable of harming someone. And this guy is displaying them, my years in phychology tell me that. Fire and Ice please be wary and careful. He is still showing you his good side if you know what I mean. It only will get more intense from here. TW2

Tw2 did you read my Cancer Post—?

Oh how is your Mom & your Dad— Must be hard.

Yes sweet candle girl, I did read it. And I posted back to you on the cancer board. My mom is about the same, she gets a little better but then slips back again. I have taken the weekend off, as I needed a break emotionally. When you read my post you will understand why. Your right a person just cant give up. You are a bright spot in my day always remember that. TW2