Oh..what am I going to do with this Aries

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LibraJackson
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8 Years

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Well I posted on this awhile back about this Aries man. Long story short, He's moving away to another country in September for a year and I knew this from the start so we knew it wasn't going anywhere serious.

We ended up dating for 4 months and we really liked each other. Things were getting serious like a relationship. I think he freaked out. He ended it as his reasons were that there was no spark and that he wasn't ready for anything serious. I understand where he was coming from so I left it as that, but I knew the spark was never gone.

2 months later, we both started talking again. I asked him why now. He said he missed me and that he was wrong about the whole thing but he's still moving away so there's no point making this serious. I was happy enough for him to admit that he cared and that he missed me.

I'm not pushed for a relationship. We both said if he wasn't moving, this would be something. Anyhow in that 2 months period we weren't talking. I moved on but I never stopped thinking about him.

So when we met in person after not seeing each other for awhile.. well you know what happened there.

Long story short again. We are back texting and spending time with each other until he goes.

He told me that he never moved on and I believe him because he's so honest and up front and fair with everything. The past few weeks have been amazing. I really do love him as a person and I want us to stay in touch.

I guess what I'm asking from you guys is that. How to keep this going in the nicest way without forcing him or me to commit. I know he's moving away but I don't want to be someone that he used to know in the future. I still very much like to have him my life even if we talked just once a month.

The time I spent with have been amazing and he's truly the closest thing to Love.

I don't want to say I love him in that sense but I do love him as person.

I don't know what to say.
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PurplePeopleEater
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You asking us how to stay in contact with someone you want as a friend.

You basically answered your own question :-)

"I guess what I'm asking from you guys is that. How to keep this going in the nicest way without forcing him or me to commit. I know he's moving away but I don't want to be someone that he used to know in the future. I still very much like to have him my life even if we talked just once a month. "

What do you do with all your other friends? Text.... Call.... check in?

You cant force an Aries to do anything they don't want to. So if you send a friendly text once in a while he will either want to reply or not :-) If he replies I am guessing you on your way to a friendship.

I personally think you over thinking this WAY too much.
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bricklemark
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Aries are in a fantasy world, life is an adventue, a quest, they're mental! Just give him space whenever he needs it, be ready to let him go at any moment, and he'll be yours forever. Every now and then contact him to see how it's goin and bam ! Another period of romance. Then his crazy brain will convince him a quest awaits him, and he's off again, and so on....
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LibraJackson
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Posted by bricklemark
Aries are in a fantasy world, life is an adventue, a quest, they're mental! Just give him space whenever he needs it, be ready to let him go at any moment, and he'll be yours forever. Every now and then contact him to see how it's goin and bam ! Another period of romance. Then his crazy brain will convince him a quest awaits him, and he's off again, and so on....
It's hard to love them but I totally get what you're saying. Thank you.
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LibraJackson
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8 Years

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
You asking us how to stay in contact with someone you want as a friend.

You basically answered your own question :-)

"I guess what I'm asking from you guys is that. How to keep this going in the nicest way without forcing him or me to commit. I know he's moving away but I don't want to be someone that he used to know in the future. I still very much like to have him my life even if we talked just once a month. "

What do you do with all your other friends? Text.... Call.... check in?

You cant force an Aries to do anything they don't want to. So if you send a friendly text once in a while he will either want to reply or not :-) If he replies I am guessing you on your way to a friendship.

I personally think you over thinking this WAY too much.
I agree with you that, I need to take a chill pill for sure.