Posted by Sheever
Maybe he just got trouble with keeping dates in mind, and wasn't deliberate. He feels guilty and care about you hence trying. Trust me, if he doesn't care he don't try at all.
I am pretty sure he doesn't care about his own birthday either. Maybe just because I don't?
Sometimes i forget birthday 3times on the actual day while busy with something not because it's not important but it was in that moment needed to be sorted so the priority was responsibility over duties.


He doesn't care about his birthday at all. It's all sorted now, but I need to tell him how I feel from now on. He's so straight forward and blunt and I'm just not ha
Posted by Rozaeon
I don't mean to be rude but you're starting to get really annoying with this story
Grow up and take some time to think instead of panicking and posting here everytime something is bothering you


This is why of dealing with things. You are not being, you are entitled to your own opinions.
Like I'm entitled to vent here, I obviously like this site and I love getting feedbacks because I'm an overthinking for sure. I know I can be annoying, If it annoys you personally you don't need to read it just ignore it.

Posted by tctap
stop trying to figure out what to say - you owe it to yourself and him to tell him how you feel and that is that - put it out there because that is what it is - with no expectations of getting anything back

nothing he says will change how you feel so just put it out there - tell him everything and get it off your chest

put the egg in his basket

that will give him the opportunity to express himself - it doesn't sound like you have any idea how he really feels but I suspect he feels the same way although things have changed a bit - you don't talk to someone every day and have a good thing - that sort of thing doesn't happen often so hold on to what you can if you can

work it out Libra - you know the way - but you will need to be open and vulnerable and take tiny steps in the right direction and stop trying to hide to so call save him - he needs to "feel" as well

and you need to know where he stands

deep breaths and god speed





Yeah I'm going to talk to him. You're right. I'm just so afraid of getting hurt and now I'm hurting both of us. I'll definitely try to talk to him later about it.

So I think I messed this up. I'm such an overthinker, It pisses me sometimes.
Two days ago was my birthday, my Aries forgot about it and just didn't make much effort at all. He said sorry few times and I'm willing to get over it.

But it made my blood boils, I was so upset. He's in NY and he moved there last month. He's been texting me every day. We've been seeing each other before he moved away for almost a year. I'm going to visit him in December.

Anyway. He brings the best out of me. When I'm around him I want to be a better person. I know this sounds so cheesy but it's true. He's blunt and honest and I don't speak what's on my mind a lot. That's why I'm writing it down here lol

I got so mad and I told him I was mad and now he's mad because I said he never cared. Technically speaking we haven't labelled ourselves. Oh boy...like he's soooo mad that I kept it this long to tell him that when he first ended things in May it made me insecure about how he truly feels about me.

I don't know what to do. I just told him that things were so good. I didn't feel the need for him to reassure my feelings and a big ALSO. He was going away, I wanted to be there for him and be supportive not pouring my heart out and tell him I love him and that would just make things harder as well.

He's so mad that he said he'll talk to me tomorrow. So butter !! what am I going to say ???

Posted by Gemitati
Why to be paranoid if he is basically like a husband on the business trip...telling you all he does, pictures and stuff...
Even some husbands don't do that!


He's not my boyfriend. It's a bit grey between us but I am overthinking this hhaha
Posted by IamTheRam
It seems that this went as i expected...and that's a good thing

But tbh with you...lol..i don't really understand your *paranoia* about him not being *interested in you somehow* lol

Well i do fully understand your position and the situation...this will be a very hard thing for you if you want to follow it through...and it's not easy at all to be in your position...but it's alo what @LibraLovesHim said..."how old are both of you ?"

Because the thing with LDR is that it requires alot of maturity from both in order not to fall into Paranoia...

But let's get back to him and the not interested thing hehe ^^

Why is that you think that ?...

Wold you rather prefer having him reduce the number of messages, but instead say "I love you and i miss you so much ?"...lol....you know what i wold say to that ?...total bullbutter....lies...it's all about actions

If he increased the number of things he is *doing for you*...it's because he is thinking more about you....if he is thinking about you...it's because he either likes you or he hates you...but you are not indiferent...and on your specific case...he obviously Likes you ofc ^^

Let me give you an example on how i see all of this *things* about people expecting *big words* from other people ^^

Let's say you were with 4 guys in the last 10 years....to all of them you said "I Love you"...to 3 of them you even wrote poems and stuff like that ^^

And now imagine i was the 5th...and you wold also say that you loved *me* and also wrote the poems...lol...tell me...what makes me diferent from the others ?... after all, you did to them the same things you are *doing* to *me*...Why are you not with them if you Loved *them so much* ?..( i know life is complicated lol this is just an example)...Did you really Loved them at the end of the day ?...If so how come you already forgoten them and why ?...Why are you doing to me the same things you did to them?...Am i even Unique to you ?....etc, etc...

So...here is the most important question.....What the treetrunk is Love after all ?... ^^

Love lies on the perception of the individual itself....so expectations is the *real killer* sometimes...and since we are talking about Aries here.....Love is something Extremly Unique and diferent from everything else...Love does not follow Logic or Patterns...Love is the most illogical thing that us humans *have*...a good way to see if you are in Love is...if nothing makes sense at all haha xD (don't take this literally ofc hehe)

Look at his actions...he really likes you...don't push him with the *big words* and expressions thing lool...this things comes with time...try to chill...and hey, if you want to send him a message...just do it,..but understand that in your current situation he might not reply imediatly...it might take time because he is on a new place doing new things...but it doesn't mean at all that he doesn't like you...that is something that for sure it doesn't mean ^^

Take care and again....chill ! lol


Ohh how I miss your advice hahahaha if you were living near me I would buy your a beer !
Yeah I'm going to go witht the flow. I have been thinking that too like I know he cares because he's never the type to say much but he doesn't alot and his actions are obvious.
But as usual I get into this womenly bubble mode haha because I like him so much.

Thanks again and hey if you and @LibraLovesHim ever in Dublin, I'll be your tour guide !!

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Posted by LibraJackson
Heyy so for all of you who have been following my stories, Thank you!
Your feedback has helped me genuinely.

Long Story short, My Aries man is now living in NY. He messages me every day and it's mostly him telling me how he's settling in and what he's up to. I'm also visiting him in December for a week. So it's lovely really that he's keeping in touch more than I expected because we were going out, we were just dating for almost a year knowing he would move away so we both didn't commit.

I packed his bags and helped him look for a place to rent in NY when I'm living in Ireland. He's been so lovely and thankful for all I've done. BUT This is how I feel. I tell him I miss him. he said he missed me too.
he's texting me more than normal. He's sending me pictures and he's getting excited about me coming to visit him.

I love him, I really do but sometimes I feel like he's not interested somehow. I'm always paranoid that I'm bothering him and letting him live in the new city. Also if he likes me that much, why is it so hard for him to say I miss you too first sometimes or just end it altogether if he's not interested.

Or maybe I'm just moody and confused. What do you think?


The last part maybe correct lol, I have these too. But I would also find it a little difficult living "in limbo" I am very black and white, and this for me would be living in the grey area-but this is a recent thing for me since i reached 30's. How old are you both? Are you working/studying etc? Keep on with your life doing with your own thing and try not to focus on him too much-I know easier said than done...
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We are both in mid 20's yeah you're right. I feel like I need to let him go in away and do my own thing too. If it meant to be, he'll make it not so grey and white haha

I hope your trip in New work with the family went well, fill me in the news ?

I know it's easier to say what needs to be done.
You love him then you should tell him. It will help both of you.
He will think you're acting negatively when you actually need him the most.
Hi guys & girls
what was wrong with the website for almost 2 weeks ?
Heyy so for all of you who have been following my stories, Thank you!
Your feedback has helped me genuinely.

Long Story short, My Aries man is now living in NY. He messages me every day and it's mostly him telling me how he's settling in and what he's up to. I'm also visiting him in December for a week. So it's lovely really that he's keeping in touch more than I expected because we were going out, we were just dating for almost a year knowing he would move away so we both didn't commit.

I packed his bags and helped him look for a place to rent in NY when I'm living in Ireland. He's been so lovely and thankful for all I've done. BUT This is how I feel. I tell him I miss him. he said he missed me too.
he's texting me more than normal. He's sending me pictures and he's getting excited about me coming to visit him.

I love him, I really do but sometimes I feel like he's not interested somehow. I'm always paranoid that I'm bothering him and letting him live in the new city. Also if he likes me that much, why is it so hard for him to say I miss you too first sometimes or just end it altogether if he's not interested.

Or maybe I'm just moody and confused. What do you think?
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Posted by LibraJackson
Libra is probably the most romantic sign.
However are we faithful?
I never once committed and be loyal to one person before. Saying that of finding the one and I thought I had in the past. But there's always someone or something new distracting me.
Genuinely would give my all to someone when I care, I'm just a firm believer that you can look what's on the menu but not having feelings for it.

Tell me about your most faithful relationships.


I always thought this could be the case. I am loyal/faithful but I cheat on them with life. I was VERY flighty when I was younger and the next big adventure could take me away from any man. Now that I am older, more calm and settled its about wanting someone with me in the game now! Plus I am more focused than ever on nurturing a relationship. Which I never did think would happen.

I used to always question why do I get bored with everyone/everything?!?
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I'm glad to hear that it settles over time but yeah I wish mine can be your case too
Libra is probably the most romantic sign.
However are we faithful?
I never once committed and be loyal to one person before. Saying that of finding the one and I thought I had in the past. But there's always someone or something new distracting me.
Genuinely would give my all to someone when I care, I'm just a firm believer that you can look what's on the menu but not having feelings for it.

Tell me about your most faithful relationships.
For some of you who've followed my posts. Thank you!

He's jetting off in few days. Friday is supposed to be our last night together and now he has invited me to his parent's place on Monday night which is the night before he flys.

I've requested to be off work to drop him off at the airport as he requested plus I want to say a proper goodbye.

He's already planning my trip in December when I'm visiting him for a week.

So I've been thinking about saying I love you to him for awhile but some of you gave me really good feedback when I asked about this a month ago. I'm going to wait. Our actions have been speaking louder than words. I'm just going to tell him how I feel without saying I love you and wish him the best of luck with his new adventures.

Is it possible that he loves me too? I know it such a naive question. I'm a Libra and I'm an overthinker especially when I care about someone and I swear I care about him so much that I can see myself marrying the guy. Believe me, I haven't felt like this in a long time.

I weirdly don't want him to think that he can't-do anything while he's over there. I want him to experience his life and I would actually encourage him to do crazy things.

I just hope in a year's time we can pick up where we left off.

Anyway, All Aries out there. What do you think?


I'm delighted for you. Sounds so sweet, happy shopping!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
I love it! Talkin bout cheesy, I got my Aries (cheese & wine fan) a cheeseboard with engraved cheese cutter as a souvenir hehehe! It read "I only wanna brie with you" LOOOL!


Ohh that's soo sweet honestly
Thanks guys, yeah he cracked his watch last week and he's been talking to me about watches so I've been thinking about it for awhile.

the only think I'm worried about is that I'm technically speaking I'm not his girlfriend. He did say it before if he wasn't going away I might as well be one like I know what he's saying and I'm cool with that.

I just don't want him to freak out but at the same time. I don't care like I love him and support his adventures so I might as well.
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Posted by LibraJackson
Right !
Some of you are sick of these stories now and I don't blame you.
Anyways he's off soon. I'm going to drop him to the Airport myself as well.

I got him engrave watch saying 'Go explore, love J x' what do you think ?

It is too cheesy ? I fully believe and support him on his adventures so I hope he likes it.


Aw I think it's sweet. ?

But I'm a libra. I'm cheesy like that.
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we are so cheesy, aren't we ? I can't stop myself sometimes
Right !
Some of you are sick of these stories now and I don't blame you.
Anyways he's off soon. I'm going to drop him to the Airport myself as well.

I got him engrave watch saying 'Go explore, love J x' what do you think ?

It is too cheesy ? I fully believe and support him on his adventures so I hope he likes it.
Okay I over reacted majorly. I'm a big idiot. I'm glad most of you pointed this out.
This is the same boss who gave him really good references for NY. So now I had time to think about it, I'm really glad I didn't over react to him.

I guess I was so over heated when I wrote the post because I know time is running out. He's doing his best to please everyone like some of you said.

I'm not a hot and heated type more so over thinking type and I'm glad I posted this because I would regret making things bad.

Yes I'm fully aware he's going to be having a life in NY. I want him to treetrunk around do whatever ! not because I don't care. but If I was 23 living in NY I would the same. Saying that I don't need to know. I won't be here waiting in my room crying either. Sure I'll be so sad but we are not in a relationship. I still have yet to say I love you because some of you gave me really good advice in my previous posts.
When the time is right, he'll say it and he may not but I'm going to continue being me and care about him.

We both know if he's not going, we would be together. I just hope that in time when we can, we would have the chance to explore that. If not, this year has been the best one yet for me because of him.

I don't know how to say this properly. I love him and I want him to explore and make friends and do whatever he wants in his adventures. I'll be there for him throughout of it all, I don't expect everyday messages but more so once in awhile he'll keep me posted. which he already suggested before I brought it up. He already made a list of what he wants to do with me in December so he'll wait until I get there.

I know he cares, at times It's hard for me to be a bigger person and not showers him with all my emotions too. It's hard being a bigger person, I love being supportive and I want the best for him. I want him to be happy with or with out me again I am annoying when I overthinkg. That's why I have you guys, I really do values your views. all of it.
Posted by pisceswoman123
Don't make any rush decisions.
He didn't cancel... he is just meeting his boss before you go out together? That is nothing to break up!

Just relax... I know is not easy...
I think you are just scared that he is leaving in two weeks and he doesn't want to spend every moment with you. No fun... but if you push him you may loose him. So just relax and enjoy every moment you have with him.


Thank you.I wrote that angry now I can see that I'm an idiot so I'll learn from it. Thanks everyone